We have been seeing each other during last 4 months, we both married, but NOT to each other. We both not happy with out husband/ wife. Many reasons( kids, finance, etc) that we can not be divorced. This relationship is very much of a ‘dead end street’. But we both want each other so much, want to see each other so much…. What should we do? Help please.
2006-09-27 23:10:26 · 17 answers · asked by Tomorrowalwaysbetter! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if your going to continue seeing each other, someone or some thing is going to happen and you will be found out about. now think this threw deeply and see if it is real or is it just about sex. if its real you dont need to be having sex. if it is about sex, you are about to distroy the trust and love that your families have for you. if it is about sex, there will never be a time in your future that your partner eg the one you married is going to beleive where you are at night. dont do it. if i could turn back time, i would. fifteen years later you still wonder where they are at nights. there is still no trust.
2006-09-27 23:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by jane_sutherland1966 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both meeting is your escape your me time away from reality ,you dont take your kids out or to the park together do you ?no its just time for you both away from your lives,if you got together if you were to hook up after divorces it would turn into your real lives but with different people you would still have your kids your bills,etc.any marrige is stressful maybe your new love feelings are running out you say your at a dead end i just think you tried it and your over it,im sure the first 4 months with your husband were great too.good luck and remember the grass isnt always greener on the other side.good luck to you and your family.
2006-09-28 06:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your soul mates ...and it seems not ment to be together at this point in time ..your stolen moments will have to do for the present .. If I were you I would look past the sex to a friendship that will stand the test of time ...
You both need to decide if you are happy with the loves that your living with or the love that you can't live without ... ( each other )
2006-09-28 06:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To live in peace and honesty you either have to end the cheating and work on your marriage or figure out a way you guys can divorce and be together. Whatever you decide you need to move cautiously because the ones who will be hurt the most are your children.
2006-09-28 08:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your lover,examine what your relationship means for each other.the sweetest sex is forbidden sex ,it adds a ceretain element of danger and excitment,it's hot..........! get caught and the sh_t will hit the fan.if you both keep seeing one another and "have"to stay married be carefull and don't get caught but always remember if you do get caught there is a good chance you will end up doing what you now say you can't and that's divorcing who you are married to...........so............???do all involved a favor and plan your divorce,i bet your lover backs off when you want them full time.
2006-09-28 06:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by looken4answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of two things:
Stop seeing each other. If you are happy in your marriage don't mess things up with temptations.
Or get a divorced and get together b/c you are just hurting your spouse and children.
2006-09-28 06:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by Claudia S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and own up to the promises u made to ur spouses and stop actting like giddy immature children that can do what they want and not to have to pay consequences for your actions.. unfortunately u chose improperly on ur spouses.. but ultimately u made a "LIFE" long commitment to them and ur word should be your "HONOR" and right now u both are a disgrace and u have no honor.. Your disrespecting your spouse, each other, and yourselves..
2006-09-28 06:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the divorce. You are playing a dangerous game. If you get caught cheating, you will lose MORE than half.
I'd rather give 50% than 99%.
2006-09-28 10:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what ever possible to try and save your marrige. People throw it away to easy these days. Everyone has troubles for a while in their marriges and the strong once pull through their problems and live happy.
2006-09-28 06:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by Eaglesrule 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the movie, Same Time Next Year. Alan Alda movie, but a good one nontheless. Sounds like one of those situations.
Um, good luck?!
2006-09-28 06:16:57 · answer #10 · answered by mindrizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋