The main problem with being married is not the lack of love but lack of friendship with your partner? How can you be happy in a disguised marriage - just for the sake of family and friends?
2006-09-29 01:39:23 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It should not be considered as a disguised marriage. If the two of you had fallen in love and married once in your life. Then I don't see why the two of you are not able to do it again. Now you guys have been together for a while, the two of you have a family that you love and want to keep. If you can feel all of the love that you have for your family, then you should still be able to feel the Love that you guys have for each other. and not just the love, but also the bond & friendship.
I had written this poem a while ago, and I would like to share it with you.
Love & Friendship
Love & Friendship, Should Always Be Concidered As One.
Especially When You Are Seeking That Devoted Friendship,
With Someone You Will Always Respect And Most Passionately Love,
Communicating With One Another,
Allows Your Love & Friendship To Constantly Flow.
It Lets The Two Of You Know
That The Bond That You Share Together
Will Most Definintly Continue And Everlastingly Grow.
Having A Loyal Bond With One Another
Will Always Keep Your Passinate Love Ashore.
And When You Are Also Bestfriends,
The Love That You Have For One Another
Will Postively Last Forevermore.
Love Is Friendship, As Well As Friendship Is Love.
And Sharing Them Both With One Another
Is A True & Beautiful Blessing
From Our Holiest Love Above!
AMEN
2006-09-29 04:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having to act a certain way for family and friends then that's not a good sign. It sounds like there are some real issues here. Maybe make a list of the pro's and con's of the marriage and see which is better. I think that friendship is neccesary for a marriage. I mean you are supposed to be close and intimate. You should be able to tell each other anything. That is a friendship. Have you considered coing to counseling? If this marriage is important to you then maybe you guys should try to figure out what exactly is missing and try to work on it. If there's just nothing there, then why be together? You both deserve to be with someone that makes you happy, and not just for the sake of the family.
2006-09-29 08:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree,
the first time I was married I was young, I married for lust, not love and frienship. My X husband and I are friends now, for the sake of our children.... but it was not a good relationship for many years. The lack of respect in our marriage turned to infidelity and at that point, the relationship was over.
The second time around I married a man that I am best friends with. He's the love of my life. I have been married for just over 2 years this time and I couldn't possibly be happier,
we have problems sometimes, but we have enough love for each other and respct for our committment that we work through things.
2006-09-29 08:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by msdagney 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are suppose to be friends in your marriage. How can you have love if there is no friendship? Friends are suppose to share everything together. Isnt that what a marriage is? You need to talk with your man and explain to him what you are feeling. Maybe communication would be the best thing,,so you both know where you stand in the marriage. Maybe there are some things that the both of you need to work on to make things better. You need to talk to him not us.
2006-09-29 08:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not friendship. It can never be. Marriage goes much deeper. If you are married and become one then how can you be friends with yourself? If you have to disguise your feelings then their is some serious problems. Look for professional help.
2006-09-29 08:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by RIDLEY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married for 10 years now and i love my husband very much, he is my best friend we do everything together.
what I'm trying to say is everyone deserves that kind of happiness in there lives, so if things are not going the way you thought they would well then you should do what is best for you not your family after all its your life and your the one that has to live it ,i hope this helps you and i hope you find the happiness that you want and deserve
2006-09-29 08:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by sky l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's the lack of commitment. Love is a commitment not an emotion.
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails."
2006-09-29 08:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by Drofsned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. the problem with marriage is the lack of bj's.
2006-09-29 08:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be for friends , but you should make the best of it if you have kids they depend on you. its your responsibility.
2006-09-29 08:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then get out it is that simple
2006-09-29 08:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by Wondering If ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋