can anyone help?

Question

My boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months and he and i are trying to have a baby and I just can't seem to get pregnant. any one have any suggestions....sexual postions to try? ways to easily get pregnant? I am 24 and overweight but should that be a problem?
i just had my period for this month and i have been feeling sick to my stomach

Answer 1

Hope this helps! Happy Humping!
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Getting Pregnant

Did you know that a woman's chance of getting pregnant at any particular time is only about 20%? Most gynecologists say that women can still get pregnant within one year, but there are a few "tricks of the trade" that may help speed conception:

1. Track the monthly cycle. According to the National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences, a woman is most likely to conceive on the day of actual ovulation and the five days that precede ovulation. A woman usually ovulates on the fourteenth day of her cycle, so conception attempts are best tried between the 9th and 14th day. Her temperature will rise slightly during ovulation, so this is another point to check. Remember that the first day of the cycle is the first day of actual bleeding.

2. Don't douche. Douching, or internally cleansing the vagina with liquid (usually in a vinegar-based solution), even occasionally, can cut a woman's chance for conception by up to 50%, according to doctors at the University of Washington in Seattle. Good bacteria naturally cleanse the woman's vaginal area, as does her monthly cycle.

3. Drink caffeinated tea. A study published in the American Journal of Public Health reported that women who drank 4 ounces or more of caffeinated tea each day increased their chances of conception by up to 200%!

4. Elevate your hips. After ejaculation, placing a fluffy pillow under the woman's hips and having her hold this position for 30-40 minutes give the sperm a better chance of reaching the ovum (egg) with the help of gravity.

Though these methods do not guarantee conception, they have been known to help significantly increase your chances.

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Fuel up on folic acid

Folic acid is a synthetic form of folate, a B vitamin that can help reduce the risk of serious birth defects that affect the brain and spinal cord. For this reason, the FDA recommends that all women attempting pregnancy take folic acid supplements for decreasing chances of birth defects.



Quit smoking, drinking and drugs now

Smoking or taking drugs greatly diminishes your chances of getting pregnant and can lead to miscarriages, premature birth, and low-birth weight babies. Plus, research suggests that smoking can affect your fertility and lower your partner's sperm count. In fact, studies have shown that even secondhand smoke may affect your chances of getting pregnant. It is also recommend that women avoid alcohol when trying for pregnancy.



Cut down on Caffeine

Research shows that too much caffeine can reduce your ability to absorb iron and increase your risk for stillbirth. Avoid coffee, tea, and colas or switch to decaf to increase your chances of getting pregnant. If you are a complete caffeine junkie, then the safe limit would be a cup a day. Try switching to a milkshakes which will boost your calcium as well and assist in conception.



Get your weight in check

Healthy weight women have an easier time getting pregnant than overweight or underweight women. Studies show that women whose body mass index (BMI) is below 20 or above 30 have a harder time getting pregnant, so it's a good idea to try to get yourself into the 20 to 30 range before you start trying.



Timing is Everything

You will have little chance of getting pregnant if you had sex on the wrong days and missed the most fertile ones. Figure out your ovulation days with our ovulation calendar to increase your chances of conception. Read our articles on Ovulation and Signs of ovulation to assist you in knowing your fertile period. Ovulation predictor kits can also help you figure out when you're ovulating by detecting hormones in your urine that signal ovulation is about to occur.



Mind Control

Women who suffer from depression are twice as likely to have problems with fertility as women who don't. Get a mental health check if you notice signs of depression. Also, try stress management techniques, such as yoga and meditation, which research suggests can also help in getting pregnant.



Buy something sexy

Some experts say that if a woman is highly aroused while she's having sex, the sperm has a better chance of fertilizing her egg. Others say it makes absolutely no difference. It definitely wont hurt and may even help in boosting your libido and killing that awkward feeling of having sex for pregnancy.



Positioning yourself

Many experts suspect that the missionary position (man on top) provides the best opportunity for getting pregnant, though no definitive studies have been done on this question. This position allows for the deepest penetration which deposits sperm closer to the cervix. For additional effectiveness, the woman can try elevating her hips with a pillow so her cervix is exposed to the maximum amount of semen. Other positions could be Rear entry and lying side-by-side. Avoid woman on top, standing, or leaning positions, which discourage the flow of semen to the uterus.



Increase the Odds

Make your vaginal environment as sperm-friendly as possible. Avoid vaginal sprays and scented tampons, artificial lubricants, and douching. Not only can they cause infections, they may wash away cervical mucus or create a hostile environment for the sperm.

If you find that your cervical mucus is not as conducive of getting pregnant as it should be, you may want to try a specific type of lubricant. Pre-Seed lubricant is the sperm friendly choice of many people trying to get pregnant. After intercourse, elevate your hips on a pillow for about fifteen minutes.



For your man

Ask your partner to chuck all briefs and opt for boxers instead for a healthy sperm count. Also, having sex in the morning would help since the semen has the highest number of sperm then.



Finally

Getting pregnant isn't always easy. Very few couples conceive on the first try. In fact, even if everything is absolutely in perfect working order, you only have a 20-25% chance of conception each month. If you are under 30, and haven't conceived in 12 months, you should make an appointment to see your doctor as there could be some issues at play with are preventing you from getting pregnant. If you are over 35, and haven't succeeded in getting pregnant in six months, make an appointment to see your doctor, as infertility issues become more prevelant the older you get. If you are over 40, then do not delay in getting medical help.

Answer 2

I read your other questions and see that you have asked this question 8 times in the last 15 hours. Why are you so desperate to get pregnant? I think that you know that it is not a good idea for you to do this since you have asked this question so many times, are you trying to find the answer that you want so that you will have an excuse to do somethinf so obviously stupid? My husband and I were together for 3 years before we had our first child and we still had problems, we waited until our first child was 8 before we had another baby. The hardest job that you will ever have is being a parent. And I notice that he is your boyfriend! Maybe you guys should get married BEFORE you decide to play house! I think that you want to get pregnant because you want to trap him into staying with you. Don't do this or you will end up a statistic of single women with children and no father for there baby. Please seek counseling, it will help. I am not trying to be mean, I am just telling you what I see.

Answer 3

You have been given some good tips already, but one thing I do want to add is this. Weight CAN have a issue with it. My husband and I have been having the same problem and I know it has to do with my weight. It is know that woman have a higher chance of getting pregnant while they are exercising. It's not really necessary to get totally in shape to increase your chances, but if you will add just 20 minutes of aerobic exercise to your day, it will really boost your chances. That was the only way my mom was able to get pregnant, the doctor even told her so. She had been trying for years, and finally she started aerobics, not to get pregnant, but for herself, and next thing she knew, she was pregnant. I've known this to be the case with many woman. I don't have time myself at the moment, so I have yet to actually get pregnant, but once we are more prepared for a baby, then that is the first thing I'm going to incorporate. And do not listen to these people about waiting. My husband and I have only been married 8 months our selves, and I am also 24. It's better to try now then waiting until your 30, because after 30 your chances of miscarriage and birth defects increases. I wish you all the luck.

Answer 4

I'm not one normally to get into these type of questions and say anything negative .... but, you need to wait. 6 months you have been together?? That's nothing, that isn't enough time to know that you want to have a baby with them. That's only enough to know your biological clock is ticking, but girl, you need to hold off on that for awhile, ignore the ticking sound for now. Get to know this man, get to know his real side, because right now, you're in the honeymoon stage, and it'll end. You'll get to know the real man that you have, and then maybe, if at that point you still feel the same way, then have a baby.

Answer 5

well i have two babies and my husband and i were together for 2 yrs and i tried to get pregnant and i thought that i could not have babies but later on i had the first then the second. its not that u cant have kids its just that your hormonious egg has not met with his egg. so this is what u do make a bubble bath with candles bathe each other and from there dry off and go to work make sure u have waarm lubrication tell him to go slow the slower the better and the faster the better also meaning that when he comes her comes the baby also i promise

Answer 6

I would wait to get pregnant, you all have only been together for 6 months and you are not talking about marriage. Obviously if you are not pregnant now it's a sign that you shouldn't be.

Answer 7

Try taking a prenatal vitamin or go to the hi health and see what you can take naturally before going to the doctor. But 6m is not long enough to decide if you wanna be together forever. Everything happens for a reason maybe you should wait a little..

Answer 8

wait until you are married. 6 months is not long enough to really know someone. having a child is the biggest responsibility you will ever have. you will be responsible for forming a human being into a productive, normal person. this isn't a pet.

Answer 9

Why on earth are you trying to have a baby with someone who don't know that well? I really suggest being committed before committing to raising a child for 18 years.

Answer 10

you guys should wait. You haven't been together that long at all. Having a baby puts a lot of stress on a relationship and I don't think you guys are there yet. It would be unfair to do to the baby.

Answer 11

Why don't you try getting married first? Make a firm commitment to one another, in front of your friends and family and God.

First, you build the nest. THEN you have the babies.