I have never been very close to my Mom/Dad & sisters due to my differences in my opinions and my inability for putting up with unhealthy put downs or mind games. I also have/had two older brothers..for the most part normally on gd terms with both. All my life it seems as though my mom's M.O. was to make sure that me and my other brother never felt like part of the family...for reasons never revealed to me. When my oldest bro(mom and dad's favorite child) was admitted to the hospital- my family (mom-dad-and 2 sisters) did not contact me or my other brother until after my oldest bro passed. I normally called my oldest bro monthly and actually called the week he was ill, but my voicemail was not returned. This week marks the 1 yr anniversary of my brother's passing and I still feel the anger toward my mom/dad and sisters who made the decision not to contact us. How do I get over this? It has no remedy but I can't let go of the anger.
2006-09-27 20:21:29 · 5 answers · asked by justwondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am so sorry this happened to you. Pray for peace and forgiveness for what they did to you- If you can find it in your heart to forgive them, you can move on. I will pray tonight that you find peace.
2006-09-27 21:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by RY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is my address it, too. i understand sometime (possibly on the instant--who is conscious?) i'll die. there isn't something in besides i will do approximately it. i don't probable also have a call as to the way it will take place: I survived maximum cancers so as that i will choke on a hen bone. yet whilst my finished existence centers around fearing dying, then that existence is pointless. mutually as i can't end dying, i will direct my existence; i'm a father, a husband, a chum, a brother, and a son. i'm additionally very enormous on attempting new issues... I only breathe extra desirable whilst i'm including journey. Oh... and to the poster who reported that the non-non secular are people who worry dying: i'm an Atheist. it is attitude and action, not faith and custom, that fuels me. And particular i've got confronted my own dying extra desirable than as quickly as.
2016-10-18 03:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by dorseyiii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it seems you were already angry with your family and had no contact with them.
Its a shame that they did not contact you but what would have changed had they called you when he was in the hospital? They were probably thinking if you cared you would have looked for him more ( not my opinion).
If they were very spiteful they would have waited till after the funeral.
Its normal for you to be angry at them but that isnt going to change the situation or mend any fences.
Have you tried a bit of councelling? Are you willing to start over with them and try for a better relationship? That might help you forgive them somewhere down the line, although you already had anger in you because of the way they treated you before this.
2006-09-27 20:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by chiara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is a hard one. Have you tried to talk to them about how you feel. Even if they don't care, just telling them might help you heal.
I am sorry for your loss.
2006-09-27 20:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by justthinkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to move on love don't live there no more.
2006-09-27 20:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋