I am a 15 year alcaholic and drug addict.
Apparently i had about the worst heroin, crack, alcohol, methadone and valium habits in britain (according to the relevant authaurities).
I gave it all up 18 months ago.
At that point met my partner and started to become extremely wealthy.
I was creating the wealth in order to have gender reasignment.
This was the reason that i was taking the drugs.
Now, the partner i have says that they will leave me if i have it done but god is telling me to do it and that it is the reason that he made me exeptionally good at trading currencies. I am also so madly in love with my partner, i do not know if i can face life without them.
What would you do.
2006-09-27 15:19:02 · 11 answers · asked by al 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Most people who get sex reassignment surgery are not happy afterward- you lose a lot in the surgery, you won't have the sensitivity in your new anatomical construction, and although they do try to save as many nerve endings as possible, it ends up being "mostly numb tissue". I would seriously rethink getting a reassignment. Appreciate the body you have- if you think G_d is telling you to get a reassignment, I have a question: why didn't G_d just give you that body to begin with? Anyhow, your partner loves you for who you are and doesn't want you to change yourself. What would you achieve by getting the surgery? To look more like how you want to? To feel better about loving someone because you will no longer be of the same sex? Good luck, in all sincerity. You sound like you have overcome a lot already, and it would be awful for you to be disappointed and lose your love by choosing this avenue.
2006-09-27 17:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why on earth you had to take any of those drugs for a gender reassignment, as most of them are illegal and the one that isn't is an antidepressant (which is highly illegal when not taken as prescribed), but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.
That said, I'd sit down and talk with your partner about it. You might be with someone who doesn't want to be with the opposite gender, or you could get lucky and be with someone who loves you for your personality and not your pubic area. If the latter is the case, I'd guess your partner's just kind of freaked out (it IS a huge change, when you stop and think about it, in the way you'll be living, identifying, etc.). Talking through it might help.
If the former is the case, I'd say you'll have to think about what you want more - your partner, or the physical sex you feel you should have been born with.
Good luck.
2006-09-27 15:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by living_in_a_bell_jar 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Loving-kindness or "metta", as you've written, is all about a ideas set that perspectives all issues as an crucial component of each little thing round us, so we cope with all sentient beings w/ altruism, which, at the same time as making others satisfied, you change into satisfied, ultimately through default. Anger through a Bodhisattva is only used with a clean ideas it really isn't any longer perceiving issues incorrectly, and coming from ego, it really is coming from LOVE. so that you've already were given the conception, my drivel right here only backs up what you're declaring. _()_
2016-11-24 23:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be a background of desperation to your question. I cannot advise you on re assignment but I know only too well that love trust and support will stand you in good stead now and in times to come.
May your choice lead you to peace.
Best wishes, Rose P.
2006-09-27 15:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by rose p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your partner loves you for who and what you are-if you change that they may not like you anymore on the outside,even though on the inside you will still be the same person. I can't help you here,cause' i don't know what i would do if i wanted to change who i was and my g/f told me she would leave me if i did,cause i love her more than life it's self.Do you stay what you are and be miserable,or do you change yourself and be happy,but lonesome?That is tough!!!!
2006-09-27 15:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off of drugs,
Gon't get the "reassignment" surgery.
Stay with your "partner".
It's the drugs that's making you confused. We don't need another "Crying Game" here.
2006-09-27 15:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is not giving you any advice on your gender reassignment surgery. Oh wait, that's right, maybe he was meaning to leave you some clues about how he felt about your lifestyle choices when he had one of the prophets include the story of Soddam and Gomorrah in the Bible. Yeah, that's probably it.
2006-09-27 15:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by mormon 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
god doesnt tell you to do anything, twit, leave him and his money and do your change, such is life
2006-09-27 15:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is everything,
but you need friendship as well,
as love is sometimes blind,,,
2006-09-27 22:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever will make you the happiest...tough choice
2006-09-27 15:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋