nursing questions?

Question

Why are some people who answer questions about nursing so down on people who dont,even though you have no idea of the reason person isnt.?
have a heart i mean some people for medical reasons cant.
It is a personal choice.
didnt your parents ever tell you if you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all?

Answer 1

People are amazing aren't they? In the 60's and 70's no one breastfed. The 80's it made a pretty strong comeback and hasn't wavered since. Certainly the feeding of a child is the parent's choice. Some breastfeeding advocates make mother's that choose to bottle feed feel like they are endangering the child! Good grief. Millions of babies have grown up just fine on a bottle. Pressure to breastfeed is NOT what a new mother needs! Good luck to you!

Answer 2

Yes I know. It is hurtful. I did not nurse my first and was treated badly by some people. Years later I realized I probably could have nursed with proper support, advice, patience and confidence. But I didn't find that until my second child(whom I nursed) and then later when I became much more educated in birth. If people had been less critical and more caring and supportive I would have done better the first time around instead of having years of guilt. My first born is healthy, happy and wonderful. The formula was not the best thing I know, but I did the best I could with what I had at the time. Do not feel guilty. Use your hurt to help others. Take a breastfeeding course, learn all you can and help someone else struggling with nursing. If they still choose not too, then still lift them up as good moms.

Answer 3

I know what you mean. It is a personal choice between you, your spouse, and of course the baby. Not all babies take to nursing and prefer the bottle over the breast. I am a mom of 5 boys and my first son only nursed for 6 months, my second one only took it for a few days, my third son didn't nurse at all, my 4th son nursed only a week or so, and my last son nursed for 21 months. So when it comes down to it your baby is the one that makes the decision. Everybody should mind their own business and let the parents make the decision. That is my opinion!!!

Answer 4

I agree. My son was a preemie. He didn't have the ability to nurse. He had a weak suck. I had to pump for him. It took him about 45 minutes to take an ounce when he was real small and it took me about 20 minutes to pump for him, I also had a 2 year old running around. Needless to say he went to formula when he was a month old. i just couldn't do it anymore.I was exhausted. But people made me feel soooo guilty about putting him on formula. He's 4 now and just as healthy and smart as my daughter (who was breast fed). I don't regret my decision anymore, but then I felt like the worst mother in the world.
People need to mind their own business sometimes. They mean well, I think, but they don't know everything. I know a lot of kids that weren't breast fed and some how they turned out normal. It's all in what's right for your circumstances.

Answer 5

Of course it is a personal choice. There is no doubt that breast milk is the best diet for your baby, but sometimes the best diet is not the best option! The most important is to feed the baby with love, regardless if one is using her own milk or a formula.

My baby was born prematurely, and I was not able to breastfeed him. I really wanted to, but he never latched on. I ended up pumping exclusively, and my baby was fed my milk exclusively, but from a bottle. It was my personal choice. But pumping is not for everyone - some women find it extremely painful, or they cannot relax enough to have a letdown.
Nowadays formulas are much better than they used to be, and they contain many nutrients that mother's milk does.

Answer 6

I totally agree with you, my sister tried her hardest to breastfeed, and her milk just did not come in and therefore she could not breastfeed. It turned out her daughter had a milk allergy so they had no choice anyways, but to give her formula. So some people just pass judgments before they think. I mean they must have some sort of insecurity within themselves if they can pass judgments about others.

Answer 7

I think some moms in their enthusiasm and excitement about their own nursing experiences may say things that could be hurtful without realizing that they are coming off as jerks. Instead of sharing the joy they are perceived as obnoxious.

Answer 8

I agree with with you. It is a personal choice. Some people may not be able to breast feed for many reasons. But, if you are able to it is good for the baby, and you. But it is completely a personal choice.

Answer 9

I think it's just hard to see a parent not have accurate information about nursing. It's frustrating to see a parent not make their child's nutrition and growth a top priority even when they do have accurate information.

I try not to judge because I *don't* know what a mother's personal story is. She might have adopted, or had a double mastectomy. But it just kills me to see a baby getting less than the very best, because all babies deserve that.

Answer 10

Every woman is different and should be given the right to do whatever is best fot them and their baby.No one should be looked down upon for their personal preference.STOP BEING IGNORANT PEOPLE.