Okay, so I was on a second date with this guy, and I kissed him, but I didn't French kiss him (French kissing sounds kind of gross). And it was my first kiss, too (it wasn't just one kiss, it was a bunch of them, but it was just lip kisses). And then when I saw him again a couple of days later, I just hugged him (I only saw him for like five minutes). I don't think I'd be comfortable doing anything more, but I don't want him to get bored with me and think I'm too prim or something.
He's older than me (he's almost twenty-one and I'm eigthteen) and I know he's already gone all the way, but I plan to wait until I'm married. Not for religious reasons or anything, I just believe in saving myself for my husband. I don't want him to lose interest in me, but I don't want to go against my beliefs, either! Help!
2006-09-27 13:41:13 · 8 answers · asked by Amanda G 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
To Prim-Absolutely not!!
If he's with you only for sexual reasons you don't need him. There's plenty of girls out there (but there shouldn'e be) that will put out.
Save your virtues for whatever reason but save your virtues.
Don't worry about losing him...
Remember, if you have to compromise your principles for him or anyone else they're not worth it!!!
You're the best right?
So why settle for second best?
The guy for you is the one who will respect what you're trying to do for your marriage partner and leave all that behind until you're both ready.
Don't Back Down-
You'll end up regretting it.
2006-09-27 13:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by KIRRA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not too prim. You have a strong set of morals, and you're not alone in that - plenty of women still wait until marriage. If you want to wait, he should be willing to wait for you. If not, he doesn't deserve you. If he loses interest in you because you don't want to have sex before marriage, he's into you for the wrong reasons.
But I have to wonder - are you *really* physically attracted to him? Not wanting to kiss him, preferring to hug him is sort of a red flag - in my opinion. Maybe your resistance to getting more intimate than just a short kiss with him is due in part to the fact that you don't really think he's the right one for you? Just an idea...
2006-09-27 20:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by ValleyGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in your comfort zone.
If he pushes you to exceed your limits (whatever they might be), he cares more about his own gratification than he does you. Never be sorry to lose someone like that.
Another guy, a nice guy, will be along shortly! You'll respect yourself, and be very glad that you waited, when the BEST guy comes along!
Do what you think best, and are comfortable with, and do not concern yourself with "primness."
Be the person that YOU choose to be! :-))
2006-09-27 20:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by zen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That great you want to wait for your husband it'll be worth it, Because once you give that up you can NEVER get it back!!! If he really likes you he'll respect you. You still can have lots of fun with a guy without having sex!!!
2006-09-27 20:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by Amber1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with your beliefs, no matter what anyone else tells you. It's too bad there aren't a lot more girls, and guys for that matter, who feel as you do.
2006-09-27 20:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by eyeque195 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need help-
sounds like you handled yourself really well
Proud of you!
2006-09-27 20:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't understand that u want to wait, get rid of him!!
2006-09-27 20:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by Traveler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself. He'll respect that. If he doesn't, don't waste your time.
2006-09-27 20:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋