This Saturday, the people at my job are having a dinner at a restaurant to celebrate the promotions of two of the people that work with us. We are a very small group in my department, and there are only around 7 or 8 of us total. My problem is, at 23, I am the youngest one in the work group, and everyone else is significantly older...ranging in age from earlier 40's, to mid 70's. Would it be inappropriate to ask my boss if I could invite one of my friends along with me so as not to be uncomfortable at the dinner? I know these are my coworkers, and i'm used to talking with them in a work setting, and not a social one....usually, I just avoid the get togethers. Do you think it is wrong of me, and not helping my networking and social skills by not attending these events? It's not like I have a commitment to go.... I love my job, I just really don't have anything in common with the people I work with. What would be appropriate...inviting someone along or not going at all?
2006-09-29 03:13:18 · 12 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
But ... you do have something in common with them. Lots! The social gatherings give you the opportunity to get to know them better and for them to get to know you. Accept their friendship. Show your management that you support your co-workers and can get along with a wide variety of people. It will pay big dividends. Remember, the people in their 70's will be retiring soon and someone has to be promoted.
2006-09-29 03:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because once someone finds out you get a guest, they want a guest. I understand you have nothing in common, but it is really only a short bit of time. Everyone can talk about their Thanksgiving plans and December holiday plans. Ask your dinner partners where they would most like to travel to if someone else were footing the bill. Or, where they plan to go on vacation next year. You can do it.
2006-09-29 10:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hear ya. I am 23 also, and my job is great accept for the really relaly low pay. But I am forced t go to all of these networking events and schmooze peopel and such. I hate it. But I would say just go and leave early. It will be more awkwardto bring a friend with you who doesnt know anyone, unless anyone else is bringing someone.
Good luck, let me know how it goes!
2006-09-29 10:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Hey girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If spouses are invited than you could bring a boyfriend or girlfriend but not just a friend. My advice would be to go early and leave early. People will start to notice if you never attend these events but no one will notice if you leave early
2006-09-29 10:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by kej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider that it's better to go there sometimes , but go just for respect even if you don't have anything in common. But don't invite your friends... may be just for some events... because it could upset a bit you colleages, or try to understand if they are ok with it... I mean, don't do a surprise :) Hope it helpful ! Take care!
2006-09-29 10:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by VIVA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what would be appropriate is for you to attend this dinner, by yourself. be willing to talk with your group at this dinner and you may find you have more in common with them then you know. To sound politically correct-step out side of your box. these older co-workers maybe able to expand your knowledge base and improve yourself by hanging out with them. sticking with you own age group is not always healthy. use this as a learning tool. go with confidence that you and your co-workers will all benefit.
2006-09-29 10:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by fsh3i1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the event. do not take a friend unless you are directed by the boss to do so. It is your job and a few hours of celebration for these promotions is in order. If others are bringing significant others then ask your boss if your friend is welcome.
2006-09-29 10:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by golferwhoworks 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally inappropriate if spouses, significant others, and friends were not invited in the first place.
2006-09-29 10:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by Cloudy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! Don't invite someone ---TOTALLY inapporpriate. You are just going to have to suffer thru....it is only one evening. Go to the dinner, try and enjoy yourself, limit your drinking and it will all be over in a couple of hours.
2006-09-29 12:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person you will be seeking permission from would be a fool not to accede to your request. It's obvious from the way you articulated your question that you value precision in communication and are a valuable member of the organization. Go for it!
2006-09-29 10:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by Beejee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋