I am 9 Months Pregnant , I will be having my daughter soon , Up until recently I have been dealing w/ a normal situation in my life. That of aloness , My SO works offshore for 28 days at a time. This leaves me alone most of the time. I have no car , am out of reach of the bus line , and my only access to stores are through cabs. I am a NEW MOM and have no idea how I could handle any of this.
Does anyone have any suggestions ect. I have no family nor freinds in this state and my family can not make it to be here due to finances. Would fear be normal at this ?
Thanks
2006-09-27 14:40:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes, it is normal to be afraid in a situation like this. I would suggest that you get a car. Even if it is a $300 junker, you need one. You should never ever be alone 28 days at a time with a new baby and no one to check on you. Even something as simple as slipping and falling when taking a shower could become a big deal.
Talk to local churches, find an on line playgroup or moms group. Talk to local La Leche League and the nurses at your hospital about mothers outreaches and programs.
The bottom line, have someone who checks up on you, even if that person is a social worker. It may be beneficial for you to contact your local social services department, explain your situation, and ask them if they know of any help.
2006-09-27 15:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by mayasmom1204 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you go stay with family for a little bit after the baby comes, if not, look for some mom groups in the area, maybe start one. Connecting with others in your area could help. You really should have transportation especially with a baby, but I know how finances are, and that it can be difficult. Enjoy your baby, take walks, join an online birth club, look for an online pregnancy group that has one for the month your child will be born. I would think it would be normal to be afraid especially being so isolated, maybe you and your SO should think about relocating to a more populated area, where you could get to a park, or community area to meet other moms, its soo hard when you are far away from things that are condusive to socializing. Best wishes.
2006-09-27 21:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by rottie110 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the most important thing to work on would be to get a car. If he has a good job and sends you money you could be able to afford this. This should also be his priority because after the baby comes you will especially need a car. Maybe you could ask your family and him both for help in this. I think being disturbed in this situation is totally normal but at least with a car you shouldn't feel so isolated and trapped.
2006-09-27 21:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by joni38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god sweetie it so normal. I would be going stir crazy with a side of cabin fever. But a good way to get through it, I swear buy it, is the internet. MySpace is a great way to keep in touch with friends and family across the globe, and a great way to keep up in their lives as well as they can keep up in yours. Also, and this one might need some getting used to, try on-line gaming. Any game that lets you interact with other on-line is a good way to find new friends and have some fun at the same time. Also chat rooms are an old but sure way of ineracting with others. You can find other moms and soon to be moms in the same situations as you. I hope you find people sweet-heart. All my hopes and wishes to you!
2006-09-28 12:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by Krustybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to make the best of the situation. Do you have any friends close by? does you significant other have family or friends close by? Or if no one is close by try talking to you SO about getting a job that is alot closer to home. Especially when you could give birth at any moment. Pregnant women give off high amounts of hormones, so needless to say we have many moods and loneliness is one of them. I'd either have your SO get a job closer by or talk about moveing closer to your reletives. IF your significant other one really loves you he should understand and be willing to get a different job or be willing to move closer to your reletives. This is only my opinion.
2006-09-27 21:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by danielle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the bible, it help my wife while was overseas in the military.
2006-09-27 21:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by Glacier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely hun! I would be scared to death.
2006-09-27 21:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋