I am 26 and I always end a realtionship whenit gets to the piont where the guys start talking about marriage. I have been told many many times that I have commitment problem. I have for a long time been realy attracted to girls but I just don't know if I am bi. I don't know any one who is gay or bi( that i know of) It would be so hard for me to tell any one if I was, and I wouldn't even know how to get something started with any one. plus I kinda have an issue with there being so much fliuds, giving pleasure to a women is a lot messier then a man( until the end which I still avoid with a towel or something) but when I plesure my self I 90% of the time think of my self with a female. I check females out far more then guys. I still like guys i know that. But am I bi, or do i just like the way a female body looks. Can I get over my fluids issue?? Any advice would really be helpfull. thanks.
2006-09-27 17:32:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think you are probably gay (or bi). If you think about girls when masturbating and pretty much scope out other girls that is a pretty good sign.
The nice thing about other girls is you do not have to get to all the sex pressure right away. It is much more about feelings and emotions. Stuff guys try to do--but most aren't all that good at. What I am saying is that you don't need to get hung up on the sex issue. Meet some gay girls. Do an online hook up thing--and just be honest about your self--as you are here. Or check out a gay bar and just hang and meet some girls. Take it a little bit at a time.
As far as the fluids issue--do you mind yourself when you masturbate? Female love is a lot warmer and moister than hetro--but I kinda get the sense you may not really mind that--what you don't like may very well just be male ejaculation.
You owe it to yourself to explore this. It seems clear you are not happy in hetro relationships. Just start exploring and meeting--no pressure deals.
2006-09-27 20:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends. Some girls are quite dry, some are normal and some have a bit more... But anyway, if you find someone, you can mention this problem you have with fluids and you can try to go slow. For example you can try something in a bath tub. Or some other things that I'd rather not mention here. Maybe after that you will get accustomed to the fluids and you will want to go further. But really, male fluids/female fluids = nothing to compare...
2006-09-27 21:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to explore. only you know if you like girls more than guys. Maybe you dont wanna be married until you find out what being bi/lez is like. Fluids issue may be overwhelming, but you never been there so you dont know. Join a group or maybe talk to some people you know thats bi or lez. Just go with what you feel. You live life once, do what you want..no regrets.
2006-09-27 17:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by gentlegiant255 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww, Doll. It sounds like we're in the same boat. Fortunately, I have a good friend who is going to let me explore with her next week. :) I'm excited. Find someone you trust and see what happens from there. You never know until you try. And if you can get off to visions of being with girls..I'd most definately say you're atleast bi-curious. Give it a chance. And listen, girls aren't as messy as guys when it comes to liquids...trust. Good luck.
2006-09-27 23:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by LetosGurl85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you hit up a gay bar or club and mingle around. nothing serious and u don't have to find a girl to sleep with the first minute you see her...just start off with the typical introduction of yourself and take it slow till you feel comfortable. and if u happen to find the right one then move to the next level at your own pace.
2006-09-27 20:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the answer to your question is yes you are bi .You are just like me i feel myself very attracted to woman but i don't know how to come up to a female and ask or hint around.If you got a real good friend that you like to hang around with who knows she maybe the same as you scared to say something just talk to her and ask questions.
2006-09-27 17:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by freetobefree39 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey when you're so attracted to a women that shouldn't be and issue, don't think too much I think you should date a women first,its not all about sex sweetheart, it should be more than that,
2006-09-27 18:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Grazia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there really is only one way you're gonna find out....I think fluids are a perfectly natural biological phenomenon.....seriously would that prevent you from kissing someone because there were fluids exchanged?
2006-09-27 17:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can always go for a mutual girlfriend first.. Don't have to ask her. Just do it. And see her reaction.
2006-09-27 17:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem and I don't know if it is curiosity or what.I do want to explore my feelings,maybe you should do the same.
2006-09-27 23:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋