and doing anything around the house. he tells me he is going to do something or we are going some place and when the time comes he just acts like he never said anything. he sits at home 80 percent of the time on the computer or in front of the TV. I go to work and he has the day to himself. we have alot of work that needs to be done to the house, its not getting done. Is he trying to tell me something or just tired of me?
2006-09-27 19:25:47 · 29 answers · asked by tnjunglejane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sit him down and tell him how you feel,you need someone to care about your feelings and be there for you all the time!
2006-09-27 19:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by happy1here♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sits in front of the computer 80 percent of the day??
As much as I work, I'd be happy to get 0.8%
Doesn't sound like he's trying to make any changes though. It might be time for you to leave, or even threaten him, by pretending to leave. People have to learn the hard way sometimes.
2006-09-28 04:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be its the other way around. He is very comfortable with you. Does he work from home. May be you should hire someone to come clean your house, if you can afford it, otherwise make a honey do list and put it on the refrigerator.
You should find some interests. I do not care If my husband gives me attention or not. The happiness comes from within you.
2006-09-27 19:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by observer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is feeling overwhelmed & just does nothing instead of trying to make sense of all that there is to do? He could be depressed if he's at home all day, it's easy to fall into a dull routine as well. I'd dare say there's something more deep going on in his head & it may or may not have anything to do with you. I guess just ask him what's going on & see how he's going.
2006-09-27 19:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just going through a phase or is getting lazy. If you really want him to clean stuff up around the house, you have to take charge, or at least pretend to take charge. Be mean, aggressive, and assertive, yell at him, get a whip and start cracking, that might get him up and moving (a little of role play perhaps).
2006-09-27 20:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by bloop87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a marriage takes 2. If your husband is not giving you attention and not doing anything as yourself this. Was he always like this or did he just suddenly change? You may need some counseling or try to talk it out. But remember a relationship needs to be taken care of and maintained for it to run smoothly.
2006-09-27 19:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by eric g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't pay the cable bill or internet in case you have dial-up. Tell him you guys need to save up for someone to do the work that needs to be done on the house and see if he gets off his butt: ) If he doesn't get off his butt then tell him you wanna see a marriage couselor and I bet you he hauls a.s.s, lol most men run at the thought of marriage couselors.
2006-09-27 19:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by Charmed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You chicks need to chill out, I'm not like this, but plenty of my friends are, and I guess I can be at times, but regardless, men just want to relax, we dont want to do anything, much less work, but we have to, we want it all handed to us in our laps, we are selfish that way, show him some attention, reward him for the things he does do, it'll all be fine, guys just want to take it easy, that's it. But you need to tell him how you feel, be breif and to the point, cause more than anything we hate chicks who ramble, tell him you love him and that it wouldn't hurt for him to say it on his own every once in awile, tell him he needs to get off his *** to initiae sex every once in awhile, and most of all, dont hound, it really does make it worse, the more you *****, the more he will sit on that computer. Good luck.
2006-09-27 19:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by ladieslovechrisdahlmeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband is depressed and it might help if he got a job, or tried some attainable goals for himself.. If he is able to work he should get his butt off the computer and work, or get a job working online.. Try to find out what is bothering him and see if you can work on it, if not try therapy...
2006-09-27 19:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by sissybombay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely he has a problem eating him alive and don't have the guts to share it with you afraid of how you'll react , you have to put a foot down and ask him what the hell is going on with him , you are his wife and not his chambermaid , doesn't matter how big his problem is you'll understand him and both together will deal with it , you''ll always love and be with him no matter what , otherwise you'll become two completely strangers .
2006-09-27 19:43:41 · answer #10 · answered by Paul Alexandru Cazacliu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mid-life crisis?
Maybe he is depressed or confused or overwhelmed about his life, and it may not have much to do with you.
Whichever is the case, he is being unfair to you because he is not communicating with you (few men are good communicators, but even less so of they are suffering from one of the above), but try to talk to him or have his best friend or another trusted friend/family member he confides in try to speak to him so you can get some answers.
2006-09-27 19:34:13 · answer #11 · answered by ldylili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋