IVE HAD 3 BAD RELATIONSHIPS,ALL WAS A LOSS.NOW I MET THIS NEW GAL AND MARRAGE AND HAVING A CHILD CAME UP,MY PROBLEM IS I CANT STAND HER WHINNY 6 YEAROLD,AND THE 12 YEAROLD ACTS 25,WE ARGUE ALOT OVER THEM.THEN WE ARGUE ABOUT WHAT GOES ON WITH MY SIDE OF THE FAMILY,WEVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR SIX MONTHS NOW,WHAT SHOULD I DO,I ALREADY THREATEN TO LEAVE HER.
2006-09-29 01:32:11 · 9 answers · asked by albert s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
be responsible.
2006-09-29 01:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by gweneth lynn paltfeir 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're an adult, they're kids. You and you girlfriend will need to agree on rules the kids need to live by in the house. Both you and her need to be reasonable and open minded in this process. 3
She has to make the kids understand that they need to listen and show you respect as they would their father. If your girlfriend or the kids don't go along with this then I would suggest you leave.
Personally I'm not big on raising another man's kids. If he wasn't man enough to raise them himself then why would you. So stand your ground, be reasonable and if it doesn't work move on, but if the mother backs you then you could be a good male influence in their lives. I'm sure their father isn't because he simply isn't there.
Best of luck to you.
2006-09-29 08:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WALK AWAY NOW~
It won't get any better. If you see how much of a brat her kids are, just imagine what your offspring will be like with her.
Also, observe how she treats others, especially waiters/waitresses... if she's a jerk to them, she'll more than likely be a jerk to you on down the road.
If she is talking about marriage and children NOW, I get the feeling she's trying to trap you so she'll have 'someone' in her life.
Think about why her last relationships didn't work out.
2006-09-29 08:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered your other question about the yelling, but if you cannot stand a kid, that is bad. MOVE ON.. you will resent this kid and contribute to her miserable unbringing if she has a stepdad who doesn't even LIKE HER. Let alone the 12 year old. Let her raise her kids without someone who doesn't love her kids. I was rooting for you and I still am, but if you don't care for the children, please do them a favor and slowly, politely, nicely L E A V E.
2006-09-29 22:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude if you can't sit down and work it out -You'd be better off to move on to greener pastures. Try talking to the kids (individually) they may be trying to drive you away for all you know weather on purpose or not. You do need to address the issues with this gal if you care about her enough, to plan on settling down with her.
(It will only get worse if not worked out)
2006-09-29 08:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Camoguntruck_lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me from your question that you aleady know what to do. Who wants to enter into a marriage with someone when there are already problems with children, children that aren't yours. I've seen marriages break up because of the step children, and them not wanting to conform to mom's new way of life. Save yourself the headache and move on to better things.
2006-09-29 08:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you shouldn't be talking about marriage after six months anyway. That is to soon. And if you don't like her "whinny kids" this will never work.
2006-09-29 08:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are looking for love in all the wrong places.
It is difficult when there are children already in the picture. If you do not love her for her. I would move on.
Good Luck.
2006-09-29 08:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON or it will be that way for the next 20 yrs.
2006-09-29 08:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋