Conceiving after a stillbirth?

Question

Early July this year I was induced at 37 weeks as it was found that our baby boy was no longer alive. We are wanting to have another baby soon, so I was wondering if anyone can tell us how long it will take my body to get back to 'normal' I have had two periods since the birth. Having another baby is part of our healing process and I long for my own baby in my arms. Please help with advice and information

Answer 1

In a case like this I would talk to your doctor before you start trying. I know that they tell you to have another baby soon after you lose one, but you want to make sure that your body is ready for that.
I am so sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

First off, I am so sorry you have had to endure that pain. I have had 3 MC's early on, and one baby came very early. They chose not to help her, and she laid in my arms where she passed away. I can understand your hurt...

Most docs will tell you to wait up to a year. I forget what they told me after a MC, but really, to be totally honest with you....it is your choice. I'd check with the doctor though and see what his recommendation is, and WHY, other than healing hurt. After you have a baby it doesn't take a year to heal your body after all...

But be cautious. I am now pregnant, and scared to death to lose this baby too due to early labor. I have a better doc this time who cares for high risk people, but the risk is still there. I can honestly say that if I had to bury another child it could literally kill me. Some will say I should not be taking the risk then, but YOU can understand I am sure. just be careful in your choice, stay on top of your care...if you are worried, TELL THEM!!! My doc gave me a card that told things to see your doc for, and the final one was if the mother has a bad feeling about something. You DO have a say in what they do and don't do, and you CAN ask for that extra ultrasound or test to help you know what is going on and ease your fears.

Please don't try to replace your son with another baby. I understand the desire you have, but much like losing a parent, your other parent my remarry, but the new spouse could never replace your original parent, could they? Love the new baby, when the time does come, but don't forget the one you lost. Keep his memory alive in you and share with your new baby when he or she is old enough.

Hang in there, and honestly...if you want someone to talk to with some anonymity, go ahead and email me....
Good luck to you hun!

Answer 3

I wish I had info for you. I'll look. I just wanted to say I'm so sorry! I can't imagine. You will be blessed. No test like that goes unrewarded.

Go to this website. Not much info, but maybe some inspiration
http://preconception.com/resources/articles/lifeafter.htm

Pregnancy after a stillbirth is possible. However, give yourself time to heal, both physically and mentally, before trying again. The likelihood of a recurrent stillbirth will depend on the cause of the first stillbirth. While a genetic defect could appear in another pregnancy, a stillbirth caused by a chromosomal abnormality is unlikely to repeat itself.

When you do become pregnant again, take care to receive proper prenatal care throughout your pregnancy to help prevent another stillbirth from occurring.
http://www.pregnancy-info.net/stillbirth.html

http://www.capersbookstore.com.au/scripts/shop_item.asp?by=a2z&item=1202

Ooh try this one!!!!
http://www.having-a-baby.com/tryingagain.htm

Here is forum just for trying to concive after loss. They may have more information.
http://members.essentialbaby.com.au/index.php?showforum=35

Answer 4

You really need to be sure that you are trying to get pregnant for the RIGHT reason, not just to replace the baby you lost.

I understand the want to feel your baby in your arms but you really need to let your body heal fully b4 the trauma of another pregnancy.

When the time is right , it will happen, if you try to force it, you will likely face more heartbreak

Answer 5

You should wait atleast a year for your body to heal