Basically I have no friends, and i think that it is cuz of my face cuz i have a pretty good personality, and i am like a biggest joker and can make anyone laugh at any time ( almost got a girl cuz of that but).... I know that unless i get a face transplant, i will never ever be able to get a girl, and I have grown used to that fact, but i am tired of being lonely and having my laptop/tv as my best friend. everyone uses me and when i need them they turn their back on me. plz feel free to give ANY kind of advice as possible, and dont worry about my feelings, they wont get jurt, just please me HONEST. thanks and have a great day.
2006-09-27 13:54:35 · 33 answers · asked by Sultan Cartman 5 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
That's not a good photo - it's very small and dark. Post something better. Don't forget to smile, because that makes a big difference as to how attractive someone looks.
But from what I can see, you look completely normal and not ugly at all. It's probably your low self-esteem driving people away.
2006-09-27 14:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are the ugliest guy on this planet. I am hoping you live in a small town and that is the reason you don't have friends. I think living in a small town is hard, because everyone always knows your business. You should join some groups around your city and see if others have the same interest as you do. If you don't have friends in school, don't worry about it. It really won't matter when you get out of school and start college and start a real job. The older we get, the better friendships we find. Sometimes you can find friends that last a lifetime, but sometimes you don't. I really hope you can find some people with the same interest as you and don't worry....all in good time.
2006-09-27 14:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by stephaniea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you are it doesn't matter. Ugly guys can get hot chicks if you exude some confidence. In fact, the hotter the girl, the better your chances. Why? Here is a quick synopsis:
- Hot girls intimidate most guys and so they rarely get approached and thus, they wonder what's wrong with them.
- Be sure to approach a girl when she is in a group of other girls. When they are in a pack they feel safer and will let their guard down faster. Be sure to choose just one. Hit on more than one girl and you are toast*. (* This rule is pliable if you become super-pimpalicious and can bring 2 or more back to your crib)
- Know your current events and have an opinion, but be sure to allow for the opinions that may be opposing. Try to avoid caustic topics until you are dating (immigration, abortion, etc). DO NOT come off as a know it all. Use phrases like "I believe," or I feel," or the bold, "It's clear..." Example - It's clear Howard Stern may push the envelope as far as language and content, but I have a hard time accepting the broad terminology of decency
- Be witty rather than clownish
- Never, I repeat, NEVER, ask or elude to/ for a girls acceptance. Instead, automatically assume you have and you usually will.
- Your post would be counter-productive due to the mea culpa/ whimpy approach
- Be sure you have a hobby. Hiking or similiar is great because it's cheap, and adventurous... chic dig a guy who has accomplished something. Especially something physical and somewhat spiritual.
- Work out a little. You do not have to become Mr. Universe. Try to work up to or start with 50 push-ups/ 50 leg lifts/ 50 sit-ups every morning. It'll take 10 minutes and some commitment but you'll like the results... so will they. If you want a general program feel free to email me
- Always wear nice shoes. If you spend money on anything, let it be this.
- When taking a date out, bring an Orchid (roses are for posers), go to a hole-in-the-wall restaurant (do your research), and take a walk. Just ask questions... if she asks the same-old questions about you... What do you do for work... answer in no more than one sentence and say... I already know about me... tell me about yourself...
- Friends: you'll find they change over and over as you change... focus on yourself for a while and remember to "Choose your frriends, don't let them choose you."
The above will not normally work in the High School environment but will serve you well otherwise.
2006-09-27 14:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by joeiacovino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't really see your picture but that should'nt matter! It doesn't matter if your the ugliest person on the planet you always have something special to offer someone. There is someone out there for everyone. Maybe it's just not your time yet. Just wait and I'm sure you will find the person you're looking for! Try to not let other people get you down and know that you are a good and special person. If those people are jerks there not worth having as a girlfriend or a friend!!!
2006-09-27 14:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I can't even see ur face in ur pic but it doesn't matter because i'm sure that's not the case.It may be more because u have such a negative attitude about urself.(very self destructive for you) Hey looks shouldn't matter and obviously they don't for a lot of people. I know plenty of ugly people w/ ugly personalities and they always have somebody (not that the person they're with are alway beauty queens) but there is someone for everyone. And if u have ever seen Flavor of Love (vhi sundays) now that is ugly and he still has women. You should want someone to be with u for u anyway. by the way how old are u? Friends are overated anyway(trust me)
2006-09-27 14:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by Kaffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks are not the most important thing in life because looks fade. no beautiful person will always be beautiful, and i don't believe there is such thing as being ugly. ur face has nothing to do with not getting girls or not having friends. people like it when u have confidence. u just need confidence that is it. if u have a good personality like u say u do and u can make people laugh then i dont see y u cant get a girlfriend because girls are looking for those two things and if u have those two then they get past the looks part.
2006-09-27 14:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, you may not be the cutest guy on the planet, but you have to look at life as a gift. Look how lucky you are to be you. If you think its bad, turn on the news! Don't you hear of many people in the war or people finding out they have a disease(sorry if you do..) or the people that are digging through trash trying to find a MEAL! Seriously, if you think you need a transplant, look around you! I bet you know someone who is mentally ill and is made fun of constantly because of their issues. Yes, you might have bullies or users but just be yourself. If you only have yourself to show off to, then you really need to think about the GOOD things about you. Don't say you have NO good things about you. You do. You said yourself as a joker and a good personality. Well if people around you are that shallow then you have to realize they just aren't worth it! Believe in yourself! You could be the next Bill Gates because you believe in yourself and didn't just use your appearance to get on a famous magazine cover!
2006-09-27 14:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your picture is way too small for me to get a good look at you, but from what I do see, you are definitely not ugly! Stop blaming your problems on your looks and take responsibility fir what is really at fault in your life. And PLEASE forget about the face transplant, they have not perfected the technique yet and you could wind up worse off than you are now! I honestly think that a smart guy like you has allot to offer, you just need to find the right person that will appreciate your gifts. But first you must love yourself, stop beating yourself up, and be grateful for what you do have.
2006-09-27 14:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by Silva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once again. It doesn't matter what you look like. You need to realize who you are on the inside and not just on what your outside looks like.
As far as the "friend" using you, You need to learn to worry about yourself, not be totally selfish, but instead of tiring to make friends by helping people out when they need it, think about how they treat you and what the effects of your help is going to have on you, take care of you because your the only one who will.
You sound like a nice guy, I think once you realize who you are and give your self some good esteem then you'll be more noticeable by the females. We women like a confident man.
I think nerds are cute personally, not because they are smart and can help with homework, i don't have homework anymore, but because they are the ones who have the most personality on the inside. I have experienced it first hand.
So be good to yourself and feel good about the way you look because if you get a female it is only conserened about your looks you won't be happy. Also I have maybe one true friend, so don't feel bad about that eaither.
2006-09-27 14:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by Charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you've got to realize that it's not the persons genetics but the personality that makes the person. There's lots of perceivably "ugly" people who have gotten many great things do to their personality and actions. Fix your confidence, and forget your low self esteem, it's you. The sooner you accept yourself and stop focusing on the negative aspects the sooner you'll have more respect for yourself, thusforth people will have more respect for you. And when people have respect for you, there'll be no more being walked over. Make sure you put yourself first, that's very important for people with low self esteem to do. Otherwise you'll find yourself being walked over on a regular basis. Not only will people respect you more because of that because they perceive value in you, but you'll find yourself getting more done, and people getting more things done for you. Forget the face. Focus on what you want strongly and feel it like it's true. it'll come true. It's a law of the universe. As for friends, success, and happiness in this life. There's a simple rule. Get up, Get out, and Do Something. The more you make of your life, the more people will want to be a part of it. That goes for women, business, and life in general. Focus on self improvement for all things come from within therefore after you fix the inner, the outer will take care of itself.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=csiAsbPxmmY
2006-09-27 14:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋