Honestly, I don't have a problem...I still have the drive and the desire (maybe too much), size is good, knowledge and action are good too. But my wife is the type of person that can live without sex for the rest of her life. I've tried everything being: romantic, massages, candles, toys(at first she rejected) and so on. She is never aroused, she won't ever look for me in a sexual manner, I always have to start it up. I love her so much, but I'm just tired of the same thing. This is serious, I need help. What can I do, or what should she do???
2006-09-27 19:34:55 · 22 answers · asked by mmrjat2001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Open and honest discussion is needed. You need to, if you haven't, express how you feel to her. Ask her to be honest with you and see if there's anything that she's missing. Quite frankly, swinging may be an option to spice things up.
2006-09-27 19:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by DaProfessor 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does anything turn her on? It sounds to me that you need to have a conversation about her. What turns her on? What are her fantasies? What does she like/dislike when it comes to sex and foreplay? These are the questions that you need to ask her. She may be embarrased to anwer these questions, but these are important questions that you need to know in order to have a lively sex life. It could be that she doesnt want romance. Maybe she wants adventure. Or maybe she wants something that is totally different from anything she wants otherwise. Read into websites and articles about women's view sex and I think you will find some of the answers you are looking for. And remember to talk to your wife.
2006-09-28 02:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by AKA 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a married man, I have the same problem with you. Let me share with you. Woman usually is very emotional. She rely on her emotional feeling. What you need to do is to keep her mood happy, let her feel your love exists at times when she needed you. Don't force her if she is not willing.
Continue to love her and show to her that you care for her. Let her feel secure with you.
Also if there is any unpleasant emotional experience, just bury the passed and don't dwell on it anymore. Love her more and more each day as if you love yourself.
Woman needs lots of love before she have sex with a guy ! Always remember this.
2006-09-28 03:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by Vince 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me tell you from someone who was in the same situation- quit kissing her *** dude! You're obviously trying too hard to please her, and she's taking you for granted. You gotta do like oneof the above posters said and quit paying so much attention to her. You sit and listen to all these women talk about how they like a man to pay attention to their needs, but once they get that, they totally forget that it's a two way street! (not all women, don't mean to offend). You seem to care about her wants and needs, but she has to care about yours too! Try to find a way to make her a liitle jealous, and i'll bet she'll pay attention then! Nothing sparks a woman's interest like possibly being outgunned by another woman, so take my advice, and make her pay attention to you. If all else fails, i would suggest counseling.
2006-09-28 03:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by mike j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. Hate to say this, but once the drive goes down in a woman, there's nothing you can do. Do you get any type of stimulation, BJ, to be specific?
Well look at the bright side of it.
You are getting screwed, and you are receiving lip service. From relationship to marriage, the two went through a transformation.
The screwing and lip service went from "intercourse" and "BJ", to "can't have any fun" and "nagging," respectively.
It might not be in the form you want it, but you are getting it!!
2006-09-28 11:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell your wife how u feel and ask her what is the problem, she might be experiencing something but because u r nt asking her she is nt able to tell you. She may be depressed so talk to her.
2006-09-28 03:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by judy m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her about the problem and let her know you wanna spice it up. Try watching a porno with her . Ask her what she likes and what you can do to get her in the mood
2006-09-28 02:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some sort of counceling might help. Go together and go seperate. Maybe something going on with her that she doesn't want to talk to you about, but can to a 3rd party. Sounds like you love her and want to work it out, so hopefully it will work out.
2006-09-28 02:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by Flip 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You eat lot of onion in luch and ask your wife to eat lot of onion in dinner. Try it for 2 weeks, Positive result is guaranted. After 2 weeks you just relax on the bed , your wife will do the rest.
2006-09-28 02:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What are your ages ? How long have you been married ? It could be a medical problem ! Depression.....menopause !!!!! I would seek a medical diagnosis first and then go from there ! Good luck !
2006-09-28 03:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by lilbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋