well, i m into a gay relationship with a guy in my friend circle. but my friends laugh out loud when it comes to speaking something about homosexuality. its just a topic of laughter for them. i love all my friends and also my boyfriend wants them to know about our relationship........but we dont know how? kindly suggest
2006-09-29 01:06:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Stop laughing, stop going along with the idea that it's funny or shameful. This will prepare them for your coming out. Know that you and your love are something to be proud of. If they ask, answer directly. If they know your boyfriend, y'all can come out together. Prepare to have a little tension, or maybe even lose a couple friends. This won't be your fault--it's their problem.
Also, try finding some gay, bi, and gay-friendly friends.
2006-09-29 01:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they are really your friends then it won't matter that you are gay. The last people that you should have to worry about accepting you is them. But the fact of the matter is, some people and some friends we have are only skin deep so you may lose some of them. But don't think of it as a negative- (i know its hard) but rather think of it as a weeding out process. You would only want to be friends with people who make you and want you to be happy right? So just tell them the truth and see where it lands.
2006-09-29 08:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by Just Wondering 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I think that if they're really true friends then they won't care & they'd be happy to see you happy, otherwise I think you might need to move in different circles where there's people that accept you for all of you. I'd just tell them & see what happens because whatever eventuates will be for the best.
2006-09-29 08:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People who truly care about you will not intentionally say hurtful things. Let your friends know that you find their laughter rude. Afterwards, you might have to make a choice about who will continue to be your friend.
2006-09-29 17:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Mackey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to behave as though it is not laughable or shameful, and let them know how you feel. Distance yourself from those in your "circle" who persist in putting your relationship or your sexuality down. Nuture the friendship with those who are accepting and at least attempt to understand.
As long as you laugh with them, or act as though they have something to laugh at, they will continue.
2006-09-29 08:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by michael941260 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever agree with them when it comes to something that offends you. Even if you think it will hurt their feelings. It only enforces their beliefe when you laugh at gay jokes.
2006-09-29 09:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are really friends, tell them outright. If they continue to laugh, they aren't friends and you are far better off without their negativity in your life.
2006-09-29 08:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself it might be shameful
only to you
if your friends are really friends they will understand and stand by you and your partner
i would tell them if you really think they should know
other wise make out and get court by one or all of you friends
people get over it when they see you are happy being your true-selves
2006-09-29 08:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by Zara3 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
well honestly I'd think about moving on in the friendship department...your friends don't sound too friendly to me... Real friends don't belittle you and not listen to what you are saying..
2006-09-29 11:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something you can't force on them. They either will or they won't. No in-between on this one. I'm sorry that they do not take you seriously.
2006-09-29 11:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋