i had sex with my boyfriend with a condom and it split, i took a pregnacy test and it came out negative, but the same thing happened again on the day i was going to the doctors to get the pill! i've been feeling sick, i feel dizzy, and i cant tell my mum coz i'm 16 and she will kill me! my boyfriend wants me to have a baby coz he feels he is ready to be a good father. This is because of his past experience that he wants to do a better job than his dad did. He's been really supportive and said he will help me, but i'm scared of loosing my family! My boyfriend means the world to me, and i have to say we have both agreed that i wont have an abortion because i am against them and we before you say did we put the condom on properly, we definutely did. I really scared and could do with some support from some people that have been there or know about it. Please help?
2006-09-29 01:17:33 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Get another pregnancy test and stop taking chances with cheap condoms. You are very young to be thinking about having a child. It is a 20 year commitment at the best of times. Your bf may think he wants to be a father but can he support you and the child?
2006-09-29 01:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I've had condoms break... I don't know what that other person was talking about but I've had several of them break on us. I am allergic to many forms of birth control and so we choose to use condoms to save the reactions and if we get pregnant than so be it. However I am an adult and in a stable relationship that I've worked on for a few years now. Anyhow you would be surprised at how supportive your family could really be. :) So if you are pregnant then I'm sure your family will be a bit ticked off in the beginning but they'll come around. I would wait a few days before your period is supposed to come and then take another urine test. If that comes out negative then I'd bet that you aren't pregnant but if you're still feeling dizzy and stuff you should call your local planned parenthood and see if you can get in and have a test done. And try to remain on birth control because while having a baby sounds okay right now, you do have a future to look out for and you should finish school at least before you have a baby. Your boyfriend sounds like a good guy and I'm glad he's supportive of you. :)
2006-09-29 08:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unfortunately all you can do is wait. You have to wait and take another test. In the meantime be more careful. If they keep breaking switch brands. And maybe you don't have enough lubucation. You can not take birth control until you know for sure. If you do and you are pregnant, it will hurt the baby and your doctor will tell you that you need to get and abortion. It kinda sounds like you are letting him decide your feelings for you. You don't say how YOU feel about it, just how he feels. While it is important for you to consider his feelings, it is your body, and your decision. I know you don't think so, but there is a chance of him running away anyway. My sister had a baby with a guy that was 14. He said he wanted the baby and was so excited. He was around for about 3 months after the baby was born. Then he realized how much he was missing in life. He hasn't seen or talked to his daughter in over a year now! Honestly hunny, you aren't ready. You have plenty of time and so does he. You might WANT a baby. But you can't take care of a baby. At this age you can't take care of yourself! You can't get a place to live, have job and daycare and groceries and diapers and a car and gas and still finish school! How would you get to all your appointments? Can you drive? I am 20 in 6 days and I've been on my own (my own place, job and car.) And I'm not ready! Please be more careful! I know this sounds like a lecture and I'm sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear, but you might need to. I am here. (stuck at home 38 weeks pregnant all day!) If you need to talk to some one. I promise not to act like a mom, just support. E-mail me ANYTIME with anything!
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2006-09-29 08:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. you have to tell your parents. there's no way around that. just remember that parents are people too and as much as you love this baby they love you 100 times more. You'll be fine.
Now, think about what you have just told us.... your boyfriend wants have a baby because his dad was no good. Does that sound like a good reason to you? It takes sooooo much more to be a good parent than just wanting it. It takes money, time and maturity. Just to name a few of the things you need to have in order. It's not a baby's job to live up to your boyfriends expectations of what a family should be. Kids WILL disappoint you. It's what they do. I'm not saying that you and your boyfriend wont be good parents. You may be. Just don't have this baby so that your life will be better. That's not fair to the baby. Being a parent is about giving to another person and expecting nothing in return. you may never get anything in return and that has to be okay with you. Tell your parents! they will be able to help you and they have a right to know that they will be grandparents. This is a whole family, not just you and your boyfriend.
good luck.
2006-09-29 08:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by jymsis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello. I have a 4 month old, and I am only 19 years old. Although everyone will tell you you are too young to have a baby, it can be done and you can be a great mother. Whatever you do, stay in school. Before you get all nervous about being pregnant, just wait until you're supposed to get your period and see if it will come. You can experience pregnancy symptoms just because you're worried/stressed. Don't tell your parents until you know for sure. When you tell them, if they truly love you, you will not lose them and they will support you no matter what. I wish you the best of luck and if you are pregnant, you should keep it and be the best mother you're capable of. I'll say a prayer.
2006-09-29 08:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by LiSa B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably not pregnant. There are only 2-3 days a month when a woman can get pregnant (it's harder than you think). Don't say anything to your family until you know for sure. Go to a clinic and get a blood test, which is the most definite way to know if you are or are not pregnant. If you are pregnant, then step one is done: you have made the decision to keep the baby. Your family will be very disappointed in you, as they should be, but they will eventually get over it and forgive you and love your baby. The guy will disappear within years and you will lose out on all the wonderful opportunities in life that you could have had. Your life will be ruined. There, now if you're not pregnant you can stop screwing around until you're ready to accept the consequences. Honey, sex ain't worth it at your age because you have too much to look forward to, and kids are too much responsibility. Stop screwing around, and if you are pregnant, maybe you need to re-think the abortion option. Or at least adoption. You will lose out on so much. Good luck.
2006-09-29 08:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by nido_tr3s 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My middle daughter had a baby at 16. We weren't pleased when we found out she was pregnant but we helped her. She had the baby right before her junior year of high school started. I worked nights so I kept him during the day while she attended school.
When he got old enough to where he wasn't sleeping as much during the day, I quit my job so he wouldn't have to go to day care.
She graduated with the rest of her class and now 6 years later she is an office manager for a large company. She and the babies father did not make it as a couple but she mat a wonderful man 5 years ago and they have been married for 4 years. They are expecting her third child in January.
No your parents aren't going to be happy with you but they will adjust. The choice is your as to what you want to do. But don't plan on the babies father being with you forever. You are only 16 and it is a lot to take on. I love my grandson who is now 8 and wouldn't trade the experience for anything.
2006-09-29 08:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got pregnant at 17, i had a huge pressure from my boyfriend of the time 2 have an abortion, so that's wot i did and i regretted ever since. but i went on 2 have a baby at 19 and again nearly 2 yrs l8r. i'm 21 and have 2 kids. i still think that 19 was too young 4 me 2 have a baby and i was scared at the time but once u have ur baby in ur arms 4 the first time and smell their baby smell nothing else matters, and when it comes down 2 it ur parents might not be very happy at first but once they get over the shock they'll be supportive, trust me!
good luck and i hope everything works out 4 u
2006-09-29 08:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are pregnant tell your family as soon as possible. It will give them more time to get used to the idea. The longer you leave it before telling them the longer you will be without their support. Being pregnant isn't the end of the world but something that should be cherished. Once your family come round to the idea you can start to enjoy it coz it's a miracle!
2006-09-29 17:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by william h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be scare honey, If you are pregnant and want to keep the baby and have your boyfriend's support you will be fine. You wont loose your family, they might get upset at the beginning but your parents will be crazy over their grandchild, and once you have the baby that will be your family so you are not loosing one you are gaining a new family. Take care, go to the doctor and dont be upset its not good for you.
2006-09-29 08:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by audrey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋