How to change back to your self? I here it is. I am 21 now and Ive been trying to be someone also for last two years. What happened was I read this book about improving your dating.It teaches you in order to attract women you need to have certain personality.So I was always trying to be that person in the book,watching everything I say,how I talk,walk,my face expressions,what kind of jokes I make,how I behave evertying according to the book. While I did got more attention from the girls,but in the long run I started feeling bad to my stomach.I knew it just wasnt me I was always so fake. I think I started being very self concsious,and started having social anxiety and panic attacks because of that.Before I just did whatever I wanted and I felt great.
Now Ive been someone also for so long I dont know who am I. I always think now is this the way should I behave,or is it something that I learned in the book.I always think how to act now in all situations,which give me great anxiety.
2006-09-27 15:16:41 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
How do I change back to being my self and without thinking about what am I doing all the time,if its right or now,is it me or not.Stop caring what people think about me. How do I erase all the programming from that book?
2006-09-27 15:17:52 · update #1
Try looking at your thoughts. Either your old self, or your new one that you don't like so much, exists in your thoughts. It's like a file in your memory. You keep bringing it out by reopening the file. If you see that this problem exists only in thoughts, you can then see that, because thoughts have no substance, you can delete them, or let them go. They will no longer have a hold over you. Then you will not have to think about how to behave, for you will then be free to act any way the circumstance requires.
2006-09-27 15:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by michaelsan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that when you read a book, it stays with you forever... So this might be harder than you think. I would try hanging with a new group of people & establishing your true self in a new astmosphere. If that's not possible, you could always fake a depressive mood for a few weeks & simply cut yourself off from everyone. Anyone who checks in on you will be your true friends, & you'll have a safe environment to share with them what you're going through. If you don't know who your true self is you're going to have a tough time though. Mimicing someone real that you look up to might be another avenue, just don't be creepy about it...
2006-09-27 15:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by Advice1A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need professional help....not advise from these YA amateurs.
2006-09-27 15:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋