i am17 years old and i want to forget my ex but im still inlove with him despite that he cheated me many times.What should ido? do i still need to forgive him and be a friend of him or not?
2006-09-27 21:13:07 · 32 answers · asked by PEBBLES A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As harsh as this may sound...you really need to move on. You gave him too many chances if you say he has cheated on you many times. I know it's hard to forget him since you love him but lets face the facts...he isn't trustworthy. Trust is very fragile, once broken, hard to repair. He cannot be faithful to you if he has cheated on you multiple times even if he claims he's changed. You have to forget him even if that means not being friends with him or otherwise it will cause you more heartbreak. The sooner you let him go the better. If you continue to see him, it will only hurt YOU in the long run. You can forgive him but you must forget him also. Good luck and best wishes.............
2006-09-27 21:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by * TeXaS cHiCk * 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him but DON'T TAKE HIM BACK. He doesn't deserve THAT much forgivness! He's a loser. You are VERY young and you will find another...MANY others that will love you for you and everything about you without feeling the urge to go get some else where. Please don't take ANY cheating BUM back into your life. Maybe be a friend, but NOT his lover/girlfriend. You'll just get hurt again NO MATTER how many times he tells you he's sorry and that he won't ever do it again. He's got to EARN your trust and it doesn't take a week or a month, he's GOTTA SHOW you, but still don't take him back. This will teach him a lesson if he really loves you. Then he may not do this again with his "next" girlfriend. You don't deserve it this cheating crap that he pulls and he doesn't deserve YOU! MOVE ON!
2006-09-27 21:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Cherries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stay with someone who cheated on me.
Well thers nothing wrong if you keep him as a friend though you shouldn't tell him your deepest secrets. But if you think this friendship will make you feel attracted to him, forget about it and move on with your life.
In Italian there is is a quote " il lupo perde il pelo ma non il vizzio" meaning that who's born round will not die square. He might try to change but believe me, he did it once (in your case more) and there is no guarantee he won't do it again because he has shown what he can do. I mentioned this so that you wont get emotionally involved with you as he can break your heart later on.
Forgive but not forget. Be a woman, keep your word and if you want give him your friendship but not yourself. If you think that the matter is getting personal, avoid him. I m sure you're worthed more than that
2006-09-27 21:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by Rody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can forgive him. But you do not go back for more of the same! If you can not be non-sexual friends then you need to go on with your life and let Him do the same.
We are to forgive people for sure and it is good that we do! But, you don't play the part of a fool either! Just because you forgive some one, don't mean that you place your self back in the same situation!
2006-09-27 21:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can forgive but remember that there are several diseases out there that you are putting yourself at risk of contacting dealing with this guy. It sounds like he can not be faithful therefore he does not need to be in a relationship until he is ready to make that commitment to someone! good luck
2006-09-27 21:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by TNW22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...you should forgive him...then send him on his way. You have to become mentally strong. He is controlling you and you are letting him. Get him out of your life and mean it.
He dares to continue to disrespect and hurt you...and you need to ask us if you should forgive him?
Don't you love yourself?
Now is the time to stand up for yourself and use common sense. Never let any man rule you! If you continue, you will always be dis-respected.
"To thine own self be true".
Start now.
2006-09-27 21:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! It is very rare for two exes to be friends, and if he cheated on you many times he does not respect you and is not worth your friendship anyway! Even though it is hard, move on!
2006-09-27 21:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U trully are 17
2006-09-27 22:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive but do not forget. Move on with your life.
2006-09-27 21:26:31 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
İf you care about you,if you love yourself,you'd never think that you would need someone like him.No one deserves that ,no one should ever accept it in any circumstances.İf he thinks he can find better ,he can go kid himself.ı could be the better one for somebody else.I deserve better,I would never love someone like him after he cheated.And you shouldn't too.You and all the others who cheated on,deserve so much better!
2006-09-27 21:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋