i like to avoid any personal relationship at my work place. and i had been asked by two guys at my work place if i was envolved with someone or engaged.
one of them is trying all the time to converse the other guy sent someone to be an intermediate to help him taking a step forword.
2006-09-29 01:07:14 · 15 answers · asked by adorable 4 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
is it right to lie and say that i'm engaged or having a bf
2006-09-29 01:23:11 · update #1
well, just change the subject back to work, it will drive them nuts.
when they ask you anything personal, just replay,,, is the company going to give us the day off next week? or Are you having trouble with that machine too? things like that.
just switch the question back on work, i hope that helps
2006-09-29 01:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, give the guys a break for at least trying. I doubt there's anything sinister about any of it. Asking if you have a signigicant other is way low on the personal questions list. I was a female medic, assigned to a flying squadron most of my career- which meant I was outnumbered almost 100 to 1 most of the time. One of the first things I used to do was let it be known I did not date anyone in my squadron- period, end of story. I kept the rest of my personal life completely separate from the professional. Once the word gets out that you do not date from within the company, you don't have to worry much about inquiries- the other guys usually clue in the newbies.
In the event one of them really is dense, and actually approaches you with the question- I'd answer truthfully and tactfully with the truth, and add the "I don't date within the company" line. You have been nice, polite, and shut down the conversation. For the extreme few, extremely dense- you may have to repeat the message a little less politely and forcefully.
I wouldn't necessarily shut down the conversation on all matters of personal life, though- since that will make normal conversation very frosty and will give you the reputation of being cold and distant. That can hurt your career more in the long run that giving out a bit of innocuous personal info. Stuff like what you did for the holiday, etc is pretty harmless stuff- not strictly work related, but not exactly a major threat to privacy. You can be friendly and professional, without being a witch about it, and without getting the work place sticky with personal details.
2006-09-29 08:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by The mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deflect the situation is to tell these guys you NEVER date anyone you work with, for any reason. Spell it out for them.
If this doesn't dissuade them, then lie and say your are exclusive with a boyfriend outside of work.
There's nothing wrong with conversing - as long as you lay it out there that the guy is never going to get anywhere.
Good luck.
2006-09-29 08:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by crazyotto65 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always best.
If someone gets hurt from honesty, its easier to say "I'm sorry you're hurt" than it is NOT to be up front and then the person finds out after "investing" that much time. I appreciate up front honesty. When I was dating, a woman told me all she wanted was someone to go to church with her. Well, I already had a church that I really liked and I was looking for a wife. So, with her honesty, I didn't waist any more time with her. Now, I have a good wife and still have a good church.
2006-09-29 08:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by William T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them your not here to have relationship and your personal life is that personal.
2006-09-29 15:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be blunt, tell them you are not interested or that you don't (use polite phrase here) around with people you work with even if they are paying for the motel room.
2006-09-29 08:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it makes you uncomfortable, then its actually considered harrassment. Tell them you prefer not to talk about your personal life, and if they continue, you need to head down to the HR department and let them know you are being harrassed even after telling them to leave you alone about personal life.
2006-09-29 08:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by thunder2sys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I give limited information, but advise them that some aspects of my life are off limits
2006-09-29 08:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if it makes you uncomfortable, then tell them that right up front. say something like "i'd rather not discuss personal details in the workplace."
2006-09-29 08:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by jess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
immediately start asking them even more personal questions
2006-09-29 08:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋