2006-09-29 03:11:28 · 16 answers · asked by iggysugar26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Keep your distance and realize that you're being played. If you have a great time with them and you feel that it's worth it then shrug it off, but ask yourself,
"If I'm ever in need of help, would they help me? Can I rely on them?"
If you have to think about it, then stop lending, offerring, negotiating, and being taken. If you let people do it, they will...
...you don't have to dump your friend, just stand firm about money situations!
Good Luck...
2006-09-29 03:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by vikingsonsltw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had friends like this and one was very close. I thought she was a friend. I eventually moved away from her. Created that space. I didn't lie about not having money, but I also put myself first. In saying that I'm going to use the money I have. I have needs for it.
Well, it worked in a way. She found someone else to abuse, and she is still doing that even now.
Goodluck but be true to yourself.
2006-09-29 03:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by DolphinLami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to talk to her about it right after she's done something and just be like look i feel used by you right now, and not only right now but i've felt like this for a while....and then just tell her that you don't know whether she realizes what she's doing or not but it hurts you. If she says she doesn't know what you're talking about then just drop it and say that you must be over-reacting. I mean it's going to crush her pride so she'll probably deny even if it's the truth but hey! hopefully she'll stop doing it and you guys can move on like the good ol' days and forget the whole thing ever happened!
2006-09-29 03:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by metemorphasis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all she isn't your friend second of all it's your fault for letting it happen. One day when you go out with your friend make believe you forgot your money and make her pay for it. Then toss her and find you some real friends or if you really want to stay friends tell her that you each pay your own way for your own things and make sure any time you go some place make sure to ask her if she brought her money because you only brought so much for yourself.
2006-09-29 03:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them that I don't like the way they are treating me. If they continue to treat you that way tell them you don't think you should be friends anymore becuase the way you use me for my money instead of useing your own money.
2006-09-29 03:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by alyssa g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why spend your own money when u have a friend that gives u their money?....stop giving him/her your money!!...then if they still want to be your friend you will know they r not just using u for your money!....r u really rich or what?.....u wont be for long if u just hand out your money!
2006-09-29 03:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them about it. Express that you don't want to be cheap but that you don't want to pay for everything, especially if they can afford it.
If they are a true/good friend they will understand (especially if you talk to them in a nice and non-threatening way).
If you don't talk to them it will end up coming up in some other way as you'll always be thinking about it.
2006-09-29 03:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by Bowl O' Knowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you don't have any money to spare next time that they ask...and the time after that...and the time after that. They should get the hint eventually. If they owe you money, bring it up from time to time.
2006-09-29 03:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is not a friend. Your instincts are telling you to get away from this person.
2006-09-29 03:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to the England...
2006-09-29 03:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋