My best friend has a boyfriend. She doesn't even want a boyfriend in the first place. And now that she does, she's always talking about him and she doesn't care about me. I'm not jealous or anything, i just feel betrayed. Please send your answer. Thank you.
2006-09-27 23:40:33 · 13 answers · asked by nate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i'm sure she does care about you.Is this her first boyfreind?If it is,talking about him is normal because this relationship is new to her.Do'nt feel betrayed.Call her up or when you see her,pull her to the side and say something like "Hey-I miss hanging with you.Do you want to come over and spend the night this Friday?We'll watch some DVD's and order pizza".Let her know that you still consider her a freind and that you wanna have a girls' night-just you and her and NOT you,her and her boyfreind.Hope that helps.
2006-09-27 23:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by the_silver_tin_man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not jealous? Please. You feel as though the boyfriend has taken your place with your best friend and now you can't figure out where you stand with her. This is normal, to an extent. You don't mention how old you are, but if this is your first experience with "boyfriends", lighten up. Ask your friend to make some time for you alone and explain to her that you are feeling left out and that you miss her and all the time you used to spend together. Perhaps you could ask that she set aside some time now and then for just the two of you to go and do stuff together like you used to. Boys come and go, but a true friend will still be there through the ups and downs every time. This is a good opportunity for you to expand your circle of friends too, just don't walk away from your old ones.
Be happy for your friend, she didn't betray you, she's growing up and you need to as well.
2006-09-28 06:55:45 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm no offense but you seem to be abit jealous, which is expected. You were used to being her main attention and now that she has a boyfriend it changes your daily routine. Try not to let it upset you so much. Be happy for her but be there for her should she need a shoulder to cry on later. Seems to me she is just moving on to the next phase in her life. The fact she is yacking up a storm about him to you shows that she does care about you since she is sharing these things with you. Let her have both a best friend and a love.
2006-09-28 06:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by Laura R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet your age is between 16-20 because when I was younger I went through a similar thing with my best friend. It's hard when you are used to spending a lot of time together and then all of a sudden she's not just a phone call away- she has her own life. I suggest get out there, make new friends and then you won't be relying on her. Be her friend, support her but get on with your own life.
2006-09-28 06:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want a boyfriend, but yet she constantly talks about him? Trust me, girly, she wants a boyfriend.
As for you, if you stop playing the martyr and give her some space, maybe your friendship can be saved. But if you continue to play the drama queen ("oh, look at me, my friend is not focussed solely on me, what a betrayal"), I think your friend is better off without you.
2006-09-28 06:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes you dont feel nice but there are three solutions.
1 . move on and make new friends
2 . find a bf and go out the 2 couples
3 . stay alone
if i were u i would choose to find a bf and ask my best friend to go out and have fun
2006-09-28 06:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Santa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey come on friend.. dont be silly.. dont confuse love with friendshipp. hope she wil be a partner of himm.. then why ur confused.. its natural that a girl wil take care her boyfriend in the stage of love. so be happy that ur freind wont leave u on any occasion.. take care..
2006-09-28 07:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by visakagn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Betrayed but not jealous?
Get a life.
2006-09-28 06:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jim 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well its a part of life...do tn worry......there are very few people who is attached to their own principal...okay ..so dint worry and enjoy..!!
2006-09-28 07:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Sanjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a boyfriend yourself
2006-09-28 06:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋