I have been in a relationship with my man for 14 years, we have a 10 yr old daughter. We are currently living abroad for the last year and a half for atleast 1 more yr possibly longer. I have none of my family or friends around me here for support so it is diffiult. Anyways, sex with my partner has always been very good. Except for the past 5 months. Since May we have only had sex 3 times. In june I returned with our daughter to our homeland for the summer, since I have returned , only 2 times have we had sex. I am always the one to snuggle up with him, kiss him hug him, tell him I love him, if we are out I hold his hand, he never takes the iniative with anything. I have spoke with him about this on several occasions, also I have been very blunt by saying " I need romance".
What really bothers me is that I will say hey I'm horny, and when I go to bed he stays up late , looking at porn/ other women on the net. When I ask him about this he tells me its just a old habit he has. Help me!
2006-09-27 19:51:42 · 7 answers · asked by yawatip 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I suppose you could try getting some good quality time with your husband only, not with your daughter. Perhaps you could try something really extreme, like skydiving to get some adrenaline going and possibly excite some romance. You could also try some reverse psychology on him, since he looks at porn on the internet, then you should look at porn as well, only make sure that he sees you doing it, he might get jealous and may want to fulfill your needs more, hopefully. It could also be a temporary problem, he may have something heavy on his mind that he doesn't want to talk about, try talking to him and see if he opens up. One last thing you could try is making him a dinner full of aphrodesiacs, like oysters, to increase his sexual desires.
2006-09-27 19:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by bloop87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It becomes very frustrating when you are the one that always takes the Initiative in Intimate situations, I believe that some men do go through a "change" but the Desire for you should never go away, You do need Passion and Romance, and if he is not willing to correct this problem, it will only lead to resentment on your part. You are allowing an old habit to be acceptable, don't let this happen to you, you will begin to think that you have done something wrong, I hope the best for you, whatever you decide to do.
2006-09-28 05:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has obviously lost interest in the romantic side of life with you. I would give him an ultimatum since you have approached this subject before. Either he changes, goes to counseling or he shouldn't let the door hit him on the way out.
2006-09-28 02:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to bring this up but do you think there could be a possibility that he is seeing someone else? And that's why he's not interested. If you have tried all of these things to let him know what you need try praying and asking God for your answer
2006-09-28 04:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? If you want something, take a different approach. Quit complaining about not getting the romance and put it there yourself. He might follow suit. Forget that "he is the man" bullsh!t. It's about partnership.
2006-09-28 10:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u think that will work?horny??no
just do what the porn stars do!!!!!!problem solved.email me
2006-09-28 03:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by john s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes embarrassed
2006-09-28 02:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by uluvsoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋