ok how close do a mother and son be , my husband and his mother is always together. I think they set it up or she do atleast I only get 4hrs with him once a week;yes we sleep together but he run's around with her all day, We don't have sex anymore cos he is tried or don't have the urge its been almost 3weeks but his mom say just do it once a month, but we are only 20/21yrs(too young I KNOW) we don't have children and I don't think our marriage is going to work, its like she get mad if she see us getting to close well she do get mad and they have a family business(produce),yeah they have to travel to find good deal's but her Husband (his father) he do the samething. I don't understand why she always have to be with my husband. She well wait until I leave to say son lets go she is gone and sometimes I catch them leaving off together I tried of it someone help me tell me what I'm I doing wrong please.
2006-09-29 02:42:57 · 19 answers · asked by Latashia S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is way too close and don't ever tell her about your sex life: EVER! None of that is any of her business. If she doesn't want you to get close then she is probably jealous and feels like she is losing her son. It is wrong tell her to stop being selfish and let her son be happy and tell your man is is time to cut the apron strings and grow up and care for his new family (you)!
2006-09-29 02:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce immediately. Do not discuss it with him, do not let on that you are doing it. Just do it, and go for everything you can get. He needs a wake up call, that you are his wife, and thus his life; not his mother. The time it takes for the divorce to go through will be enough time for him to prove to you what is important to him. If it is you, you need not go through with the divorce, but if it is not you, then you are already well on your way to ending a dead relationship that will probably only get worse as time goes by. Also, by filing first, you have a better position in the divorce.
I mean think about it, is this how you want to spend the rest of your life, in a relationship like that? At your age, you should be having sex at least once a night, not once a month, you should be spending hours a day together, not hours a month, and your feelings should matter a lot more to him, than other people's feelings. Seek such a life and you will find it.
2006-09-29 02:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communicate with him and the mother it's just same thing you do with your dads it just that some kids and mother experience allot of trauma together such she pregnant and dad has another child on the way while moms in the hospital and dad is not with her during the time of deli every cause he's with the other baby mother and the first wife is feeling all alone because she bored him 3 kids already and now she is left lonely so it just her and that favorite son that she want let go. He spoil rotten to the core you also find that every time you guys fight he will ask mommy for advice you could either make it better by going out with him and his mother try to be nice and not pick fights when do this and try to turn him against mama it will never work bluud is thicker than mudd darling so try to get to know moms and maintain a friendly and happy marriage but let him know how you feel neglected because he is a momma boy doesn't give him an excuse not to put you second in his life God must always come first then you and then his mother that's God gave us wifes to brake away but not forgotton from our mother house.
2006-09-29 03:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by trueexposure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard for parents to create distance between themselves and their children once they marry and move on. It is even more difficult to fill the void that you experience after they are gone. With time I am sure his parents will be able to relinquish him more and more to you. Just be patient.
If they have a family business together, they are trying to prepare your husband to fill their shoes. Which ultimately will provide you and your future children with a better life.
Is there anyway that you too might be able to get involved with the family business. Learn a few things to contribute to the business? In the long run you will achieve two goals. You will get to spend more time with your husband and you will be creating a bond with your in-laws. They will adime the fact that you are taking pride in their family business.
The last thing you want to do is to attempt to stop or limit you husband to the amount of time he can spend with his parents.
Keep in mind you will attract more bee's with honey than you ever will with sh*t.
Good Luck
2006-09-29 02:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not doing any thing wrong - he is. Like not growing up. Your blaming the wrong person - HE needs to stand up, be a man and make his wife his number one priority. I don't see this happening. And , Oh, BIG ONE - what the hell is she doing in your sex life!!! I'm a grandmother for goodness sake and 3 times a week is the minimum for me!! I have two grown children and would never even think of telling them how to handle their sex lives. There is nothing in this relationship for you, but heartache.
Tell him to go back to mommies tit. He never really left it anyway.
Move on and best of luck. You deserve better.
2006-09-29 02:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by risa131313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This an age-old problem between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Mother is scared of loosing his control over son. All this is due to security worries of the mother. Sometimes it is overdone dur to ignorance or malice. Generally every mother wants her son to be happy with his wife. The trick lies in bearing children quickly. You regain all importance since you provided the family with an heir!
2006-09-29 02:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre not doing anything wrong. He is a mamas boy thats obvious. Maybe shes just jealous of the fact that you are inthe picture now. If you are feeling left out then talk to him about it. If he doesnt do things differently..and make you feel like you are his wife and a part of the family then i would have to reconsider the marriage you are in. You should not have to feel that way.
2006-09-29 02:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to tell him it's your mother or me. When you get married, there's nothing wrong with helping your parents with stuff once in a while if they really need it.
Sounds like the mother is jealous she's not the woman in his life anymore, especially if she is telling him how often to have sex. Who knows what else he is telling her that isn't any of her business?
If you have children, it will get ten times worse. Stop it now.
2006-09-29 03:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you not doing anyhting wrong, he just has not grown yet & the fact that he work with her makes it harder
you are correct this marriage will take a lot of work & patient in your part for it to be able to work on his part he need to let go of his mother apron
for this to work you need to invite your in-laws mothe & father
sit with everyone and say your feeling
someone is going to be unhappy but at least you will know where you stand
if that don't work
spent as much time with your father in Laws
soon the mother will let go of your husband for hers
Good luck
2006-09-29 03:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really wasn't ready to get married. The best thing you can do is try to get involved in what they are doing. Make sure he knows your concerns and suprise him in a lacy outfit occationally. If he doesn't take the bait he is gay or in love with his mom in either case you should run.
2006-09-29 02:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by Paka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋