SO i dont really know i have a good loving boyfriend but its not like marriage serious! so im stuck ! help???????????????????????
2006-09-27 14:59:15 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If its not marriage serious then it is no where close to being baby serious.
Wait a couple more years at least.... even one year at least and see how you feel then.
If you are already pregnant, thats a different story... if so, good luck!
2006-09-27 15:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
At 17, you should be finishing school, going to dances and proms, working part time, thinking about college, planning a future. The relationship you are now in is not serious, according to you. It would be a MAMMOTH mistake for you to have a child until and unless you are ready fora total commitment of 18 years to that child, including a marriage where you and the child will have some protections under the law, something "boyfriends" do not provide. You have plenty of time to have children. Get some job and life security first. Good luck.
Chow!!
2006-09-27 15:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by No one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are merely contemplating this, ask yourself... How much do you value your freedom? Once you make the decision to have a child it is gone. Are you fully prepared financially? Cribs, changing tables, swings, blankets, formula (unless you breastfeed!), diapers, wipees, clothing, and countless other infant necessities are NOT inexpensive. Do you have a job with insurance benefits to cover the cost of prenatal doctors appointments, the birth itself, and post-natal well baby visits and shots? Are you fully prepared for sleepless nights? Is your boyfriend going to get up in the middle of the night to feed a screaming baby or change a diaper? One day turns into the next and you have no idea what day it even is, or the last time you had the luxury of a shower. I had my first child when I was 25, and am very glad I waited until I was older. Enjoy what are destined to be the most fun years of your early life!! Think about it... If you are pregnant already and trying to make a decision, the best people to discuss this with is your parents.
2006-09-27 15:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should have the pregnancy, and keep it if its in your heart to do so. But have the baby at least! you can give it up for adoption if in the end you dont feel you can take care of it. But trust me, once you hear that first heartbeat and feel those kicks...love will take over...love for your baby! There are many things out there that will help you keep the baby and take care of it, many programs. I would look into that. You also never know this may bring you and your boyfriend closer together and make him marriage material. Or it could go the opposite, but either way you will know if he is going to be there or not. I hope it all works out for you!
****okay that was if you are pregnant, if you arent then I would wait until you are done with college and settled for a family.
2006-09-27 15:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am only 19- since i was 12 I said I wanted kids I loved them I could care for a kid love him/her play with him/her and give him/her what they needed, but in the real life I couldn't. I didn't have a job what if the kid had got sick and how would I pay for the child to go to the doctor to get help. I made allot of mistakes in my life but one that I was happy I didn't make was bringing a baby into this life that I knew I would never be able to give him/her the life he/she needs and should have. I just found out that I might be 7 weeks pregnant you would think I would be excited but I'm scared asking myself a mill. ?s will the father be here for me and the child, will I be able to pay my bills and buy the right things the baby needs and still be able to give the baby what I didn't get to have as a kid, how did I mess up and get into this. Trust me you have your WHOLE life to have a baby and a family and a husband will be better then a loving boyfriend your still young. Please don't do anything you will wish you hadn't done.
2006-09-27 15:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you pregnant? Or just asking about it, if you are just asking dont be crazy, get an education a good job, a loving husband, and then only then think about children, you have many years ahead of you to bear children, why do it when you are still a child yourself. If you are pregnant, then you have some major sould searching do and should talk to your parent/s about it, and figure out what you need to do, adoption is a great way to give love to a child you are not able to care for right now, and it gives a family who cannot have children of their own a chance to love a child of their own. Or with the support of your parents you can still be a good mom, get an education and become a successful mom and adult, both are good choices if you are in a situation that deems it necessary.
2006-09-27 15:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by rottie110 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your pregnant already then make the best choice for you. Not for anyone else. If your not then don`t yet. It is to early and you still have a lot of teenage stuff to do. I just found out that Im pregnant and Im twenty. Im scared but I have a good fiance and a good life. Im having my baby because I feel that I am ready. Don`t think that Im trying to preach to you or anything like that. I just thought that maybe I could help or at least try to help.
2006-09-27 15:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by imthecoolestaskanyone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay in school and go to college, get a good job. Then you can think about having a baby.
If you ABSOULUTY love kids, then babysit.
A child is a lot of work. I was 29 when I had my son. It wasn't my choice to wait that long, I couldn't get pregnant but now looking back I am glad it happend the way it did.
My husband and I have college degrees, a savings account, a house, 2 cars. If we would have had a baby at your age I don't think we would have had half of what we have.
Please think long and hard about this. You can't bring it back when you're tired, sick, and want to go out w/ you're friends.
2006-09-27 15:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by jakesmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your smart you will just deal with your strong maternal urges and wait. If you have a kid now you will not be able to give it a very good life as you could if you were older, wiser, educated, and had money saved up. Kids are so expensive, they grow up and only get more expensive. Look at all the women living in poverty and you notice one thing. Nearly ALL of them have kids, most of them had their kids at young ages, and they don't have a college education. It's your life but if you could hold on it would be better for you and your future child. Like you I also had a strong desire for kids at an early age.
2006-09-27 15:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by BereaGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you thinking about getting pregnant or are you already pregnant? If you are thinking about it, NO DON'T DO IT! You are too young and so is your boyfriend.
If you are pregnant, I would make a decision based on how I felt, not how my boyfriend feels or how my mom feels. You have a few choices and since you love children, keeping the baby would be the best choice. It would be hard, but you could do it. I don't think you could cope with having an abortion or giving your child up for adoption. If you hated children or felt you could not afford keeping the baby, I would say put the child up for adoption.
2006-09-27 15:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by RKC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you have a baby now that it would probably be harder on you. Think of all the things you do now without a baby, and then think about all the things you wont be able to do because you have a baby. Dont get me wrong I LOVE kids. I had one at 20 and im now 21. A lot has changed. No your life wont suck itll just be very different. Looks like you have a lot to think about. Good Luck!
2006-09-27 15:05:36 · answer #11 · answered by ~florida-girl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋