2006-09-27 14:18:05 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I bet you weren't listening to him.
Your questions are a hoax, read the other questions this poster makes before you other answerers jump my case.
2006-09-30 17:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by answer annie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he was taught this form of logic. He was probably abused himself and that's what he was told. Get out now! This will only get worse and he may even hurt you far worse than you ever imagine. Not that he may not care for you but this is how he deals with things....violence. He NEEDS help you can't give him. All abusers make it the victims fault. You did nothing to provoke him. You can't make someone hit you unless they already want to and you've flat out said"hit me cause I love it". Which I don't think you said. He's very sick and needs help! Honestly girl do you want to see if he'll kill you someday or run out the door and find a man who could never raise a hand to woman because it's WRONG! There is no excuse at all. Turn him in. The police will confirm he'll do it again. All first hits have bigger ones coming. Or learn self defense and kick his @%%! Give it right back and make sure you knock his sorry butt out! Bats work great. Invest in birth control too cause if you have a kid with him he'll hit your child to. Too many men, who beat women, have hurt the kids too if not killed them. Do you want this life? Call a friend or relative to get you out while you can still use all of your limbs. I'll pray for you darlin'
2006-09-27 14:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey. Your boyfriend is so mean to you! You are an amazing person and do not deserve to be treated this horribly. Even though you may love him, he treats you horribly and blames you for all his problems. He is so wrong to do that. You need to break up with him, hard as that may be. What was your childhood like? Where was your father? If you had an abusive or nonexistent father figure, then that's why you're attracted to these awful men. Try to find someone that isn't as attractive to you, i.e. the boring guys, so you can be happy. You could call a hotline for domestic abuse, which I encourage you to do. You could also email me, and I'd be more than happy to reply. Please get out of this relationship ASAP before something worse happens. Even though you have absolutely no idea who I am, and I don't know you at all, I will be there for you when you need me. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!! I send you my love and I'll pray for you. Try to get help, maybe go to a therapist or find a local women's group that you can lean on for support. I'm sure there's one at your place of worship or your community center. You deserve to be happy and not live in fear of an abusive man. Do it for me, and most importantly, do it for you. I beg of you!!! I know you can do it! Email me when you're free of this tyrant!!!!!!!!!!! Power to the females!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-27 14:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by *SaTaN*KiTtY* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question is scary!!!!!
RUN, RUN, RUN as fast as you can!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Don't ever let anyone hit you and think that they are your boyfriend, he may think he is your master or you are his punching bag or something but a boyfriend would love you and care for you, not punch you and especially not try to blame you for his serious faults!
The answer to your question is a simple one! When someone does something that they know to be wrong or dispicable behavior, they deflect the blame immediately onto someone else, usually the person they have wronged. It is classic denial!!
RUN away from this nightmare!!!!
Seriously!
You are a person with special qualities and wonder and beauty inside you and we only get one chance at this gift called life!
Don't let someone disrespect you so, you are better than that!
2006-09-27 14:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kyra P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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The things you say to him, the way you treat him, this is why. Are you more concerned with what you can get out of the relationship than with treating him with respect? If you want to treat him with respect then sometimes this might mean physically standing up to him while intellectually standing with him. Most of the time you are talking to him (or interacting with him) in your own code and he simply doesn't know where you're coming from. It's not all your fault, it's a two-way street.
I know this is an incomplete answer, but I have about twenty other answers to get to as well. Good luck to y'all.
2006-09-27 16:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by sincere12_26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's a complete moron. That's exactly what my mom had to go through and what angers me the most is you. Why are you still with him? I can see that this has happened to you more than once yet you are still with him. THIS IS NOT LOVE. Too many females belive crap like this can actually be love. Are you serious. Your too good to be treated like this, and I can say this without even meeting you.
2006-09-27 14:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Tyrone Ioane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause he's not a MAN if he hits you! Do not let him hit you ever again and let him know that you will file charges if he does. Abuse will only get worse. Stand up for yourself and NEVER let anyone especially a man push you around! Good luck! If he keeps it up you could always do a Loraina Bobbett on him!
2006-09-27 14:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by SoSpecial 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has issues of insecurity and self-esteem and it is time for you to remove yourself from the situation. Family and friends I am sure will help and support you and counseling would be a good idea so you do not end up with someone who will beat you again. More often than not we end up in a pattern of chosing the same type of person again. Please leave and get yourself help to not go through this situation again.
2006-09-27 14:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by mystiqalwolf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is to protect the FRAGILE ego of an ABUSER who will NEVER admit that he has a problem with Violence and DISRESPECTS his life partner and hates HER for having Self-Esteem ....
So to make himself feel BETTER about his own LACK of abilities to care for others and LACK of ability to survive in the real world ...
HE has to DESTROY the self-esteem of his partner.
That is why he says "See what you MADE ME do?"
Get your Behind off the couch, pack his trash in a Plastic Bag, drop kick the trash out the door (if it is your home -- otherwise, get your stuff OUT of his place), and DO NOT LOOK BACK!
These LOSERS will NEVER change. Because change means that they are BROKEN in body through death -- and that is the ONLY fate that they deserve and will change them, because NO LONGER will they be using this 'excuse' for their brutality.
2006-09-27 14:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you grabbed his hand and hit yourself with it, you did not make him hit you. Get out now from this guy with serious lack of self control issues. They do NOT improve. He can't keep his cool long enough to find a solution to a disagreement. Don't stay with him.
2006-09-27 14:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you hold a gun to his head?!You should let your family(Big brother)know,and some close friends know too.If I were there,even if he were only playing,I would hit him a few thousand times,and say "See what YOU made ME do?!!"Women are to be cherished and treated like women,not hit even for playing purposes!
2006-09-27 14:22:49 · answer #11 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋