2006-09-27 15:52:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Nice people tend to be well adjusted people. This means they try to help others. They tend to overlook it for a while if someone seems to be taking advantage because they may understand that the person has some problem. They may even be willing to allow a person to take a little advantage for a while because the issue may not be all that big a deal for them. After all, they are more than willing to help someone else. There are any number of other traits that come with well adjustedness as well.
It is because nice people are often strong, decent, solid people who don't blow a fuse at the drop of a hat and who aren't interested in telling off a friend just because that friend has committed some (in the eyes of the well adjusted person) "minor" thing involving taking advantage that people are able to take advantage of them. It is their solidness and decency and generosity and understanding that invites attempts at taking advantage. It is also these things about nice people that make them say, "It isn't that important to me" or "I don't mind" for a while longer than, maybe, they should.
Nice people are not, however, stupid or gullible, as many people seem to think they are. They can be strong and assertive when they decide it is time. They often wish, however, that their nature didn't attract advantage-takers because in the end nice people are put in the position of having to put a stop to being taken advantage of - and that's often when the guilty person feels the nice person has let them down.
It is a challenge for nice people, but the alternative would be for them to give up their decency and understanding when it comes to other people and to become less than what they are. This isn't the only challenge for nice people because many people think they're too stupid to be anything but nice, so being a nice person may have its price. Some nice people are willing to pay that price, though, because they get to know that they are decent to other people - and that is kind of (what else) nice!
2006-09-27 19:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
People take advantage of nice people because the nice people allow them to. They never say no so when someone needs something they always go to the nice person who will always say yes.
2006-09-27 15:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm too nice at work, just when you think you have fit in the department, there is always someone nosy, or older than you who wanna get you fired. I'm prettier and younger and we work the same job. I'm nice because I have to mind the rules and perform Customer service. I get taken advantage of because these people are jealous of me. Plain and simple. They test how nice I am to see of I will go off on them or take it with a grain of salt.
2016-01-07 20:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kurves 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sucks doesnt it!!! i seem to be a "nice guy" i havent really been taken advantage of but a few times, but most people in the world are only thinking of themselvs!! if people were more openminded and thought about things all the way through before thet acted this world would be a better place...but that will never happen. nice people seem to also wear their hearts on their sleeve, and i've gotten shafted over by that a few times too, but in turn, if u live life how yoiu want to and are kind and thoughtful, good things really will come your way, whether its sooner or later, it will more than likely be later....take care, spread goodness, and smile more often...everyone looks better when they smile!!peace...
2006-09-27 16:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because it's much easier to take advantage of nice people. Hateful people won't put up with it.
2006-09-27 15:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by RabidBunyip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the fact that they're eager to please.
However, there're moments when it pays to be selfish & to not give in all the time.
Help to the best of your ability and leave it at that. And only to those who truly deserve it too. Some people just don't appreciate a helping hand sometimes.
2006-09-27 16:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by ViRg() 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew. I get taken advantage of aaaallll the time! I think people take kindess as a sign of weakness, but that isn't so.
2006-09-27 15:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Author Al 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because of the domino effect. generally I like to think the people who take advantage were taken advantage of. the cycle of karma . every action = opposite reaction. it may not be obvious why it happens to you...
2006-09-27 16:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sri H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They don't unless you let them. I'm a very nice person, but I learned to stand up for myself. I have found that you can be nice and still be respected. Being nice doesn't mean you have to be a wimp.
2006-09-27 16:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they drink hatorade every morning for breakfast then find a soul to hate on some ppl are just born haters, so only be as nice to them as they are to you.
2006-09-27 16:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋