People bore me..?

Question

To be frank, I just cannot be bothered with people, I find them uninteresting and boring.

All I want to do is play computer games, and when I'm with people I would rather not be there. So much effort to talk that just doesn't seem worth it.

I have friends but I'm gradually phasing them out because I feel it's completely pointless spending time with them, it pretty much feels like I'm wasting time. They have to convince me to go out.. offering me incentives and stuff. I have to try and make excuses. I really would rather stay in, but I feel some kind of pressure to go out, wtf is this? Why should I have to do something I don't want to do? Why can't I be happy? When I'm at home I feel happy, relaxed, and I play computer games on my PC, surf the web, research business ideas, I have NEVER felt lonely when I'm on my own, so I don't have a need for social interaction. When I'm alone I feel in a positive and constructive state, I can get things done quickly, and I can think deeply, people

just distract my thinking with mundane talking about trivial things. Socializing doesn't seem to be worth the effort. The only point I can think of is for sex.

I have a girlfriend and we have regular sex. But I feel this is all I want from her, we end up spending far too much time together and she doesn't take "I'm busy playing the computer" as an excuse not to see her without going crazy. A grilfriend seems more hassle than it's worth, as masturbation seems like a fine replacement without the hassle (it's just a human release thing anyway). Although seeing her is a good excuse to get out of seeing my mates :)

I've tried talking to her about the way I feel, but I'm not good with words so she always says "So what you just said was you just want me for sex", I'm like "No, no, I love spending time with YOU, love you" lol. The reason I'm not definite in splitting up with her is incase I'm making the completely wrong decision here, and I'll be left with nothing if I change my mind.

Oh and she said I was "weird" for not enjoying ANYONES company. How can you enjoy anyones company? I've met hundreds of people and most if not all of them are exactly the same, absolutely boring. I've listened to conversations and I just shake my head think how stupid these people are, I guess reality isn't enough to entertain me. I need to escape in to fantasy (games) and I find true and endless entertainment here.

I'm at college just now and I hope to land a decent paying job or work for myself on an internet business so I really will have no interaction. I'm not looking for approval or anything here, I'm just wondering if I've overlooked some point of socializing that is so important to billions of people, before I isolate myself from my peers.

Btw, I'm not depressed or anything and I'm confident this is what I want.

Thanks for listening
K

Answer 1

hey dude we have a lot in common. I feel the same way. recently, there was a party at my house and I chose to hang with myself and avoid people. Nevertheless, I still had a good time. I know how you feel. I work a lot and don't have a lot of time for social interactions and I don't really care. I also find myself putting off and "phasing" out my friends. I have done this for about a year now. Sometimes I get really unhappy about my own unwillingness to hang out and socialize with other people. When that feeling wears off I'm good to go by myself for several months. But up until recently I have felt empty on the inside, like I'm really lacking something. I think it is friends. Even though, I still do not feel compelled enough to 'get out there and make it happen,' so to speak. I do feel that I would be more happy if I were socializing and doing other fun stuff. I feel like my life would be more fulfilling for myself. This is not enough motivation yet for me to change. Just want to let you know your not the only one that feels this way.

Answer 2

Wasn't there a "Suggy bear" on Starsky & Hutch ? He changed into an informant AND a pimp. Apperently pimpin' wasn't paying the expenditures. in spite of the indisputable fact that it did cope with to pay for those wild clothing Hollywood idea pimps wore.

Answer 3

Why then are you going on and on about yourself. Guess, you need someone to listen to you, right? That shows you are lonely. Hope you can admit that to yourself....the sooner the better. All the best and have a good day!

Answer 4

So why do you feel the need to state that here. I think someone just needs a hug! Here, have a hug>squeeze< all better now?

Answer 5

Congratulation. You are an admitted Narcissist. Now, be board.

Answer 6

Am wondering why you need 'peoples' answers if we are nothing.

Answer 7

life is a mirror,get back what you put IN

Answer 8

good for you
be happy, that's all that matters

Answer 9

there is something going on with you

Answer 10

...........why don't you come to the point .....instead of giving such a boring write up ........