Well, I dated this guy for 4 years on and off. And I've known this girl for 5 years and we've been best friends pretty much as soon as we met. Well the guy was my first love, and I still love the boy but I don't want to be with him anymore. But since I know I don't want to be with him anymore how come I still get butterflies when I see him and my heart hurts so bad when I think about him with her {he's datin my best friend now and she might be prego}. How come I get so angry with her and yell so much. How can I stop this anger cause no guy is worth lettin a friendship {that the girl is like your sister} go is it?
2006-09-27 23:09:03 · 13 answers · asked by BigBrownEyes906 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you obviously still have feelings for the guy or else there would be no butterflies inside...i think you are probably feeling betrayed by your girlfriend..i think i would...i think that anger in this situation is normal...you will have to forgive her for betraying you if you want to stop feeling angry...when you have bad thoughts about the two of them try not to think of your hurt...even though i am sure that it is there..and focus on positive things...like how much fun you have with your girlfriend..or how you can be an emotional support person for your friend...that's the only way i can think of to deal with this situation and i think that it will take alot of maturity and understanding on your part...
2006-09-27 23:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by bertha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just recite...
3...2...1.........1...2...3....what the hell is bothering me?
or
Wooo ssahhhhh.....
ok seriously. Look point is you still like the guy. Like you said he was your first love. Then you have your girl....she probably knows everything there is to know about him through you and you know this. I hate to say it but you could be a little jealous but that is normal and I think the best way to get over it is to move on. Go out more. I hate to say this but you need a break from both of them. I know your close but thats the problem. You need time for you. Get things back into perspective. Take a vacation from yoir problems, from them. Good luck.
2006-09-27 23:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His using you. He slips back into your life when your just curing, confuses your heart and destroys it each time. Only way to heal is to make a deliberate effort to break the relationship, even friendship and try not seeing eachother nor your friend. You should heal completely in about 18-24 months. Sorry no easy solutions. The relationship took 4 years to build, it will take some time to heal the pain.
2006-09-27 23:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get angry but not on that boy or girl but on you because you got to be with that boy whome you dont want anymore and your friend will not follow your instruction as she might be thinking that you r jelous of her with your past Bfriend.
The best way is to prove her you are not intersted in that guy anymore and then tell only once your friend to be aware of that boy and after that leave her alone and yes sports is the best way to keep yourself buissy in an interestin way, like Taekwondo Jujdo football.so on
any way i am A recognized Black belt and i know the situation that has been the situation for me as well. in the past .
2006-09-27 23:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your best friend is pregnant by your ex.... hmmm...that's tough! They didn't start dating before you broke up did they? Was it a mutual break up, do you still like the guy as a friend? Maybe you should try being happy for them... and move on. You really don't have the right to be angry if they didn't deceive you or betray you in anyway. If they did...well then she isn't much of a friend, is she?!?
2006-09-27 23:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you said that you still love the guy. but you don't want to be with him anymore. so it means you have no right to be angry towards your friend anymore. you gave up your right over the guy.
it's normal that you feel bad when you see him together with the girl because you still have strong feelings for him. unfortunately you have to understand that it's over between you and him. move on with your life. be happy for them that they are soon going to have a family.
sadly, remorse has to be always in the end. but you already made the decision not to be with him. so be responsible and face the consequences of your decision.
2006-09-27 23:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to be angry..your boyfriend and best amte get together how else are you meant to act?? In time you will stop feeling angry.
2006-09-27 23:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop getting angry. You can either bottle it up, or, let it out, best place is in a sport like karate, judo, boxing, and so forth..
2006-09-27 23:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by Game Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wekk maybe spending less time with them together and just spend as much time as you can with her, and if she is a good friend she will understand that you need sometime to be apart from him and she will be there for you.
2006-09-28 00:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best way to conquer your anger is to face it. So, try to stalk and follow them. Make sure you look on your best dress. Go to the parlor before you stalk them. :)
2006-09-27 23:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by AskMeNot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋