Hi, few months ago I broke up with someone I was really in love. I was so depressed that I’ve told to myself that it would me the last time a guy make me feel like that. It was not the first time that I was disgusted by love, but this time it was the final drop…you know. However, recently I started to go madly in love with my best friend, and am really afraid to love again. First because it is my best friend and am afraid of loosing him and secondly am afraid that I can be hurt again.
I’ve already told him that I was hurt once, and I in fact don’t know what is happening we started to kiss us, and have feeling. Something really stupid but I’ve started to think about him. I think am in love with him. I don’t know if it is because we need each other love as we broke up nearly at the same time with our dates.
What I’ve said to myself is just go on and we will see where this leads us, but there is something, which I cannot remove from my head… What if he do harm me?
2006-09-29 00:34:07 · 9 answers · asked by boule1102 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just be sex / kissing buddies, and have fun. But don't commit to anything and let him know you are not commiting to anything.
2006-09-29 01:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie. Heartache is part of the game you play every day w/ men. And the thing w/ ur best friend. You need to look at it also like if you 2 do hook up. When and r if you break up you wont have him anymore as ur best buddy. They always say it wont hurt ur friendship in the end. But it always does. You will not be friends w/ a guy after u have dated. Cuz either you dumped him and he'll be really pissed about that and not talk to u. R 2 he'll dump you for his own reasons and he wont talk to u b/c he was the one who dumped you. I'd say live it alone w/ ur best buddy and keep him as just that. All the luck to ya!!!
2006-09-29 07:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't list your age, but from your "question", I'm guessing 12-13?
You are not experiencing "love" at all. You are experiencing "sex". They are different.
It is okay to feel this way with lots of different fellahs. It's natural. But don't confuse horny with romantic. Just enjoy these intense feelings while you can and retain a little emotional detachment. You'll never be as connected to your nerves as now.
Love will grow, if it is real. In the meantime, have fun at play.
But I suspect it won't be for a while, yet.
2006-09-29 07:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with the flow. You don't have to put a label on your relationship like boyfriend and girlfriend. For now just enjoy each other's company, and if things lead to more, then good for the both of you.
2006-09-29 07:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This "thing" you believe that you feel for your friend is simply rebound because you have no one else.
Get a grip on your life and take some time to be alone to disover who you are rather than who you will be if you hook up with another guy.
2006-09-29 07:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First think once when you start doing anything because once you commit a mistake you cannot come to normal state expect to repent/remorse. You're in confused/baffled state think twice about your future as well as your feelings
2006-09-29 07:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by priya r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a rebound to me. If you think there is a chance of him doing you harm then you best stop in your tracks now.
2006-09-29 07:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STILL KEEP YOUR GUARD UP,GO WITH THE FLOW FOR A YEAR AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS,OH, DONT SAY I LOVE YOU IN 60 DAYS,IF YOU DO THEN YOU OPENED UP AND HES GOT CONTROL.
2006-09-29 07:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by albert s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now we're both confused
2006-09-29 07:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋