how can u prevent yourself from becoming an attention-seeker?....serious answers only!?

Question

i'm in highschool and i'm quite attractive- i almost always have a bf and even if i don't i have quite a number of guys asking me out on dates. i am talkative but not loud. i get along with boys especially because i talk about things related to them as well. however, since of late, i realised that i get very upset if i see another girl who can come up to my standards- and that leads me to think that i might be an attention-seeker!! can anyone give me suggestions on how to prevent myself from becoming attention-seeker, because its not a good road to go down.
thank you in advance

Answer 1

lol , you can start bye deleating this question , and stay off the internet , for awhile


and that is being serious

LB

Answer 2

Believe it or not... If you look to other people for attention - that is usually an indicator of a self-esteem problem. If you don't want to become an "attention-seeker" then you should get to know yourself and figure out that you are just fine without the attention. When you get to that point - where you are comfortable in your own skin and are OK with your own company - you'll have all the attention you can handle because of the confidence that you have - but you really won't care if you have it or not.

Answer 3

Start by listening more than you talk.

Shutting up is a quick way to stop looking like an attention seeker. You're right though, it's not a good road to be on. It leads to dependence upon others.

You really need to look at the root of the problem...focus on being more independent. Love thyself. The confident don't need attention.

Answer 4

Well you may have histrionic personality disorder. Histrionic personality disorder is marked by an insatiable attention-seeking, a great emotionality, a provocative and flirtatious behavior and a false sense of intimacy in relationships when in reality there is very little. Most histrionic personality types are women who have not gone beyond the infantile stage and thus enact the role of both child and woman. Often the histrionic personality has great social skills and a hyper alertness to others so that she can decide how to manipulate them in order that she can be the center of attention, outside of which she is very uncomfortable. By being seductive, often exhibiting overt sexual behavior or flirtatious skills, her goal of making the object of her focus dependent on her is secured through histrionic exaggeration.
Only you can determine this.

Answer 5

I am the opposite. I have found at least for now that I need to be alone, and I am happier alone and more productive, for now. If you gather people around you because of your looks, it is probably a habit you have become accustom to and you also get a kick out of the competition with others, but here in lies the problem.
Often people have particular talent that gets them attention and so forth, but people that gather praise and attention easily fail to develop other weaknesses and make them strengths, hobbies, abilities and pass times.
Figure out your weaker characteristics and study, practice, develop and general ad them to your personality.
Also, be too busy for while to pay much attention to the guys, it will change your luck with other people and improve the quality of your relationships. You can do it!

Answer 6

You will not become an attention-seeker if you know how to justify your actions (or reactions) in a generally accepted way. For example: You wear something glamorous in school which, apparently, catches everyone's eye. It's not your intention to be an eye-catcher rather you preferred it as it simply suits your liking... to appreciate yourself or look good in your own eyes.

Just be yourself and don't compete with other women whom you think look better than you or smarter than you. If you try hard to excel them, that will likely be noticable to others... therefore judging you as an attention-seeking woman. You'll even feel that yourself if you're really seeking attention. Once you feel it, control it.

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Answer 7

"Hi cali_blondie_777, your writing is pretty good, you read intelligent and amiable, get along good with males, etc. I'm not certain about your clause ... "upset if i see another girl who can come up to my standards." I hope you mean those who get along with males like you do. That reads like jealousy and not, neccessarily, attention-seeking.
At this point, I sincerely hope I cause no pain in you, for pointing out one of your conflicts. I can only go by what you write.
In conclusion, I don't really see wrong in attention-seeking. Many of the modern day actresses have honed their skills by often being in the public eye. It appears to enhance their desirability. Of course, if they can draw 'em to the box office, they'll really succeed in the business."

Answer 8

well, i guess i would say that what you are dealing with is more of a jealousy issue. you are getting upset that this other girl is getting attention instead of you, and it would be because of her looks... i would call that jealousy.

it is important to become aware that there is more to you than your looks. that will help you to become more confident in yourself. also, try not having a boyfriend for a while. this will help you to concentrate on who you are as a person, not as a girl who always has a boyfriend.

it is good that you are at least aware of this... many girls are not...

Answer 9

be more passive. its natural for females to be competitive in the way you described. But you can consciously get a whole of this pattern of thought (especially since you are aware enough to recognize it). remind your self that these females are your peers, not your competitors. remind your self to be satisfied with what you have whether you are with some one or not, because you don't have to have a man (or every man) to be worth something.
believe it or not keeping track of how you react and making a conscious effort to curb the thoughts will help you to curb them with out the effort eventually