I'd like to please him, but it goes beyond me. I don't want to lose him but I can't lose myself.
2006-09-27 19:25:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable
2006-09-27 19:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by Hi My Name is 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any sort of play has to be between consenting parties. If it doesn't do it for you the more you do it the less you will like it & that will cause all sorts of problems further down the track. All you can do is be frank & say that you really didn't like it & if it's such a big part in his life then maybe he has to find someone who is really into it otherwise if it's just a passing thing then he could just get some videos or something? What it comes down to is can he live with you not liking it & can you live with him liking it?
2006-09-28 02:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably have to get out of the relationship. He is not going to change what he prefers. And I doubt very much that you are going to learn to enjoy S&M Sex. So you have to decide what is best for yourself.
2006-09-28 02:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have your boundaries very clear. Otherwise when he ask you for threesomes or more sick stuff your relationship could be ruined. Just think if is worth. Violence could be very dangerous because he will need more violence with time. Does he really love you? you have to take care of each other.
2006-09-28 03:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by mansongirl17us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think it's violent then tell it to him and if he cannot accept it better look for someone else or be single instead...sweetie, in a relationship it takes two to tango..it's not always that you have to give and give...if you can't lose him it's your choice but you also have to think about yourself, your happiness..you can find someone else better than him
2006-09-28 02:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by harukashin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have answered your own question. You CANNOT lose yourself, you MUST NOT lose you...
There has to be a way to meet half way, if not. As yourself "Can you stay with someone you are not 100% sexually compatible with?"
2006-09-28 02:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by pinxta01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him that you will be the Master and do all that he does to u. I mean..give him a dose of his own medicine. Maybe he will get the message and try to be a bit soft.
2006-09-28 05:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by The_Rebel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as SM sex
2006-09-28 02:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by teohuishan2204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your gut.
Losing him is way better than losing yourself.
2006-09-28 02:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by ldylili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find him a young girl (tell him he can use her for his S&M sessions) and tell him you'll watch. This ought to do the trick and satisy both of you.
2006-09-28 02:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by An Unhappy Yahoo User 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with prolocust have u tried it? u might like it. tell me to take it slow and u try to be open minded u might love it never know
2006-09-28 02:58:27 · answer #11 · answered by holdnnmyown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋