help this is really starting to upset me?

Question

im havein troub conciveing ..Well last week my nipples were sore .. i feel fine today .. my period is due in about 3 days i been haveing intercorse with my boyfriend alot we are ttc whats goin on .. if i have irregular periods can is till get pregnant

Answer 1

Wow...that one response just blew me away!!! What the heck does being able to buy you a honeymoon in Hawai have to do with being able to make a good parent?? Nothing that I know of. I have 4 beautiful chidren, and have never been to hawaii. So here's my though...for what it's worth to you.

I'm all for no sex until marriage, but hey...everyone doesn't feel the way I do. So, just be wise about it. Who cares about a trip tp hawaii or really how much entertainment you can buy. Won't make you a better or worse parent. You didn't say how old you are, so do please consider that a baby makes a BIG difference in how life goes. Having a child young can be hard if you aren't prepared. However, I had mine at 18, and we are just fine. He is now a freshman in high school and ranked in the top 10-15 of his class...without loads of entertainment or a trip to Hawaii...LOL!!

Now, I had a friend who wasn't just irregular, but she had literally NO periods. She had to go on the pill to force a period so her body would kick in on it's own in order to be able to onceve later one. Take into consideration how long have you been trying? Give it a chance, without too much worry and stress. I agree with those who said, worry and trying to hard doesn't help. I speak that from experiance!! I was trying for a while, very hard and wanting it so badly. About the time I decided whatever...we got pregnant. I am now about to finish my 12th week!!!

So, we also were told to try ovulation kits from the store. Frankly, the stick you use much like a pregnancy test ALWAYS looked like I was ovulating!! Shoot...had no clue. I got something caled to Ovulation Scope. It sounded gross, and cost a bit more than the other tests, but...you can use it over and over again. It uses saliva. Yep...saliva. You put a little spit on the little glass view thing, allow it to dry, and then screw on the top and look into it. If it shows a fern pattern...congrats...go for it!! Of course, it's slightly more complicated than that, but not much. With this I was able to see very clearly whether it was time or not...without worrying about watching cervical mucous and icky stuff like that! LOL!! Maybe try one of those. Cost me less that $20 I think...right around there somewhere...at WalMart.

Try for a few more months...as much as 6. Then, if nothing, while using the scope, check with you doctor. My new ob/gyn will consider helping with Clomid or who knows what else if you try for 6 months and don't get pregnant. Now that surprises me, as most docs expect you to try longer, but check with your doc to see what his personal standards are.

As for the whole not married thing...your life...your choice. I'm not sure I agree with your choice, but I can support you and offer you advice. Heck...my first child was conceived before I was married. And I was married while 7 months pregnant!! I have no right to judge, and really...neither does anyone else.

Need anything else, feel free to contact me. I have been through tons of stuff and am willing to ffer any advice or help you like!
Good luck!!!!

Answer 2

I used to always have irregular periods. When my husband and I conceived our first child, I had not had a period for two months, and then I got it the month I conceived. Some doctors may tell you that you could be having intercourse to much and that may be the problem. Try cutting back to every other day or so and it might do the trick. If your period is due in a couple of days, then it's very possible that you are either already pregnant or that you could be conceiving soon. Don't get discouraged, my husband and I tried for 6 months the second time to conceive. It does take some time, especially when you are trying. Hang in there and good luck!!

Answer 3

You can still get pregnant. Most women require 6-12 months to conceive. When you stress about becoming pregnant (by trying to control when and how it happens) you cannot get pregnant.

All that said, if you two cant make a commitment to each other through the vows of marriage, what makes you think you can be committed to eachother because of a baby? If he cant prove his willingness to stick with you in marriage, he certainly wont prove it by creating a child.

Dont put the cart before the horse, its hard enough being a single parent when you're married, but its much more difficult being a single parent without a spouse.

And about irregular periods, ive concieved twice and my periods are some times 40 days, some times 28... birth control screwed me up, it took me over a year to get right again. Its not right to use chemicals to control your cycles. Women do not cycle like the tide.

Answer 4

am realy sorry for your case becuse i know how it is when trying to concive. all i will advice you now is to first of all take a little patienct becuse u sound so confuse, relax ur body, get some vitamins that can help a woman boost her opportuninty of getting pregnant, like clomid, folic acid, calcium and lot of it, am sure if u go to ur doc. he will beable to tell u more, u shuld also try and find the most fertile period of your life by chating ur ovulation, there are lots of ways to du that.
but upon all this i will say it again that u shuld relax a while, understand urbody a little i know it's not easy but just try. eat good food, see ur doc. always u can even excuse urself from sex a while and try to use all the drugs prescribe for u by ur doc. and sure very soon u will come and share ur pregnancy eperince with us.

i wish u Good luck

Answer 5

ok ummm, don't know if I can compare with the pregnant chick with the mile long response...lol, but I was having a problem concieveing my 2nd child. We tried and tried having sex all the time. Well we didn't have sex for a month and in the first week that we did have sex after the break I was pregnant!!! (of course we didn't know until a month later) Moral of the story is...having a lot of sex isn't the answer. Your man needs to have time for "the little" guys to build up. And all the things the pregnant chick said are true also...lokk at her pic, i think she would know! Good Luck!!!! Children are wonderful (sometimes..j/k) they truly are a gift from heaven!!!

Answer 6

You can still concieve with irregular cycles but you have to know your ovulation days or it really doesnt matter how much you are trying, if you miss that one day (up to 2 day) window then it's purpose is null. I suggest (if you arent already preg-- hope you are since it's what you want), to get either a basal thermometer or to use some of the ovulation predictor test sticks they have in the stores so you can know when you really need to be trying. Good luck!

Answer 7

Girl, you need to take some classes. Make something of yourself before you go being someone's mom. You are dooming the child to sadness and poverty by forcing them to be born to a semi-illiterate mother. The guy can't be too smart if he is allowing you to be the mother of his baby. Good luck I hope you change your mind and decide to wait. Why would you be trying to get knocked up by a man you arent married to? Does he make enough money to support you and a baby? Can he buy insurance, a car, food, entertainment and cable television? Can he afford a honeymoon to Hawaii for a week? Be smart! Go to school! Make something of yourself! Marry someone who has done the same so your future children will have a fighting chance! Yes you or anyone CAN get pregnant with irregular periods. I advise you to get a ten year IUD and dont think about a baby at all for ten years at least. Then you can use physical love or something else to manipulate him to stay with you instead of ruining a poor baby's childhood by being born to unready parents.
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Answer 8

Please get an ovulation kit..I know that they are kinda expensive, but it will save you a lot of worry about the timing. I hope you know that there are only like 5 days in a month that you can actually get pregnant, and that is when you are ovulating. Good luck, and remember, stress can make it more difficult, so just relax and enjoy.

Answer 9

Go to the dr and talk to him about your problem. Maybe he can give you some medicine to help you get regular periods. Good luck!!

Answer 10

If you're pregnant you shouldnt have sore nipples but sore breasts.
Yes you can get pregnant if you have irregualr periods.