I started seeing this guy that lives in my neighborhood. He had seperated from his x wife for about 3 mnths so I felt it was safe to at least go out. He ended up going back out with her.He still lives here in the apt complex. He told me he was confused and that he felt guilty. I told him off because he hurt my feelings and he made all these promises that he didn't keep.So be it. I have learned my lesson. He told me to never call him again. I dont. I stopped! I refuse to beg someone or look stupid. I have to drive by his flat on the way out. His door is visible clearly from the road in front. When I am driving around the curve to leave his door is actually facing me. He has a mini camera set up on his door to see whos coming up. I drove by the other day going out & he stepped out of his door and then went back in real quick & shut the door. How dumb. I havent spoke to him in 2wks what is he doing? If I was stalking him or still calling I would get it but what is he trying to prove?
2006-09-29 03:47:42 · 22 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men handle breakups different from women, for the most part. It seems that it is harder for them to break the ties (with the prior wife) because men seldom fully give their heart. We females seem more able to "bounce back".
He's still committed to his ex, even if it is only in his mind. You are out of the picture, just a distraction for a short time for him to reconfirm in his mind that his heart still yearned for his ex.
Then he seems to show some degree of paranoia. It might be because he had noticed in passing your casual passing by. He may feel that you are stalking him, and yet you are seeing your 'visits' as just showing your concern & confusion as to his silence. He is probably hedging his bet to further distance you by contacting you sometime soon to let you know that you keep coming around when he asked you not, and "here is the proof", and may bring the police into it.
Just back off. I went through a similar situation. My exboyfriend was still committed to his former wife and taking care of her long distance, but dating me. THen she passed away, and he totally pushed me aside in his grief and depression. I would drop by his house or by his Church to make sure he was still functioning ok, but did not approach him in person. We gave it one more go, but it just was not meant to be, and he began dating others and I had to let go. It was the hardest thing I ever did and I still miss him. Haven't seen him in person since January 2005.
What is that poem?
If you love something
Set it Free
If it comes back to you
It is yours
If it doesn't
It never was
My best to you. Let the man go.
2006-09-29 03:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We won't talk about the mistake you made getting involve with a married man and 3 month separated is still a married man, you were never safe in that relationship, and who care what he is doing, just continue to go on with your like and don't pay attention to what he is doing when you pass his house for someone who is not still interested in him you are paying a lot of attention to him. if your driving how can you tell if he is coming out of his house and then going back in real fast and shutting the door, your looking for him to come out and do these things, it's OK it normal, because you are still hurt, but just move on and ignore the fool.
2006-09-29 03:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Proverbs 31 women 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is still in love with his x wife and he is not over this divorce yet. I guess he just wants to be alone right now. That he had made promises and did not keep them is not good. But forgive him for this. He is just not ready now for a new relationship. Give him time. Right him a nice letter, explain to him how u feel, but also write that u understand his situation. Tell him that u always there for him if he has problems and needs somebody to talk. Maybe this will open his eyes.
2006-09-29 04:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by Carmen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he just feels stupid and possibly very very guilty for starting something with you before his marriage was actually over. Alot of people dont like to face their mistakes or have any sort of confrontation with others so I think he is just trying his best to avoid you at all costs and Im sure he probablly hasnt told his wife that he was seeing you while they were split up. Forget the loser completely and find a man who will loveu- respect you- and be your soul mate! Good luck to u
2006-09-29 04:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 02:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was a really long boring story and I'm not sure what the question is. Do you really need 10 people to tell you to ignore the guy?
2006-09-29 04:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just playing games because he feels stupid that he went back to his ex.. crawling back that is and he feels like you will make fun of him if you see him or tell other in the comples what he did .. he is just a moron and a little boy he needs to grow the hell up.. move on girl .. let him see you with another man and boy i bet the calls start coming in to you.. from him crying he is still interested in you but he wants his cake and eat it to but you cant have two cakes so i guess he is **** out of luck
2006-09-29 03:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by astrodog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stalker Patti?
2006-09-29 03:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why would anyone mess with a married person? Some people!! Anyway forget about him the dude sounds crazy
2006-09-29 03:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by heartache 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welp! I think this man is playing games and trying to hide his relationships from his wife that he had while they were separated. Maybe you should ask him someday about it but be cautious he maybe a pervert or someone with a bad temper.
2006-09-29 03:52:44 · answer #10 · answered by Board 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋