It started last year in may. My friend who I'll call 'niki' stopped answering my phone calls. I called her to ask her to go out & she never returned my calls so I e-mailed her & she didn't return my e-mails. This went on for a month,everytime I called I was told she wasnt home.By the end of June I had stopped calling & e-mailing her because she never got back to me. I decided to text her and she still didn't get back to me so I gave up on her. Around the end of August I try to contact her and she finally answered the phone.I tried to find out why she had been acting the way she had but she dodged the question. she did let slip that she met some guy but wouldn't tell me anything about him. She claimed she had to go back 2 work and would call me back later that day but she didnt.At the end of September last year she sent me a'unvitation' to here birthday in Vegas which I turned down with her behavior.I got sappy xmas email in December saying she missed me. yet she Skipped out on me
2006-09-27 23:33:03 · 6 answers · asked by earth goddess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
at xmas altogether and I lost money on the gifts I bought and I didn't see her till January, It was like she was a stranger when she came to see me. She promised we would get together but we didn't. I found out from her sister in August that my so called best friend is getting married to the guy she has yet to tell me about. And no it's not an ex or someone I know I talked to her sister. I haven't gotten an invitation to a bridal shower or her wedding at all.
So am I right is she two faced? I think she used me and the tossed me. Should I bother with trying to reconnect with her? Her birthday is in a week should I contact her or just turn my back to her the same way and move on?
2006-09-27 23:33:47 · update #1
should I not contact her for her Birthday in a week also?
2006-09-27 23:46:21 · update #2
move on
2006-09-27 23:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Santa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go, You are carrying on a one sided friendship. For her to dodge you and then invite you to a birthday means she wants only to use you for a headcount and a gift. If she was truly your friend you would have heard about the new man and herplans with him from the beginning. She had repeatedly avoided you. Should she suddenly invite you to the wedding (my guess it would be the reception) don't rsvp. It would be just another gift giving gimic. She is far from a sincere friend and to chase her down to be your friend seems desperate. Don't be her fool.
2006-09-28 06:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Laura R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she is two faced but I don't think she's your freind either.Yeah-she's getting married and planning a wedding takes a lot of time for everything but still-she should have invited you or included you in the wedding.I wouldn't try to reconnect with her.You've done all what you could do.She knows how to get in touch with you and,if she wants to,she will but,overall,it sounds like she doesn't wanna be freinds anymore.i'm sorry-I know you probably don't wanna hear that.Let it be and move on-there's no sense of chasing something that's not there.
2006-09-28 06:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by the_silver_tin_man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if this had happened to me I would probably give up. Friendship is two-fold. You are doing your part and she is not doing her part. I would chalk this up to a learning experience and move on. For whatever reason, and you may never know why, she has decided to leave you out of her plans and her life. She may miss you and tells you verbally but her actions or lack of actions to spend time with you or to keep you informed about what is going on in her life says it all. Move on --find new friends
2006-09-28 06:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by luckysue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't like how she treats you then that's reason enough to end the friendship. don't see the reason for your question, she isn't acting like a friend and you know this, she;s avoiding you and you know this, she didn't invite you to her wedding, and you know this, so what;s the question really?
2006-09-28 06:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move forward, let the past be the past and expect better treatment from someone else
2006-09-28 06:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋