I find myself thinking a lot about him lately. I admire him.
I know what he's like(looks, personality, intelligence), but I have never met him in person.
No, I'm not stalking him. He knows who I am. We are both single, but I don't want to seem too eager to make the first move of asking for a date. What should I do?
We are sort of friends through the internet. We have a lot of things in common. Both the same age.
Should I give our friendship more time to develop before meeting with him in person? I've known who he is for about 1 year now & we've exchanged about 3 good emails from each other.
I've never really asked him for a date hoping that he would ask me.
But you know how it is; sometime people can't read your mind until you actually ask them...
Ha/ha; don't laugh It's pretty funny actually.
Helpful answers appreciated!
;)
2006-09-27 14:35:41 · 17 answers · asked by Trinity 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well if I were him, I'd ask you out, I mean your a girl that knows me, you are a good friend. I'd want to meet you in person as a friend first then ask you out on a date. friendship is the best thing, then having a girlfriend is another step. he's probably trying to figure out if your right for him? I know you wouldn't want to wait forever for him to ask you out. I'd relax. He will make his move on ya sooner or later. he's just trying to build more base on yours and his relationship first I guess.
2006-09-27 14:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Patient NightShade 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Realistically, what do you have to loose? You never met him in person, therefore you two aren't obviously that close. I usually wouldn't advise a woman to make the first move, however, since you met him on the internet and have only spoken several times, then I don't see any major risks here. What's the worst that can happen? If he says no, well hey at least you tried and well you didn't speak to him much anyways. If he says yes, well then you'll be happy. If he does say yes, don't sleep with him on this first date because if you do, it will most likely be the last time you see him.
2006-09-27 14:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I'm that guy.
Actually, you have no idea who I am or who he is. He could be anything from the man of your dreams or of you nightmares. I wouldn't give him any information about yourself. If you want to meet him, I suggest that you set up an informal get together with him, you and several of your friends (male and female).
That way you at least have some protection in case he's the Nightmare on Elm St. type.
If he doesn't go for that, he's either selfish or dangerous.
3 e-mails in one year hardly constitutes a meaningful relationship.
2006-09-27 14:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by SPLATT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IMHO too soon if only 3 emails exchanged.
BUT, if you really feel there is something...
"Group" date. And I don't mean double date.. I mean, a group of firends meeting somewhere. Atleast 1 of his friends and 1 of yours. May sound childish..but there's really no reason to jump into one-on-one dating. -- Everyone wants to jump into a one-on-one date, WHY? Seems like people limit themselves by jumping ahead too quickly.
A group date will A) make it seem less serious B) slow things down a bit so you don't move to fast C) show if he acts the same in a group, and around his friends as he did in your emails/chat
See if he ignores people, is rude and interrupts, makes fun of people, etc.
2006-09-27 14:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by John S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps asking to meet him personally would be a nice thing to do first. Ask for a casual meeting not a date then decide from there. Your mind would have been set by then.
2006-09-27 14:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by tomatoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im pretty leary when it comes to meeting people you chat with online. Its a whole other world. You cant really know this person until you really meet them.
If you do choose to meet, I suggest a coffee house in the middle of the day.
You could simply say "What do you think about us meeting?" and see how he reacts.
2006-09-27 14:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much truth can you really know about someone through the internet? Better be careful. A lot of sex predators use the internet to meet their victims.
2006-09-27 14:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 06:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Internet makes things difficult and I don't really like forming relationships through it.
2006-09-27 14:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-27 14:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋