Me and my Hindu bf have been in love for more than 2 yrs. He's in Australia. And I'm in China. 6 months ago he told me he couldn't marry me for his culture and parents. That time I was really heart-broken. Now we're still in the relationship but we fight off and on for this topic. He felt regretted for being rude, and he already told his parents about me, and probably they'll accept me. But still I couldn't bear to feel pain when I think of that, becoz I can't trust in him again, and I feel insecure. Next month I'll move to Australia to his city. Shall I continue the relationship with him, or quit it to obtain a new life ?
2006-09-27 17:07:21 · 10 answers · asked by Linlisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You must first try to understand why he told you he couldn't marry you. Men have trouble communicating there feelings and emotions to women. He was probably afraid that his parents would not accept you because of his culture and he probably did not want his parents to turn their back on him for dating you. Also, he probably did not want you to risk the possibility of his parents and culture rejecting you and hurting your feelings. And it was probably easier to just tell you that he did not want to marry you so that he would not have to try and explain all of that to you risk you leaving him. But the most important factor is that you two are still together. Which means you do love each other. Now that he has told his parents, he has already overcome half of the battle he had feared. Try to forgive him for his harshness in telling you he did not want to marry you, if he did not really mean to say that. Pray for guidance and follow your heart.
2006-09-27 17:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by Preacher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honeset love has no boundries but those we place there ourselves. My husband and I are of two different faiths. His faith does not accept me, but he does. He is Christian, I am a Child of the Moon. Maybe some time may help and his parents getting to know you as a person not a religion may help as well. That is what it took for us. He was honest is how strongly he feels, which alot of guys would not be. Do not feel anger for this. Feel relieved that he can do that. I wont say happy, because you love him alot from what you have said and wish to marry him someday. If he does not look past the small differances once you know his parents, then yes I would move on.
2006-09-27 17:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by mother_of_bonehead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, continue it. He loved you and wanted to be with you, but he was sure he could not be, and so he didn't want to love you. This conflict became a love/hate mental struggle with him.
However it sounds as if his parents are becoming to come around to the idea, and thus some of his inner conflict should begin to decrease a bit. You can always break up with him later, if need be. But for now, see what happens, and where your relationship can take you.
2006-09-27 17:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to move half way around the world to be with someone who told you he can't marry you because of his culture and his parents???? No. You should end the relationship,
2006-09-27 17:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless his parents are happy about you, I don't think he'll marry you! What's the point in a relationship if it doesn't go anywhere? I would bring up the marriage point again and stress your feelings. If he doesn't like it, then move on girl! Good Luck.
2006-09-27 17:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by denise r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of which you may only bypass to Australia and meet his mom and dad and notice what occurs. they could love you like loopy. We already be attentive to that he loves you if he grow to be keen to tell his mom and dad approximately you interior the 1st place, good? only bypass, because of the fact in case you do not you will by no skill be attentive to if what you gave up grow to be what you have been extremely meant to have all alongside. If issues bypass badly as quickly as you're there, then provide up the relationship and take income which you're in a rustic with a team of warm Aussie adult males. Yum!
2016-10-01 11:01:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit it to obtain a new life. There is too much heartbreak and too much family trouble for this to work out.
2006-09-27 17:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see y he shouldn't marry u just because of his culture, if he really really do love u he shouldn't let his culture stop him.
2006-09-27 17:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by AppleSoda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can continue if he is willing to marry u and hes honest and said u the truth so u beeter go on
2006-09-27 17:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by vismitha k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! girl, if you do love him go, give a chance for your relationship to grow, we all know that being in a commitment like yours is a risk taking, but if you dint do how can you knew the answers to all your question.... if i were you i will go for it..... god bless
2006-09-27 17:30:23 · answer #10 · answered by apocalips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋