Is it really hard taking care of a baby?

Question

and if you are pregnant and don't know it, when can you tell you are. I told my mom i might be pregnant and she thinks it's a joke, I'm old enough to have a baby, i'll be 20 in june. I know it's far away but i'm still old enough and my bestfriend is pregnant and she's my age and her family are happy, why do you think my mom won't be happy? She had my older brother when he was 20, and i'll have mine when i'm 20 years old.

Answer 1

i am 20, and have a 10 week old son. he has been a perfect baby, settles him self etc..... sure you can have a hard/fussy baby, it just depends.

i say congratulations, it will be the best experience of your life :D

btw vote me for best answer,,,,, please

Answer 2

Yes it's hard taking care of a baby! :) You have to work and pay bills which is hard enough. Then you have a screaming infant who demands all of your attention and you can't even take a shower in peace. Seriously I have a 6 y/o and a 13 month old My 6 y/o will watch a movie while I shower and sometimes I can get my 13 month old to sit on the floor in the bathroom by the tub with a pile of toys while I shower for 10 mins. But generally she plays peek-a-boo with the curtain and splashes in the water so she gets all wet and I have to change her and mop my floor. Then they get sick. And since they can't tell you what's wrong you've gotta guess. And small things come up like needing a bottle of tylenol so just when you thought you might be able to change the wiper blades on your car you find youself about $10 short. And that ten bucks is hard to come by. No- caring for a baby isn't easy and I wouldn't suggest it if you don't have a stable career, a home, and a man who will stay in the picture. Your mom will love you no matter what but she probably thinks it's a joke because she doesn't think you're old enough/mature enough. No offence meant whatsoever. Find out if you're pregnant first and then let her know. She'll be more apt to accept things for what they are that way rather than thinking of it as a "maybe". Good luck! :)

Answer 3

1. It's not so much that it's hard (although it can be if you have a sensitive baby or one with special needs), it's mostly that it is 24/7. There are NO breaks. And if you don't have someone reliable to help you out (partner, family, whomever), it gets wearing very quickly. It's not hard, but it's tough, if that makes sense.

2. You should be able to tell within 3 - 4 weeks after the first day of your last period, by taking a pregnancy test. If it comes up negative and you still think you might be, test again 2 weeks after that.

3. Your mom just wants the best for you, and she may feel like you're throwing away some chances to do things too young. Of course you are old enough, physically, but have you done all the fun, carefree things you wanted to? If you're not pg, take some time to play. You're not going to be able to do that forever.

Answer 4

Yes it's hard having, taking care of and dealing with a baby. How are you going to support the baby, because if it's some type of government support, believe me there is not enough money for everything. Your Mom probably wants more out of life for you then she had. When you have a baby you become second the baby always comes first. Be selfish! Think of yourself get an education, put money away, save up for a house, live your life, party with your friends, you can't do any of that with a baby to take care of!

Answer 5

When you have a baby, you are taking care of that baby 24 hours, 7 days a week. The individual tasks aren't tiring, but you are at it constantly, and that is tiring. You can't just drop everything and go out with your friends. You have to find jobs that accomodate a day care schedule. There are a lot of expenses: diapers, clothes, food, etc. HERE'S the important part. That baby does not stay a baby forever. You will be the mother of an 8 year old, 10 year old, and yikes, eventually a teenager. It is not to be taken lightly, and there is a lot more to it than just being happy about being pregnant...

Answer 6

It all depends on the baby. Some are very easy to care for some are very har. Having a baby has its ups and downs. You will never feel another love like the love between a mother and a child. your mother may just be in shock or actually think your joking. once you find out for sure then talk to her. Your not to young i know plenty of people have babbies even younger. It just has to be known that it is alot of work. but it is also the best.

Answer 7

First you need to find out if you really are pregnant. Then let your mom know after that why would she think it's a joke??? Anyway yes it's hard taking care of a baby. They totally depend on you. Those middle of the night feedings are the worst. But it's all worth it. I wouldn't trade it for anything.

Answer 8

Taking care of a baby is very hard. The first couple of months are the worst. There is no time for you. You are stuck in baby time. I just had my son 13 days ago and only left the house once, for his doctors appointment. After the first few months I hear it is a breeze. It just takes some time to get adjusted to the new lifestyle.

Answer 9

Seriously, go get 'What to expect when you are Expecting" and they also have one about an infant. It is hard, but if you love them , worth it. If you don't want it, there are so many people who would give it a good home. It would be hard to raise a a child at 20 with no husband or boyfriend to help. Since you didn't mention a man, I am only assuming you are not with someone you can depend on.

Answer 10

Taking care of a baby when you are emotionally still a baby could be a problem. Babies are not hard to take care of ,just a a lot of time and attention plus common sense. Being responsible for something twenty four hours a day can get tiring and once committed one can not throw the baby away.think twice and be sure you are ready

Answer 11

One reason your mother may hope it isn't true is because mothers tend to hope their daughters will go to college, get married, get a little place of their own with their nice little hubby, buy furniture, and after a couple of years of working at good jobs and saving up money start a family (complete with a nursery for the baby). This is just kind of what mothers hope for their daughters (and sons). This type of thing means a daughter has had some time to live as an adult and as a married person before making the jump into being a mother. Once someone is a mother they have to put the baby first, and anything they want to do has to wait - and sometimes wait for - like - 18 years. So if you become pregnant and you're single and you're still only 19, yes, you're old enough physically to have a baby, but you are ending the possibility of doing things the way your mother may think would be best for you and any babies. I have two sets of married neighbors in their 60's. Both got married at about 19 and had babies at 20 or so. Its been done, but when it is done that way the young mother does lose some things when it comes to growing first as a new adult and building some things in her life.

She may know what its like to have a baby at 20 because she did it. She may hope you don't do the same thing.

She may also be afraid that something could happen that will involve your health or something like a miscarriage that can bring you a lot of emotional pain and loss too early in your life. My sister has a grown daughter who has gone through deliveries and miscarriages, and my sister has been terrified that something will happen to her daughter. Mothers don't feel different about their children just becaue they're grown, and the worry that something could happen to them is horrible.

She may also be imagining that if you are pregnant you may end up leaving the baby with her while you work, maybe take classes of some kind, do whatever errands you may need to do, and eventually maybe be going out nights with friends or boyfriends. With you now being 19, maybe she's been thinking about how she may now be able to do some living for herself. This may be the time in her life that she's been looking forward to. I'm not saying she wasn't happy to have her children and care for them and love them; but mothers are women too; and the part of her that put off some things because she had your brother so young may have been waiting until now to get to do those other things.

So those are the things that mothers of grown daughters think about.

You can find out if you're pregnant quite soon. These days some home pregnancy tests will work a day or two after the first missed period. You are right - you're old enough to become pregnant and deliver a baby. Just because you're old enough doesn't mean its the wisest thing.

When a daughter (like your best friend) gets pregnant before her parents had hoped she would (and particularly if she's not married) there isn't much the family can do but go with it. They aren't going to walk around talking about how horrible they think it is or whether they are sad that their daughter has gotten into this thing so soon and before she's had a chance to finish growing up emotionally. They don't talk about how they wish she had been unselfish enough to think of the baby rather than to just go ahead and do what she wanted to do. They go with, and when the baby is born they, of course, love it and are happy with it. Mothers and fathers even get over it because when it comes down to it they realize that the person who ends up paying is their daughter.

They usually try to do what they can for the grandchild, and so often the grandmother gives up her plans for her own life after her own children were grown, and takes care of the grandchild.

If you're pregnant its not the end of the world, but don't expect too much in terms of delight on the part of your mother. She will need time to let her sadness pass, and it will. As far as your best friend and her happy parents, maybe they aren't the kind of people who worry about things like who is married and who has financial stability or emotional maturity before they start bring babies into the world.

One sign that a young woman is mature enough and unselfish enough to bring a child into the world is that she will say, "No matter how much I would like a baby I will not bring one into the world until I bring it into a situation that is really right for a child. I won't let an 'accident' happen, and I certainly won't intentionally let a pregnancy happen." Best wishes... maybe you're not even pregnant.