2006-09-29 00:37:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes even though I try extremely hard not to be, I tend to be a little jealous on the inside, maybe out of fear of being hurt. I have been hurt almost all my life and I have had a pretty rough past. I have since become as open with my husband as I could possibly be. I have tried to change and better myself for our relationship. I used to be extremely jealous and insecure, I changed this for the most part.
My husbands best friend is a girl, and although I try not to be jealous I have to say I am. Because shes the female version of him, and he gets along better with her than me,(because they have the same type of personality and sense of humor) he see's her more since they work together. He calls her sometimes and talks to her on yahoo mess all the time. I honestly know that they are just best friends but sometimes I tend to hurt myself and think that he wants something more with her than what he lets on. I have no trust hardly because he has hurt me many times in the past even though he hasnt ever cheated. Up until he thought he may have had feelings for her ( and lied about this to me) had I trusted him whole heartedly. Now he says he wouldnt want to be with her because they would end up fighting and splitting up because they are to much alike. So anyway the point is even though I am slightly jealous of her and him I try not to let this get in the way of my relationship. I try to block the jealousy away even though it slips up on occasion, because I want to trust my husband again and I want to have a good relationship and trust him again. I dont want to let petty jealousy get in the way of my love for him and our family life. We talk about everything together and my husband knows I am slightly jealous but he also knows that I dont let it get in the way. I am friends with the girl and I intend on staying friends with her because she is a nice person.
Besides my husband knows the consequences of his actions hes a big boy..lol.. he knows if he ever cheated on me he may not loose me but it would make his life hell for a while. He also knows if he makes the same mistake repetitively that I will leave and he says he never wants to loose me because I'm the most strongest and nicest person that he has ever known and he knows he doesnt want to loose what he has because he realizes what he has... now that I have wrote a novel on trust I will stop at that. My point to all this word jumble is that, people shouldnt let their own insecurities get in the way of their relationships. If they want a strong and lasting relationship they have to learn to let things go and just go with the flow of things. Im not saying that you cant be insecure. I think everyone worries to a certain extent that they are going to be hurt because of things because everyone has a fear of being hurt by the ones they love. You just gotta know when to let go of these fears and try not to let them get in the way and that will help your relationship grow and last...
Thanks for taking the time to read my long drawn out answer...LoL
2006-09-29 00:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am %100 secure. Always have been. If there was ever any doubt I would look at the issues and work them out. My fiance and I have been together 3 years and we are still nuts about each other. If it's meant to be it's meant to be, you know. Even if things don't work out that means there is obviously somewhere else we should be. Everything happens for a reason so there is no point being insecure. Good question.
2006-09-29 00:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you be talking about friends, lovers or family. Personally, I am not insecure. THere is no reason to be. Why bother to be around someone who makes you question yourself. Therefore- how could you be insecure? Life is too short and too full of other things so anyone that makes you feel insecure needs to go.
2006-09-29 00:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by Shawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no - I've been past that for lots of years now
I'm me
my husband loves me
my kids love me
my boss thinks I'm great
my co-workers are great
my family gets along (cause we're over it)
my friends love me unconditionally
life is grand after 40
get over it quickly - because it goes real fast
2006-09-29 00:39:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all that insure, Is just that I just can't trust him fully, would that be classified as insurity.
I love him anyway. I am also happy being around him.
2006-09-29 00:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i normally get really insecure... i'm fine once i'm with them and then as soon as they leave i get paranoid and upset cause i can't understand why they would want to be with me?
2006-09-29 00:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that only an insecure person is insecure in relationships..........!!!!!!!!
2006-09-29 00:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....We have TRUST in or relationship
2006-09-29 00:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by R W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably about everyone is in the world...
you can Never Really be sure of your mate
2006-09-29 00:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes and no
2006-09-29 00:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋