we broke up over a year ago. we both got into new relationships that lasted maybe a couple months and then we both ended those relationships. we got back in touch with each and started talking alot more. he is always asking me about my love life and if i have a boyfriend yet. he started coming to see me so i decided to ask him if we could get together for dinner sometime and discuss getting back together and he said sure why not. then all of a sudden i dont hear from him for a while. and about two weeks ago he stopped at my job to see me. he told me that he was going to keep in touch and i havent heard from him since. do you think he got scared and is pushing away or do you think he is seeing somebody new. im lost i really dont know what to do. i dont know if i should finally just let go or if i should let fate take its course and see what happens. or if i should call him. i need your help guys and girls if you were me what would you do. PLEASE HELP.
2006-09-29 01:37:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you need to let nature run it's course If it was meant to be you will eventually get together but it sounds like you guys are in two different places emotionally and maybe he needs to grow up a little bit first,.........I wouldn't call him If I were the one in your situation, you made your opinion known to him when you asked him out for dinner ......The ball is in his court now.....But don't get me wrong while you're waiting for wishy-washy to come around I don't think you should sit around and wait .....go out and have fun, mingle, enjoy life.........Good Luck!!!!!!
2006-09-29 01:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Erin O. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did love your husband enough to marry him, didn't you? And why the hell do you have a myspace account anyway, it is NOT something for married people to have unless it's an account that both you and your husband use to stay in touch with family and not for ex's. It has been well said that grass is always greener on the other side but this other side that you have in mind does not exist. Should you go to your ex, he will never forget how he got you back. Could you possibly assure him that you would not it to him and go back to your ex-husband. He will never trust you and quite honestly, you will deserve every bit of it. With your ex-boyfriend you do not have to deal with life, it's a fantasy in your mind and should it become a reality, it would be a lot worse than what you are going through now. Common sense would tell you that you must NEVER speak to your ex again. BUT I have a feeling that you are way too stupid to comprehend any of this till it's going to be TOO late.
2016-03-26 22:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up in the first place? I think he still like you but he is reluctant to commit. Most guys are just too relieved to be out of relationship because that means they have just become available again to play the field. But that don't last very long. If you are the right girl for him, he will try to win you back.
I think you should move on. Be creative with your life. Don't be saddled by yesterday's memories. In my opinion, let fate decide. But don't stop being the right girl - the right girl for the right man. Avoid being self-conscious. Just be yourself. If he is the right one, it going to be better the second time around."
2006-09-29 02:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by sleepy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it sounds suspiciously like he's seeing someone new and only makes contact with you when he's got time and remembers. He's probably hoping to get some from you again at some point during a dry spell. Sorry, but you should move on quickly.
2006-09-29 02:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by servir tres frais 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he knows you're interested. But I think both of you were/are just lonely and were looking for something familiar. It is easier to go with someone you have already been with because you know all of their baggage. Time will tell.
But you also have to ask yourself why is he an ex in the first place. Would you be going back to the same problems?
2006-09-29 01:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by t j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would really be the point of getting back into a situation that you obviouosly had problems with or you wouldn't have gotten out of it? You are out, get on the mend anfd get yourself together for the noxt man who comes along who hopefuly will want to spend his life with you.
2006-09-29 02:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just reread what you wrote here and recognize that he is an ex for a reason.
The guy is playing games because you are letting him walk all over you.
Stop being a doormat.
2006-09-29 01:41:57 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest it sounds like he is trying to keep his options open by keeping in tough and acting like he still might be interested but not making any commitment and ignoring you for long periods of time. Its possible that he does still have feelings for you but is trying to act cool but in my opinion if he still really cared for you he would just make the effort to prove to you that he wanted you back. You deserve better than a man who just pops in when he feels like it and doesn't make his feelings clear. Move on and if he still cares for you he'll let you know sharpish!
2006-09-29 04:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get him back before you dont start blaming yourself for taking the worst decision in life(breakup). I have gone through this, i dont want anyone to go through such pain. You meet love once in life, dont let it go.
Happy Love.
2006-09-29 01:40:56 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Luck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you to stay close this chapter for a while and avoid being in touch with him for a while ... sit back relax and think over it ..... if you still feel you have some feelings for him ... CALL HIM up !!! and be blunt about your feelings ....... .... if he hesitates sweets its better you take a back step .... if he doesnt then Good Luck :-)
Hope it helps !!
2006-09-29 01:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by sweetiee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋