Me I'm immigrant guy amd married American woman 5 years. Regret it. All American women terrible? Need help.

Question

I could done it without her but I ask her sponser my 3 children to come to US. She signed many paper for INS. Now chiden here she mad about stupid stuff. Say they never wash their hands in bathroom or they disrespect her. I’ve work 16 hrs evry day. She’s only working one month in 2006. When I told her she don't not contribute to house money and should shut up she say that caretaking my kids is work and she need to charge me! She can’t cook like women in my family and needs do something! She on 8 different medicumes, seeing 3 doctors.I think it BS because whn I go work every day she eithr vomiting, read suicide books, rocking back and fourth on bed crying and whining how I don’t dicplin my kids or help her wit them or she on PC. Dr .lie she no sick! 5 mos after they here she say my sons need to work! My boys only 18 and 21. They no understand this country no need to work while spoiled American woman sit home throwing up that she help me and them. Need to leave this bad womn, how do?

Answer 1

wow man that sucks

Answer 2

You are the one with the problem. Yes your 18 and 21 year old should have a job and be out of the house.I have been working sence I was 10. Taking care of one child is hard she is taking care of five that aren't even hers. If their English is as bad as yours, they probably can't communicate well with her. She is right. Not all American women are spoiled. I am a house wife. I take care of my child, my house, and I also do school. My husband cooks because he likes it. Here in America the vast majority of men cook. They are usually better at it too. She has done a lot for you. She has allowed you to bring your obviously spoiled children into her home and life, and you ***** at her for need help with them. HELP HER! They probably don't respect her at all. The vast majority of immigrant’s children are horrible people. This is from personal experience. You may work, but her job is much harder. If you are a house wife, it is equivalent to two full time jobs. And with five children, and two of them already grown ups, and o=you expect her to let you and your children walk all over her, GO BACK TO YOUR OWN DARN COUNTRY THEN! American women do a sh!t load! How can you come off and say that ALL American women don't do sh!t? You asked her to sponsor your children, so obviously, you DID need her help. If she is on med's, and her doc says that she is sick, she is. Get a ****!ng clue. Stupid male chauvinistic pig.

Answer 3

Let me give you some advice from an American male prespective.
For one, I do sympathize with you to an extent. But... for one your 'boys' are grown men. At 18 & 21 they should already have jobs. Your excuse that they 'do not understand' and they don't 'need to work' is BS. They DO need to work if they want to learn our society and become productive citizens. You accuse you wife for not contributing, but neither do your sons. Your sons appear to be just as spoiled as your wife. No wonder you work 16 hrs a day.
Another thing, your sons do not have any respect or love for your wife. Why? It's because she's NOT their mother and they know this all too well. Since you DO work 16 hrs a day, you have no real idea of what is happening in your household. If you could really see what is happening while you are gone, I doubt that you'd be so quick to defend your sons. Open your eyes man!

As to your wife's illness, if she's seeing 3 doctors, then she really does have a medical condition (she's sick). You never said what her medical condition was. Vomiting most of the time is NOT normal. Neither is crying and reading suicide books. She has physical and mental illnesses. What about her medication? Have you even bothered to check and see what side-effects they cause? No, she is really ill but you're to damn stupid to see it.

NO American woman is going to be able to cook like the women in your family. My two ex-wives were American, and they were indeed inferior to my present wife who is from Bulgaria. Both were not very good cooks and both were very lazy. My present wife and myself have been married now for over 13 yrs and have a very good relationship. She is not lazy, she is a very good cook and she takes very good care of me. I think that your expections were set too high.

Have you gotten your citizenship yet? Since you've been married for 5 yrs, you wouldn't be deported if you were to get divorced. You need to check these things out.

I don't think your wife is a 'bad' woman. She is not a woman of your culture, but you expect her to act as if she were. Stop acting so ignorant.

Answer 4

What kind of husband are you? You don't see the fact that you wife is clearly having mental health issues. If you think it is all BS, that's because you don't understand, or you don't want to try to understand or even help her. She sounds very depressed and you are not helping. I have mental issues too and my husband is also an immigrant, he often doesn't understand my issues either, because he comes from a different background and a different way of life, where women just get on with things, regardless of how they feel. But your wife needs you more than ever, she needs your love and support and where is it? You can try and work things out and get her the help she needs or you can just give up, and become another statistic. Take care and good luck.

Answer 5

wow well she doesnt seem very happy and who knows what she would do if you left her. I think you should really explain to her abotu how many hours you work a day. it seems like all you do is literally work and sleep and are too exhausted to spend time with her or the kids =( Not all women in america are like this just people who have problems (like your wife does) Maybe she cant get a job because of the condition she is in? she sounds rally depressed. maybe you should go with her to her doctor visits and tell the doctors what other medicines she is taking since you say she is seeing 3 different doctors. Just try to comfort her, take her out for an evening. your older boys should go out and get a job just to get job experience for the long run. if they are almost 30 and try to get a job no oone will want to hire them because they have no experience in working. You should definatley "pretend to send her to a spa" but really drop her off at a therapy office or rehabilitaion since she may be addicted to the drugs. But other than that explain to her that you are not happy and want a divorce and hopefully she will not try to harm her, youself and your children. she sounds sort of crazy to me!

try to give her a chance to clean up her act. be patient with her. Liek i said who knows what she would do if you just all of a sudden say you want a divorce. warn her and say if you dont get help and try to change then i will leave the relationship with the children.

also children do not need harsh discipline, just "time out" liek having them press their nose against the fridge for 10 minutes if they do somethign wrong or a light spank ont he butt.
and if they dont listen to you still threaten to take away somethign you know they enjoy doing. Like playing video games, watchin tv, being on the computer

but give your wife one more chance even though it may be hard. she really needs help.

good luck
best wishes

your wife does not sound happy though. so im guessing you "children" are the ones who are 18 and 21? why should she have to sit home and watch them? they realy should be going to school and working! i do both and yes its hard but well worth it. it really sounds liek you used her to get to the u.s. and your grown sons are probably really disrespecting her cause they are from different countries and people around that age are rebelious and dont care abotu other people. maybe you should just move back to your own country since you've been having sich a bad experience here....

Answer 6

Why woman spoiled as American. Why only 3 and not any 5 children. Why they not use bathroom. I no understand your throwing up. Why no work. Son 18 and 21. I throw up now. I sick reading your question killing wife.

Answer 7

First of all, your Boys are grown. They need to get out of the house and get a job. Your wife is not spoiled, she is reaching out for attention. Yes, you may work 16 hours a day, but keeping a broken house in order is work. HARD work.

She is also very ill. Did you not remeber that part in your vows about "In sickness or in health?"

Answer 8

Sounds like you married her to get into this country. If you didnt need her then why did you USE her? Sounds like your only out is to return to your homeland. That's gotta be better than living here in the USA with a woman who supposedly takes advantage of you. She did her part, and got you here. Guess it's up to you to repay the debt...quit complaining and accept your responsibility like a man.
Oh, and if your 'boys' arent furthering they're education, then they need to be financially contributing to the household.

Answer 9

Your sons sound like lazy bums - they should go get jobs, and live on their own. Your wife shouldn't be expected to take care of adult men, and neither should you, financially.

You're a sucker - working two jobs to support 4 adults, while you question the legitimacy of a woman who is so good at feigning illness it includes daily vomiting.

Your wife sounds depressed. I can understand why. Go back to wherever you came from, and marry one of your countrywomen. American women have had enough of you, too.

Answer 10

I do believe you are a fraud, on this post you have 3 children, on the other question you asked you had 5 children, what happened to the other two. Buddy, you are on the verge of being reported for fraud.

Answer 11

So if you could have gotten your children to the US without her signing the papers, then why didn't you?????? Your children are not children, they are grown MEN! They may still be children in your country but in this country they are considered to be adults and adult men either go to college or work or BOTH. Taking care of the house and your "children" is WORK!!! Yeah, sounds like your wife may have some problems, but damn, sounds to me like you used her to help YOU and your children, now you want to get rid of her. Oh, you poor BABY, she can't cook like the women in your country. YOUR NOT IN YOUR COUNTRY!!!!!!!! If you want things to be the way you are use to them being, then go back to YOUR country!! It's foreigners like you, who give other foreigners a bad name! Wake up! Your not in your country anymore. If you don't like being married to her, divorce her. If you don't like working 16 hours days, then don't. That is your choice to work like that, not HER'S, so stop blaming it on her!! Best thing for you to do is to divorce her, buy plane tickets for you and your "children" and go back to your own country. And NO, not all American women are like your wife, for your information!!!