lAsking your opinion to come to a conclusion of what is better or what.?

Question

Me and my fiancee are having difficulties. She is vegetarian and I am not. She wants our baby to grow up vegetarian and I am the one that will let them eat whatever they want, but just limiting what they intake to a healthy degree. I just don't know what to do. I cannot deny my kids something that I would sit down and eat also. I just couldn't. That would be hypocritical of me. And It would make me feel like pure crap. But my fiancee wants them to grow up vegetarian. We are both vere passionate on our decisions. We are having trouble reaching a compromise also. She wants them to be vegetarian until 11 or 12 and let them decide if they want to continue that path. I want them to just eat what they like and what, but still monitoring what they intake to a healty diet, and let them decide when they get 11 or 12 years old. Please give me your opinion on this ! ! !

Answer 1

In my personal opnion, the child should be allowed to eat different things and then choose whether to continue to eat meat or to become a vegetarian. My Uncle is vegetarian and his children were allowed to eat whatever they wanted. When they were older, some chose to becoe vegetarian and the son didn't. You really have to think about school as well. The child will have to bring their own lunch the majority of the time. They will also feel left out not being able to eat chicken nuggets and such. It is your decision though.

Answer 2

This is going to be a tough compromise since you are both so passionate about it and hopefully it's not a deal breaker on wether to marry or not....... Although they don't specify, it sounds like you have comments from meat eaters here, hopefully those that respond will say if they are vegetarian so you can get opinions from both sides.
I myself am a meat eater too, I could never give up my meat or dairy or whatever else vegetarians live without. At such a young age I would not want to limit types of food they eat (only in amount not variety) If you are both so strong on your opinion why not let your child eat both meat and tofu ? Then let your child decide what he/she wants to be. There are so many nutritional components in beef/poultry/fish that a child needs for healthy brain development etc. At the same time your child will get a taste of the tofu like foods. Did your wife think about what if your baby dislikes the vegetarian alternative to a hotdog ? What will she feed the baby, vegetables and fruit all the time ? This is a tough one, especially since I don't know what vegetarians eat other than what they don't eat....... I hope you can come to a compromise. Good Luck

Answer 3

What will you do at dinner time after you get married?
I think the kids will sneak meat from you when mom isn't looking! If you decide to go veggie, make sure they get B12 from eating a lot of dairy. If even dairy is out, they will need to take supplements, as B12 only comes from animal bi-products. I think in the end the kids will wind up making the decision long before age 11. School age in the lunch room is more like it. Dad eats meat. Friends eat meat. Why not me? Till then let the mother feed the kids as she sees fit, since she will most probably be the one doing the majority of parenting.

Answer 4

I am with you on this one. You can not deprive your children of anything. Especially when they are young and need the good nutrition. I think there is a compromise to this, for the meals feed them a little bit of everything like meat, veggies, salad whatever. As long as there is something that both you and your fiance like. what is the big deal? Let the children decide what they want to eat when they get older it should be their decision anyway. If they only eat what your fiance wants them too then when they get older they are going to wonder why they can't eat what you eat. It will be a whole other situation. As long as they get a little of what you both like I honestly don't see the big deal.

Answer 5

I think that the kids should be allowed to eat different things. When you are a child, it is important that you experience different tastes. I am not knocking vegetarians, however why cant they eat meat, and then decide when they're 11 or 12 if they want to be a vegetarian. I think you should introduce the kids to both lifestlyes, and allow them to choose, if they want, when they're older. They may decide they just love eating healthy.

Answer 6

It sounds like she is a hard core vegetarian. I am one of those half assed "vegetarians" (eat chicken and fish but not red meat which I realize is not being vegetarian, but all of my friends and family consider me to be one) and am not raising my daughter that way. Granted what ever I make for dinner that day is what everyone will be eating as I am not cooking twice. But if we are going by someones house or a restaurant I don't care if she eats and likes steak. That is one thing that I think the child should have to decide for themselves and think being able to have and try all kinds of food is important.

Answer 7

We are made to eat meat and non-meat food. Raise your kid normally, and let your child decide whether or not he/she wants to be a vegetarian.
My cousin never ate meat, on his own will, since he was able to eat. But he developed problems from lack of nutirents around puberty.
You can't forbid your child what is natural, only they can choose the vegetarian path, not ur wife.
Kid will be miserable

Answer 8

Ask yourself: what do the kids really LOSE by eating vegetarian?

Let your fiancee feed them the way she wants to; and you and the kids and have barbecue and go to McDonald's when she's out of town or for special occasions.

Answer 9

I think that you are right. They should be allowed to eat things that they like with reasonable consideration. Such as...don't let them eat a happy meal 7 nights a week but don't deprive them either. Make sure they eat a regular amount of fruits and veggies and their share of protien (meat). Good luck!

Answer 10

collectively as they nonetheless could be healthful eating a vegetarian weight-help plan, they are lacking out on considerable supplementations and nutrition they might get from meat. i think of you will desire to circulate to a pediatrician and communicate it with the dr....additionally a nutritionist/dietician....in simple terms b/c she is vegetarian doesnt mean it rather is healthful for toddlers... you hear of all varieties of youngsters being malnourished on severe vegan diets, you the two would desire to communicate over with the dr's to make constructive that it rather is a healthful determination on your baby.