My boyfriend and I live together, I moved to his homestate 5 months ago. I am starting to feel in a rut (not with him, just with myself) and I am opting to go home for about a month to get on my feet. I leave on Saturday and I want to spend as much time with him before I go, but I feel like he's totally blowing me off. He chose to stay out later at the bar to play pool instead of come home with me, normally I don't care but Im leaving soon. And I need to get laid as much as possible!! He's been snippy and wishy-washy. I know he loves me, otherwise he wouldnt care if I came back or not. But is now really the time to start giving me mixed signals? And putting a pool game before me? Im 22 and he's 24...and he is pissing me off. WHAt is his deal?
2006-09-29 02:46:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hiya chick, I'm in a similar situation. I moved away from home to be with my boyf. I'm 24 and he's 25. I'm missing my family and my friends really badly and I feel like shite. I think its because I haven't found a job yet so I'm bored all day and as I don't know anyone here I can't pop round to see anyone. I know I'll be fine when I start work as I'll be occupied and have money so I can visit home more often. My boyfriend keeps telling me I should go home for a week or so, but I can't as I need to be down here looking for work. Anyway, back to your problem. When me and my boyf chat about me going home he says he's scared I won't want to come back. Maybe your boyfriends feeling insecure, he may feel he can't make you happy and think that you'll be happier back home and not want to return. Sit down and have a chat, he needs some reassurance I rekon.
2006-09-29 02:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Rach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is jealous that you are going home. He probably feels a bit inadequate that you need to leave him for such a long time. His staying out isn't because he doesn't care, but it is the only thing he can think of to seem like he doesn't care. I had dated a girl for a couple years and we decided to seperate and see other people and instead of stepping up and saying how I really felt, I went out and dated one my ex-girlfriends. Needless to say, me and the girl never got back together. Sad thing is, I really liked her and did not want to "see" other people in the first place. But, instead of opening up emotionally, I did what your boyfriend is doing and acted like I don't care.
In the end he is probably hoping you will change your mind about going away for a month. This would be a bad idea too. It would give him the impression that these childish stunts actually work. I would sit him down and re-assure him that you are not leaving because of him and reassure him that you plan on returning. As for needing sex before ya go, that is easy, if he is not bringing it to you, go out and find him and bring it to him. Good luck.
2006-09-29 03:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Mojo Risin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that he doesn't want you to go back home for a month because he is afraid that you won't come back to him. He sounds like he is really upset with the idea of you leaving. He may think you don't care for him anymore and this is your way of breaking it off with him.
If you feel like you are in a rut, going back home may not be a good idea. And I am not sure what you mean about getting back on your feet. But, how would you feel if he said he was leaving for a month to get back on his feet? I think you would feel like him, afraid that the relationship is over.
In my opinion, I think you should stay and find something that is interesting to you to get out of the rut you are in.
2006-09-29 03:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Dottie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys have a hard time expressing their feelings. I know my boyfriend, and friends in the past have. So instead of him holding on to you and being really mushy (probably what he want's to do) his MALE EGO makes him want to act like it doesn't really matter. Girl it's eating him up. The best thing to do is act like you're not phased do you go home and get on your feet. He'll regret it and show you.
2006-09-29 02:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by terjar4 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her to do the main common off all, a shrimp cocktail to start up, an stunning roast pink meat, with garlic mashed potatoes, and green beans almondine, the final Au jus recipe you understand he loves(call his mom), and doubtless some heat mini croissants. Serve selfmade heat tarts for dessert with a cappuccino gelato(or a cheesecake w/his fave topping). If it is only he and her tell her to do the full component wearing undies, with a great candle lit dinner for 2, otherwise positioned on some thing great appropriate below despite she is wearing.... stable relaxing!
2016-10-18 04:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe his hurt that u r leaving and he doesnt want to tell u how he feels!! or he might have someone else that he see's when he is playing pool!!! well i hope that he's not cheating on u. u sound like a really nice person
2006-09-29 02:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by mustangsweetthing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
going home is not going to get you out of your rut.. find some of your own personal interests.. i think your bf is just probably sick of you relying on him?? i dunno, but it sounds like that to me ,and he's keen for you to go home so as to get you off his back for a bit,, as much as he loves you he prpbably feels like your a bit too much just now. So if you find your own interests.. make Your selff happy,don't rely on him or your home town to do it for you.Just put yaself in the others shoes now and then and think outside the square,, it can work wonders..Cheers!
2006-09-29 03:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes got an ego and he wants you to think that he can easily be without you but really he probably just knows how bad he will be hurting without you. Dont worry hell come around espescially when it gets closer to the day you leave.
2006-09-29 02:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by heartdeathcab 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont break your relationship by persona ambitions.
Be keen and observant.
2006-09-29 02:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is seeing someone else, once you leave he will call you and tell you do not return. he need more space
2006-09-29 02:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by queenmidas1014 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋