I really need to know. I am having such ambivalence about divorcing my husband for so many reasons. For one, we have 2 small children and we've been together for 12 years. We still love eachother but he has anger issues. He has even admitted to me that that's all he knows ( he grew up with a father like that).
Finally I have always heard htat God hates divorce and I fel guilty about making it final. Please help!
2006-09-27 19:52:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm sure the courts can force him to go to anger management therapy
2006-09-27 19:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anger management courses can be enforced by the courts, but only under certain circumstances. For example, if you called the cops on him when he was being verbally abusive to you, a judge could recommend that he takes the course.
However, if he is aware of the problem, and he knows that it is causing his relationship to suffer, would he be oppossed to going to an anger management course voluntarily? Tell him that its essential to your marriage that he does this.
If you need to leave him, then do it. Do you want your children growing up in a home with the big bad wolf? If he is not willing to change, then take the leap and get out of there. There is no guilt to be had over this situation - almost every other marriage ends in divorce.
2006-09-27 20:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't "hate" divorce.....it is the Catholic church (to my knowledge) that does not allow divorce if you are married through the church.
Tell your husband that his behavior will no longer be acceptable. Talk to him, ask him to find ways to release that anger in a different manner. Sometimes a physical activity such as Yoga or some form of martial arts helps control that. Enhances character and teaches self discipline.
As far as the court ordering it.......you were not specific as to what stae you live in. each state has thier own set of laws and rules. Most of the time that court will not order it unless there has been some sort of family violence cases....(priors). Or if he has been arrested for family violence he can request the judge for those anger mngt classes as part of his sentencing, but it is up to the judge to aprove it, or pass a sentence.
It sounds to me that if he is not willing to go volunteraly to a counseling session and it takes a court order to get it done.....there isn't much to save on that relationship. Most ppl would go in a heart beat to save their marriage, not because the courts tell them to.
Wish you luck
2006-09-27 20:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by spanishflyin_tx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a part of everyday life now a days. Just remember that God wants all of us to be happy while on this earth. And yes, if you can prove to the court that he has anger issues, you can make anger management counseling a stipulation in the parenting agreement.
2006-09-28 03:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by stacilynn26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has admitted this is a problem so why leave it to the courts. You can stand up for what is best for your children without the courts help. You tell your husband that you will not stand by and watch him teach his children that it is ok to be abusive in any way. You tell him he will go to the anger management classes AND change his behavior or you and the children will find a better place to be!
2006-09-27 21:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, being without medicine 3 days could contribute. Stopping it abruptly can result in worse behavior and feelings than not having it at all. He shouldn't EVER let himself run out. And now, he HAS laid a hand on you. And he is affecting your children already. Every time he behaves like a maniac in front of them he changes them.You are already not protecting your children. I don't mean to sound harsh toward you, because you are his victim, too. But your responsibility is to your kids. I think you need to separate from him until he gets himself under control through anger mgmt, therapy or meds and get therapy for you and your kids.
2016-03-26 20:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If God hated divorce, he would make your husband not be verbally abusive.
I wouldn't stay in that relationship. Its not good for you and certainly not good for the children.
When filing for divorce and custody, you need to make mention of his verbal abusiveness and if he wants shared custody, there is a good chance he will be made to do anger management or risk losing the chance to see his kids.
2006-09-27 19:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once again, let's all slay the 'Big Bad Wolf'. Why don't you quit feeling guilty about breaking the laws of some imaginary Deity? Then you might stop nagging your poor husband and he won't have to yell at you to shut up all the time.
2006-09-27 20:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by Chuck N Knutz 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋