How do I keep an affair a secret from my wife?

Answer 1

shes your wife, there shouldn't be any secrets or affairs. Why did you get married in the first place if you were not ready?

Answer 2

The best way to keep it a secret is to make her feel secure in your marriage. Tell her you love her. Have as much intimacy as time will allow. Spend quality time with her. Make her feel that you are not going anywhere. Make her feel that you have no secrets. If you start going out alone and not telling her where you are going, hiding the cell phone, acting strange or doing things out of the norm, then she will be suspicious. You can probably pull it off for a while as long as you don't change and alienate your wife. Withdrawling from your wife will be a big clue. Over time I think that most women get a gut instinct that their man is cheating.

Answer 3

The truth will out itself. Better to confess it now and take your medicine. Be remorseful and assure her you don't have any contact with the other woman etc...
Tell her who the person was but never ever tell her what exactly you did. That is too much for any woman to hear.
Beg for forgiveness. You might have a chance at it.
At this point though you forfeit your right to your wife the minute you gave what was rightfully hers to someone else.

You will never know what you have until it's gone.
I wonder how you would feel if she slept with some other man.

Answer 4

You don't have one. If you think that theres any reason what so ever that you should have an affair then i think that you need to get a divorce first, then you won't have to keep a secret from her!!!!

Answer 5

You shouldnt have a secret affair, Thats the problem people should always talk about what they like and exspect before they get together, if it comes up latter you want to talk about it see how she feels, if not forget it if you love her.

Answer 6

You don't have one.

You can never keep something secret if it involves another person anyway. Keep in mind that many mistresses end up telling the wife when they are done with the man.

Answer 7

Just be smart about it. Always wear protection, so you don't catch anything and bring it home. Don't let her call you, e-mail you, and only speak with her in person. Don't act wierd around your wife, and don't lie and make excuses unless she asks. If you automatically come home with an excuse it looks suspicious. Look her in the eyes when you are lying and don't look away alot or fidget. It's fun to have your cake and eat it too! Isn't it?

Answer 8

It takes a lot of work and energy. And either implicitly or explicitly she is going to feel or know. Review your relationship. See if it's worth trying to keep both at the same time. A deep and profound analysis usually takes you to the "no it's not worth" answer.

But each one has to learn its own way.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Put a 12 gauge shot gun in your mouth and blow the back of your head off. This will distract her from any affair. I have seen a few of these and they are very effective.

Answer 10

If you must do that just keep your mouth shut and don't have the other women calling you all the time and let the other women know that your time at home is off limits to her phonecalls. Get rid of all evidence: recent cell phone call histroy, love notes, text messages, emails, go places you don't know people, and don't tell anyone.