i am supposed to be getting my period around now, but didn't. didn't really think anything of it but decided to take a pregnancy test anyway, and it came out positive...i think it may have happened when i had unprotected sex 3 weeks ago with my boyfriend - a drunken mistake! but now im really scared and i dont know what to do... i cant keep this baby, what will happen to it if i dont want it? what procedures will i have to undergo?
thank you for your time
2006-09-27 19:50:12 · 19 answers · asked by Jessie A 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
how much does an abortion cost?
2006-09-27 20:06:40 · update #1
Okay, you need to calm down. If you are in Canada, your provincial health care may cover the cost of an abortion. If you are in the USA, it will cost you a few hundred dollars. If you absolutely can't get the money, there are programs to help women in this situation so, ask around.
Since your pregnancy is probably very early, you can choose between a chemical abortion or a surgical abortion. A chemical abortion is when you take a couple of pills that will induce miscarriage and you will be sent home to miscarry there and be required to come back to make sure the abortion was complete or incase of any complications (hemmoraging and that sort of thing). It will be longer more drawn out and painful. A surgical abortion happens at the clinic or hospital. You may have the option to be put under anesthetic and sleep through the whole thing. Other clinics may just sedate you and give you pain killers. The procedure lasts about 20 minutes. I had one where I was asleep through the whole thing and the pain I felt afterwards was no worse than worse than usual monthly cramps.
Before either procedure you are going to need to have an ultrasound done to determine how pregnant you are and what your options are. They may or may not let you look at the screen. It's not a big deal though. I looked at mine and was pretty disgusted by it. You'll also need to schedule an appointment with a doctor now not later. The longer you wait the fewer options you have and it could even become too late to have an abortion. Be very weary of 'emergancy pregnancy help clinics' as they are usually pro-lifers in disguise who will show and tell you a lot of lies about abortion. Your best bet for finding reliable information about pregnancy and your options (including pre-natal care adoptions and keeping the baby if you go that route) is your local planned parenthood. Visit www.plannedparenthood.org for more information. (i'm assuming you are american, if you are canada you can visit your regular doctor and get a refferal to a doctor that will preform abortions in your city). The website is good either way for the information you will be needing. Good Luck!
EDIT: abortion didn't ruin my relationship, I'm engaged to the guy. It can be hard on the relationship though but, if your relationship is weak and can't stand through it. it wasn't worth having in the first place and certainly not one worth raising a child in! Having a baby doesn't make you a 'real woman' having a choice does!! Sometimes abortion is the responsible and adult choice.
2006-09-27 20:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was scared to death too, went to the abortion clinic 3 times, and still couldnt do it, now i have the most beautiful child in the world, wouldnt change a thing, i am blessed to be a mother, yea a mother, and everyday she gives me the strength to get thru the day, abortion isnt right, at least give the child a chance, adoption is good, so many people want to have babies and cant, they would love to be your childs guardian. You need to really think about the decision u make, can you live with yourself knowing you might have killed the only child you may be able to have?
2006-09-28 03:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by lilmama 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In medicine it is called a D & C, or more bluntly an abortion but with the current flip-flop of the laws, it might not be possible. However, if it is legal, then, the sooner the better. The procedure is rather simple and takes only a short time, done as an outpatient and recovery is fast. However, if abortion is illegal where you live, there are various herbal abortives.
2006-09-28 03:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Frank 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i went through the same thing i had an unplanned pregancy a year ago, i was about to have an abortion when my boyfriend convince me why we should keep this baby, i wanted to get the abortion because i didnt wanna dissapoint my parent (only child) but my boyfriend convinced me and a councelor that i wasnt alone and we decided to keep the baby, it was the best decision i've ever made now that i am a mom
but i dont think i would have kept it if i didnt have a stable and finacial steady future with my boyfriend
2006-09-28 03:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Drama_mAmA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, I would talk to your parents. I'm not for abortion, cuz why should you kill an innocent baby for your mistake? You can always give it up for adoption as there are alot of people out there that are in desperate need of a child that they can't have! Make somebody else happy and think of the baby, not yourself! And next time, don't go and have unprotected sex, get on the pill or something!
2006-09-28 02:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your pregnant sweety........its not as bad as you think. Time to talk to your folks.........life changing yes, devastating no. Sound like there are a lot of women on here that will help you get through it, you can email me too. I met my sons dad on my 18th birthday....thank god I was already out of school.......but I didn't go into the Navy afterall and we had already been broken up for two months when I found out I was ten weeks pregnant.......I wouldn't trade my son for anything......I am greatful to have had him at the age I did, I didn't make all the mistakes my friends did who aborted when it happened to them. I have been a good mom, though not having his dad was bitter sweet....hes a great person, my son that is. His father was too.....
You know Jessie, I am the worst example of an unplanned pregnancy....why do I say that? Because I did it, and my friends daughters look up to me......I was sensible, I took care of myself and my baby. When my mom was disabled I took care of her, I went to career school, applied with state agencies and was a success. I didn't dump my kid off with strangers and get drunk on the weekends. I went out with my friends once a year until my kids were a lot older. And I didnt' do it once, I did it twice. I had two kids out of wedlock and what does it matter if I married my daughters dad? She was four when we married and twelve whe we got divorced.....so, screw these people that tell you to have an abortion. You played adult games and will pay the adult price! But it doesn't have to end your life, it just changes it. Now you are about to REALLY become a woman, congratulations, you're gonna be a mom. There is nothing in your life that will ever compare to giving birth to that baby and seeing him/or her feed at your breast.......but something tells me its a boy....just a heads up.
2006-09-28 03:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell your parent's
Don't kill the poor little thing
adopt it out is the best thing to do & later in life when you are mature enough you may be able to visit him or her & get to know him or her
abortion will haunt you all your life
2006-09-28 03:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Baby killing is not the way to go! Go through the nine months of pregnancy to save a life, then if you still don`t want the child give it up for adoption. So you have to go through the embarrassment of getting knocked up or paying for doctor`s bills or whatever your afraid of, trust me its a small price to pay to save a life.
2006-09-28 03:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by veronica 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I too went through an unplanned pregnancy. It was the most devastating thing I ever went through. I can understand all the emotions you must be feeling. If you want someone to talk to who has been there and can really understand, I'd love to chat. Please message me.
2006-09-28 02:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As soon as possible go talk to a doctor.
Everything you tell them is private and they can't tell anyone.
Make an appointment and go talk to an OB/GYN doctor.
Good Luck.
My ex had to have an abortion and it ended up ruining our relationship.
2006-09-28 02:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋