He is a fellow teacher. I'm friendly with my coworkers and like to keep the environment harmonious. Yet the other day he said he had a dream about me and in it he kissed me.
He's only been working at my school for 4 months, so I don't know him well. I've been avoiding him. But I'm wondering what others have to say about this situation...
thanks!
2006-09-27 17:53:00 · 15 answers · asked by k 3 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Going by the rulebook in the organisation that I work, if a person makes a move that is deemed offensive by the other person, the other person should indicate the same to the 1st person.
if now the 1st person does not repeat the act (or acts that convey similar sense), it will not be deemed harassment!
So I suggest, you explain to this person that his discussing his dreams with you is not a welcome idea. Incase he doesnt stop, go ahead report him!
2006-09-27 18:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by Neil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a bit creepy--not that he had the dream--but that he would mention it to you. He has to be some kind of dork I guess.
It is not sexual harrassment. In order to become sexual harrassment it will have to become so pervasive and is allowed to continue that it consitutes a "hostile work environment."
I guess I would hope the situation would go no further. If he starts this stuff up again it is weird--and you may wish to actually bring it to the attention of a supervisor.
2006-09-27 18:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though he has not harrased you physically making moves like the one mentioned can also be termed as harrassment as its not only inconveniencing you but making the work place tense where you might have to think more than twice even for conversation with him or to work on some project. It's better to talk to a superiour about this without alerting that its a formal complaint as well as your superior is not surprised when this repeats
2006-09-27 18:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by poloneck20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an inappropriate topic, and it sounds like sexual harrasment to me. However, I would just let that comment slide. If he continues to make similar statements, then if I were you, I would mention that sexual topics of conversation in the workplace make you feel uncomfortable. If he persists, then report him!
If the guy is really a creep and he has no problem talking to you that way, I can only imagine what he might be inclined to say to female students!
2006-09-27 18:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it IS sexual harassment. I would have said "This is not an appropriate topic."
You need to tell someone. You are now in an uncomfortable work environment, and you feel you have to avoid him. He has no right to put you in that kind of position. If he's doing it to you, he's probably doing it to others, and it will get worse unless someone stops him.
2006-09-27 18:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think thats sexual harrassment just by telling you his dream ,if he keeps on bringing it up and giving you these weird looks that make you feel uncomfortable then just ignore him or change the subject and see how he reacts cause its going to be hard to prove it if they want proof and you should always write down when he tells you things and what he tells you just to keep on file in case he does keep on saying remarks . good luck in your case if he does keep harrassing report him let him know you aren't playing games some guys think they can do that but you show him its not ok good luck .
2006-09-27 18:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by BIGL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him aware that his comment is considered inappropriate (and constitutes sexual harassment) and even though you are certain that the comment was innocently made, ask him to refrain from similar comments for the benefit of both of you.
2006-09-27 19:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the same time as the harassment will change into sexual, it really is sexual harassment. Touching, innuendo, gestures, puppy names, seems, and so on... you could actually tell at the same time as someone is laying aside a violent vibe as against a sexual vibe, or at the same time as they are putting out both.
2016-11-24 23:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh, it comes under sexual harssment, if your institution has some policy on it then or anyway you must bring it to the knowledge of your HR department. If you will encourge the guy they he may hurt you, so pleas avoid him whenever he wants to talk you.
2006-09-27 19:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only harassment if you have told him to leave you alone and that it bothered you, then he continued to do the actions. If it were a one time thing, it was expressing an interest. If you told him to stop, he has been put "on notice."
2006-09-27 18:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by Mark W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋