about 4 months ago me & my bff said our goodbyes cause her mom like controlls her every move & that inculeds who she's friends with anyways her mom is like so crazy that she will take (lets say her name is sara) 2 youth group & i go 2 the same youth group as her & the same bible study as her, her mom will stay there until the leaders actually have 2 ask her 2 leave and she like buts into everything sara does & its so nuts you wouldn't even believe me if i told you the whole story anyways when we stopped being friends i hadn't called her for like a month & @ the time we were still in school & i see her in the halls during passing period & so i do the nice thing & say hi well she went home & reported 2 her mom like always & her mom told the counsler 2 tell me that if i didn't leave her alone she would get a restraining order against me & anyways know when i go 2 youth group her mom will see me & start talking 2 me like nothing ever happened what should i do this is really geting to me!!
2006-09-27 16:41:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
okay let me claer up some things with you Mrs. Mimi Di i am 17 years old and i major in english at a community college and for your information i had to write like that so i would have enough room to say what i had to say and to answer YOUR question i am asking what i should do or say to her mom because her acting like nothing ever happened is down right wrong not to mention it makes me extreamly irritated the woman publicly humiliated me and everyone in school herd about it and not from me from her mom telling everyone that i was stalking her daughter when we have been best friends since kindergarten i was devistated when we ended our friendship i didn't talk to ANYONE for days and by the time i was ready to talk about it no one would hear what i had to say oh and heres some life advice for you ......
IF YOU DON'T HAVE SOMETHING NICE TO SAY THEN DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!!!!!!!!
to everyone else thank you for your advice
2006-09-27 17:12:51 · update #1
Sometimes frirendships have expiration dates, like milk. Have you ever read the Reason, Season, and a Lifetime Poem?
http://www.steeldog.com/reasonseasonlifetime.htm
2006-09-27 17:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by jhs80123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like, first, you should TOTALLY learn how to speak English without using such atrocious sentence structure. From your use of language and your desperate need to try and change this situation, I am guessing that you are about 11 years old or you behave like you are 11. Stop gossiping. Stop back biting. Stop talking about this weird situation like complaining to strangers will do something that telling every single person at school didn't do already. And come on, you know you have told everyone who will listen, this sad and weird story. Stop telling it or you will end up being the girl everyone avoids because you keep telling the same weird story over and over.
Now, as for the mother-Sadly, some parents actually are nuts and they will stay that way for awhile. There is nothing you can do about it. As long as your friend lives in her mother's house she is under her influence because, after-all, she is paying this child's way right now.
Frankly, it is useless to waste one minute of energy trying to figure out why people are nuts. It's like trying really hard to understand WHY someone is mentally retarded.
They are. Period. Let it go.
When you see this girl in the world, walk by and go about your business. Don't let their family lunacy govern your own happiness.
Here's great advice and never ever ever forget it. It will come in handy for the rest of your life...
NEVER ARGUE WITH A CRAZY PERSON.
2006-09-27 23:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi Di 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would basically tell her that it hurt your feelings when you couldn't be friends with your best friend anymore because of her. You sound like a good person, going to college, bible study, youth group..etc. It's not like your a bad influence on her. I would just ask her...Why are you talking to me if I'm such a bad person for your daughter to be friends with?...A restraining order goes both ways, and I would mention that!!!!
2006-09-28 00:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by denise r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we do not know why people do the things they do or even say. Just remember that you are not the problem and let it go. Times heals all things
2006-09-27 23:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by tina j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're lucky you got out sooner than later! stay away from that one!
2006-09-27 23:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by Trisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she got mental help
2006-09-27 23:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by D M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋