okay so i'm exageating here... lol.
anyways, i've got 2 male friends... 1 is gay and the other is straight. gay and straight are not friends but are familiar w/ each other...gay has a crush on straight & is asking me for straight's picture (because i have one) but straight dont want me to give it to gay. gay told me that if i wont give the pictue then we're not friends anymore... straight told me that if i give gay the pic he'll get mad at me... i dont want to loose the 2 of them for some stupid picture...
Help?
2006-09-27 17:23:36 · 27 answers · asked by DruNkStripPeR 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, let's look at it this way.
Why should you be caught in the middle of this? It's between them. Perhaps your gay friend is afraid of outright rejection so that's the path he chooses. Or maybe he's tried a direct approach and failed
EITHER way, the best thing to do, I believe, is to be polite but firm. Just tell your gay friend nicely and tactfully that the other guy doesn't want his picture given to him and you have to respect that wish. But also be there for this gay guy whatever his reaction.
2006-09-27 17:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by Studier Alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your gay friend has put you in the middle. I would respect the wishes of your straight friend to not give his picture away. I would approach the gay friend and explain that you value him as well as the other guy, and that you were hurt that he (gay friend) would jeopardize your friendship with (straight friend). Your gay friend is not a very good friend if he is asking you to do something that would damage your relationship with the straight friend, especially when the straight friend is someone he would like to be around also. If gay friend keeps pressing the issue, then he probably doesn't consider you a friend.
2006-09-28 00:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by sandcatsle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell gay that straight is straight and not interested and does not want to give his picture to him. Gay sounds a little demanding,tell him
you are not Ann Landers or in the
Matchmaking business, if he respects you as a frend, he will respect your answer, if he gets mad and stalks off, then he was never your friend in the first place but simply a person that trys to use other people in life.
2006-09-28 00:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by Zinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple really. Just apply the rules of respect.
1) Respect Straights wishes to not have his picture given to someone he doesn't want.
2) Gay needs to respect you, & not try to manipulate you by threatening your friendship in that way.
3) You need to respect yourself more & realise that if Gay doesn't want to be your friend anymore because of a stupid picture, then it's his loss, not yours.
Besides, it's pointless for a gay to have a crush on a straight.
2006-09-28 00:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sexual orientation of the guys have no bearing on the situation...even if it were a girl and a guy, you should respect whoever is in the picture not to give it to anyone, even if the pictures are yours. Whether the person obtains the pictures through other means except through you is not your fault.
And secondly, if your friends can base their friendship on pictures when they dont even know the other person, then they arent friends worth keeping.
And the solution is, make your own stand; you are not restricted to the options given to you. State that if the person ever mentions the pictures again, then you wont be friends anymore.
2006-09-28 00:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by leikevy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let gay handle his own situation with straight that's not your problem, don't get between it. If gay want a picture of straight let gay do that on his own. If straight isn't interested in gay, straight need to tell gay "I'm not interested in you'. If gay is given you ultimatum about not being your friend if you don't give him a picture of straight than gay isn't a true friend....... good luck
2006-09-28 00:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by DEBORAH M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gay friend wont be your friend over a picture then he must not be a true friend and i understand the straight guy getting mad over that so respect your straight friend and keep the pic.
2006-09-28 00:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you got to look at is the your benefit not there's. weight out your pros and cons. you got to ask yourself. Why should i care about what they think or what they want? What is it that you want? Ask yourself why do i want to be friends with straight and why do i want to be friends with gay. Do they make your life any easier? I would say listen to straight. You have no right to give out a picture of your friend if they don't want you to. but if gay don't want to be you friend anymore you have no control over that. one thing about the word so called friends we can say that we are a friend to someone, but when its all said and done are they really a friend to you? are they a friend or a hater? its your call. i rather not make anyone be my friend cause there is price that comes along with that.
2006-09-28 00:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by liljov2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T give the picture up. Your straight friend will be so pissed. The gay guy needs to get over it.
2006-09-28 00:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell the gay guy that if he wants the picture, he's going to have to ask the straight guy for his picture himself. you shouldn't have to play monkey in the middle. tell the gay guy that if he can't accept that the straight guy is straight, then that's his problem, not yours. if either of them actually stop being friends with you over a stupid picture, then they weren't your friends to begin with.
2006-09-28 00:26:55 · answer #10 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋