We just had a daughter who is 2 months. We also have 3 other children 2 boys 7 and 4 years and another girl 6 years. They are not his. It kind of bothers me that he is bi, but then it doesn't I would just like for him to try and tell me. Or I would like to bring it up to him, but I don't know how. I do not want to break it off I just want to talk about it. Any ideas?
2006-09-29 01:14:53 · 10 answers · asked by baby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I also feel if I bring it up that he'll get mad and maybe want to end our relationship.
2006-09-29 01:22:31 · update #1
let him know first thing, that you want to be with him, but you want to be able to trust him. tell him you him to be able to trust you, if he's afraid that you didn't want a bi bf, then let him know that you love him, and as long as he will be honest to you that you want to be with him. honesty is a huge part take in a relationship. now to bring it up, tell him u really have something to ask him. tell him, it only bothers you because he hid it from you, and ask him..and after you get your reply..talk about how you want trust in a relationship..and how you want him to be able to tell you these things..are you 100% sure he's bi, i mean how'd u find out, cuz if its jus sum random rumor that might hurt him..glue dont hold 4ever, you have to find a way to make it stick a while...
2006-09-29 01:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by mahbabesgrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope he really loves you too, because if he does he is more likely to practice "safe sex" with his male partners. For the love of yourself, and your children, you do need to discuss this with him, to make sure he does. If you have a good relationship, you can talk about anything. The fact that you are asking this worries me that you may not. I cannot think of a better way to broach the subject than just being straight forward, telling him flat-out that you know and discussing things from there. If he freaks and gets upset with you for being honest, then I'm sorry to say, love or not, you have the wrong guy.
I am puzzled that you have 4 children together, but they are not "his". Are they "your's", or adopted?
2006-09-29 08:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by harridan5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want a compromise,or do you want to be a total sellout?we as humans sometimes do not look at the bigger picture. what were your values before you met him? and how do you expect to instill the values of manhood to the young men that are in the home?does the environment give you the authority to have them make life altering decisions. the main reason that he has not come clean is fear of rejection and infidelity,since being a woman and selling yourself short is all right by you ,I do not see why you have to worry about what he does,since he treats you well,maybe one day he would make up his mind ad stop being BI and go all the way to the other side.unless you love the celebrity status of a soap opera, true love is never shared,it is as exclusive as the adoration to a jealous god,womanhood,you are losing your balls,and compromising your maternal instincts.
2006-09-29 08:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by delmy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really prepared to live under the threat of AIDS and the fact that he could choose a man over you? I think he's really selfish. Just ask him straight out if he likes men. You deserve an answer and to know if you have a future together.
2006-09-29 08:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for 1 if you apporach him on this subject. He's gonna denyie it and are wont to know where you got your information from. So unless ur ready to tell him how u know this are why you even think this. Don't do it. And I understand you love this man. But if he is bi you wont be able to change that. So u need to think urself. Do you wont to stay w/ a man who's gonna be sleeping w/ other men. That's puts u at risk for catching who knows what. You have to decide what u wont to do. But if u go for it be ready for him to get really upset w/ u!!!!!!
2006-09-29 08:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going to deny and get mad, he is probably going to think that you are calling him a fag, which to some guys is a major diss, approach him in a decent way if you are going to ask, and by the way, how do you know he is bi
2006-09-29 08:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by babejules2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you are there for him,,no matter what I think that if he's not ready to tell you even if you ask him in a good way he is going to feel uncomfortable,,, so just wait for him to tell you when he is ready,,so just tell him that he can trust you with anything he evers wants to tell you so he can think about it and tell you ,,
2006-09-29 08:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you heard....and that you are ok with it.
Honestly counts.
2006-09-29 08:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by julygirl75038 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him out straight, its the only way
2006-09-29 08:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your feelings
2006-09-29 08:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by love_in_u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋